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[evaloss]

This women has litteraly become our big sister and I live for it

[floriellefashion]

Here’s a summary i made- hope this helps:😊

1. People with high emotional intelligence are more kind, compassionate, understanding & less selfish.

2. Realise everyone projects as what they say is a reflection of them & their life, so don’t take it personal.

3. Give people ie family the benefit of the doubt as parents act on the way they were raised/their experiences. They usually have our best interests at heart to protect us.

4. Take a pause & act in the best way rather than getting angry at a triggering comment someone says to you.

5. Everyone is trying the best they can in life, so be compassionate.

6. Transfer your thoughts onto paper to clear your mind.

7. Mistakes don’t define you. Own up to your mistakes & learn from them to do better next time.

8. Put gratitude, kindness & love to the world even if you’re not getting back at the moment.

9. If sad, take time to process them but don’t prolong the temporary emotion. Get back up & carry on.

10. Reflect on what’s the best actions you take instead of acting on ego.

11. Question the root of triggers.

12. Identify 3 things you’re grateful for everyday.

13. Don’t speak bad about others.

14. Take responsibility for your actions & don’t base them on how others treat you but how you want to show up in the world.

[jyoti]

My life goal now: be exactly like Athena 💁

[ONIONIAMTHEREASONOFTEARS]

This made me cry .This made me realise that how rude I was to people.I never wanted to be rude people . But now I am happy that I learned something today .
And that from now onwards I will be a better person for myself and others.
Thanks a lot
This really helped me ❤

[Yuna-xxku]

I hope whoever is reading this comment may you heal from the things you don't talk about ❤

[roumaissaebouaid]

as a girl who has been struggling with healing her traumas and stuff, I really feel proud because when you mentioned the traits of someone who is mature I was like wow this is so me I'm happy that I could develop my personality.

[urmom]

The “parent” part was so real ❤️ thank u tam <3

[duttaprachi]

I am a brown girl and i was getting insecure for my dark complexion becoz my guy incoherently belittled me but after watching this video i have finally got audacity to come out of something where i was just tolerated and not celebrated ..thanks for such an insightful video ❤🎉

[ilovebts]

A family member of mine teased me in front of my other relatives saying I'm so skinny and needed to eat better, i got so sad that cried a few drops in front of everyone and ran from there and then I remembered you posted a few hrs ago about emotions so I came to see this to get back up. Honestly, i feel so much better because of you, I'm so grateful you posted this video. So now I'm gonna make coffee 😂❤️

[tosin]

Self-soothing is one of the most powerful skills you can master if you have anxious attachment.

[merie]

I’ve noticed I’ve always been generally emotionally mature and never realising it, but the people that surrounded me made me doubt myself. I’m grateful to learn now that I was always on the right path 😅

[pasteeli]

As someone who's been in therapy for a year now and has seen a huge improvement in mental health, I think there are a few things you can't control: 1, your negative thoughts especially if you tend to overthink and two your emotions, and feelings. Nor can you suppress them. My therapist tells me to just learn to be with them, stay with them and live with them and remind myself that they're not dangerous, they're just there and with time... they'll eventually hold less importance and be less intense (and that's true. I'm way better). What I might think may not be reality and what I may feel, it's just a feeling that will eventually go away and I'll only make it worse if I try to control it. Acknowledge it instead. Okay, this is how I feel right now, that's okay. Let's allow myself to feel like this at the moment. Okay, this is what I think right now. But are my thoughts me? No, they're not. Are my thoughts my reality? No, they're not. What you can control though is how you choose to respond to them. As for dealing with others, I just try to remind myself that when they probably say something hurtful or are insensitive or do things that hurt me, it's nothing personal. People project all the time. When they talk to you, they probably have themselves in mind, not you. It's relieving to think that you're the centre of ONLY your world and no one else is really, truly thinking of you that much. It makes it easier to not get hurt or take things personally or not care that much about what others think and say.
Btw, I love your channel and videos. It's so motivating! Stay healthy and happy everyone 💛

[tanvi]

7 Questions
Who are you in a bad day
Stop romanticising your sad self
It’s all about discipline
Question it until you can answer it
The art of silence
Daily gratitude
Learning the difference

[harshitarokade]

i am trying to get out of my people pleaser phase because I have realized that I have been putting myself down, losing my self respect, I want to be the best in my goals, be happy for whatever I am and also cherish those real people around me ....thank you tam, you are a big sister for all of us

[ecstasy]

you know tam's videos are helping you when you slowly start identifying with and seeing yourself in athena instead of lola <3

[mirinon]

need this SO BAD right now!! Interacting with my batchmates and the way they're so NEGATIVE about everything is so grating ughhh, really wanna know how to master my emotions. Thank you Tam! ♥️✨

[ginamarieofficial]

Girlll 🔥 As an empath (where are my other fellow empaths out here?!) I have always found this surprisingly hard to do from the emotions pooling into me from outside the world. It definitely takes continual awareness to separate what’s mine and what’s not ❤

[sarateodora]

Love your vid. However, I think it’s important to note that while one does not have to dwell on certain situations, actually feeling your emotions is a big part of emotional intelligence.

You may choose what situations are your priorities in the long term, that’s true, but emotions are your body’s natural warning signals. Telling yourself that “you chose to feel that” adds unnecessary guilt. “You chose to focus on that”… well, that’s another story.

[lechantdesmots]

11:27 the problem is when the person doesn't want to learn. you are mostly right about "giving the benefit of doubt", but sometimes we can't disagree that people *actually want to harm us on purpose*. there are people who just want to make others's life a living hell, for many reasons that can explain but not justify. my own parents abused me all my life, mentally, physically, and even sexually. i tried to communicate with them with maturity many times, they just don't wanna hear it. even, they're happy to hurt me, they said it many times. "just kill yourself, we would he so relieved if you died"/"you're useless and worthless"/"you're a monster" are some things I'm hearing *everyday*. and believe me, that's just the less shocking, so imagine the rest. also, just as you i never lived a teenagehood, which traumatized me for life. plus the fact that, unlike your grandparents, they didn't do it to protect me, but so I could never experience even a single moment of happiness, they really wanted me to just give up and end my own life. and no I'm not saying this out of ego, i *know* that's their mindset, because they say it clearly.
so that's it, i just wanted to share this because I've been triggered a lot by this moment, but I really appreciate all your advices because they're really relevant and useful. plus, i know that in this moment you were talking about something general, and that my situation is very specific. however, i wont let them control my emotions and my wellbeing, i will protect my peace at all costs until I can finally move out and be safer. of course it's not easy when you're traumatized again and again on the daily basis by the people who are supposed to protect and love you, so of course I do have moments of crisis. but i try my best and i will put all my energy in healing the second i don't have to handle them anymore, so I don't become them !

[Notusinganymore]

Don't criticize, don't judge, don't monopolize the conversation talking about themselves, minimize themselves or engage in victim mentality, want to learn, flexible, forgive others and forgive themselves, they communicate, don't engage in silent treatment, open-minded , resorting to being passive aggressive , self aware, responsible, empathetic, compassionate