5 Weird Ways a Narcissist Treats Their Children

Heal After Surviving Narcissistic Parent

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Heal After Surviving Narcissistic Parent

[carparthero]

5 weird ways a narcissist parent treats their children

1-they become jealous of their own kids. they are 2-year old's in an adult body. they are threatened by the child's emotional and intellectual development.
2-they treat their kids as servants. kids exist to solely serve the parent's needs. the kids feelings, wants and needs aren't considered.
3-they control you using f.o.g. - fear, obligation, guilt. the child is expected to unconditionally tolerate poor treatment from the parent, with enthusiasm.
4-they make you as family manager. the eldest child is expected to raise the younger siblings, be the housewife, and be the emotional thermometer of the parents.
5-they will treat other kids better than they treat their own. it's done to make the child work harder for the narc parent's approval.

cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

[dv]

I lived every single thing you said.
I was made fun of, humiliated in front of and with other family members and family friends, I felt like a failure and hated myself so much. I am the eldest daughter and had to cook for a family of 9 every single day. I would stay in my room daydreaming to escape my reality and was violently smacked in the face when I was caught doing so.
I had no friends and couldn't play while all my siblings were playing outside with their friends.
I would prefer to stay home alone while my family would visit friends because I would be humiliated all the time.
My siblings were treated very differently.
I was born to serve them and that's it!

I was so quiet in school and was bullied all the time.
Teachers would say that I was too calm and would never talk.

This "ugly duckling" turned into a beautiful swan and at 30+, I discovered that my mother was jealous of me.
I will continue to RISE, RISE and RISE!❤
Thank you @danishbashir

[carparthero]

trying to leave a narcissistic family is like trying to leave a cult. the parents expect you to be an adult when you're a child and then treat you like a child when you are an adult.

i cut off my narcissistic parents at age 33 (am aged 50 now) and have not looked back. the peace of not dealing with that is priceless.

you are never obligated to deal with anyone negative even if they are family. when you do, you are actually depriving them of the opportunity to self reflect and learn their lesson.
don't wait around for that to happen though lol. from lived experience, go live your best life for yourself, bcuz you only got one life to live.

cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

[Scorpio-]

My Mom was everybody’s favorite person. Everybody loved her. She did not like me. She had everyone convinced that I was a horrible person. My whole family believed that I was ungrateful and selfish. What’s left of my family still believe it.
Thank goodness for my Sweetheart and my beautiful son, who love me.
I survived but still have wounds.
Peace be with you, brother. 🫶

[joycewerdermann]

Danish, I am so sorry you were treated badly. You didn’t deserve it. You are a wonderful person. I’m glad you are healed now, and can help others heal, too. 😘

[beastman.]

Narcissists make you feel worthless in front of others by putting you down all the time . Narcissists want others to care for them, but they will never care for others.

[kimberlee]

The worst thing about a narcissistic parent is that it makes you feel like a child into your adulthood even when you have the achievements other adults have. It makes you doubt yourself even when others see you as strong and capable.

[maryannm]

I thought it was completely normal that my family treated strangers so well. I grew up thinking that it was normal to treat your family poorly and be nice to strangers outside the family.

[jennrobi]

Took me until I was almost 50 to get to a place where I was comfortable in my own skin

[lynnwillis]

How they treat you as an adult is just as bad. They try to make you think you owe them your life and shame you for having your own.

[efsmoore]

Every single thing you say is true. It's such a cruel thing to do to your own child, there is nothing more damaging.

[PatGusoff]

I was my mother's therapist when I was 10. I knew all her aches and pains. When I complained about her telling her problems, she told me that she had to tell somebody. I never smiled when taking school pictures. She made fun of me. She was the reason. I carried her problems on my shoulders.

[bumblebee_ms]

Having two narc parents was hell on earth.

[everett]

My grandmother who raised me from the age of 10 to 18 yrs old was like that. Life was no crystal stair living in her house. My younger sister was the golden child and I was the scape goat. I was ok with it decades before I even heard the word or knew its meaning. I stood up for myself the older I got. Young or old, everyone comes to a breaking point with these people.

Though I'll always be grateful for taking us in when no one else could, no tears were shed when she died either.

[laurelmarshall]

"They will display that compassion & that love towards 'other people's children'; (but not you).. -That makes you feel like crap--What is wrong with me? Am I a burden Am I worthless? Am I not deserving of Love? What have I done wrong?"

[vanessaLanni]

May God bless you for getting through the thunder in lightning storm that you're parents put you through 😢✝️🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

[yly]

Yes, they have extreme jealousy and even hatred towards their children.
My covert malignant narc parent has done a massive smear campaign against me. They think I don't know..
I have bare minimum contact with them, and when I am in contact, I act clueless to their attitude.

[anne]

Thank you! I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear that it okay not to go to a funeral from someone who understands. Danish- you are so talented and truly remarkable. You never deserved one minute of the suffering you endured. ❤

[jennifergriffin]

A very painful reminder of how I was treated by 2 npd parents. Everything Danish is speaking of, I was subjected to as a child. And it grooms a person to then fall prey to an npd spouse. I'm finally free of them all. Yay! Time to heal. Thank you, Danish.