Moving On When Your Marriage Doesn’t | Therapy & Theology

How do I navigate the grief my family is facing after a divorce? How do I know if I’m ready to move on?

Join Lysa TerKeurst; Licensed Professional Counselor Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for conversations about how to keep moving forward in a healthy way when relationships in your life are unraveling.

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0:00 Intro
1:12 Does God hate divorce?
8:41 Lived-in theology
15:00 Adultery, abandonment, abuse
18:39 How do I heal after a divorce?
22:07 Grief after divorce
29:40 What does the Bible say about remarriage?
39:09 How do I know when I am healed?

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[ivahelf]

Hello there, New viewer here. I am so glad I found your channel. My husband just divorced me after 35 yrs. & I have been struggling with Divorce because of my Beliefs. I Thank you so much for your research & sharing your guidance. My husband made me believe all of it was my fault but your show opened my EYES!!! God Bless!!!

[BeTheLightLikeJesus]

Thank you for this. I have been struggling tremendously. My husband left me on Christmas due to his drug use, didn’t talk to me for weeks until he needed money. My “friends” told me I didn’t have any biblical ground for divorce and said if I did get a divorce I couldn’t be in ministry or get remarried. Broke my heart into even more pieces. 2023 was a year from hell because of his addiction. I have been listening to this everyday to help me move forward with this divorce.

[aussiebushhomestead]

I have been in this horrible marriage for 34 years because I believed that the only reason God allowed divorce was due to infedelity. 😢 Thank you for this session.

[rissag]

This episode is saving lives. After 3 years of separation I suffered through emotional and verbal abuse because I felt soo guilty to give up. I filed finally today. I wish our church studied this deep into the hebrew wording or that text. Thank you Lysa .

[alisonjohnson]

The part about celebrating and getting to know yourself is so important. I went to Barbados to celebrate my 60th on my own. God provided everything I needed, and He took me on another part of my healing journey. He is a good, good Father.

[audreybolling]

As a divorced woman I think part of the healing is acceptance of the reality or situation.

[pdt]

Currently going through divorce and this video speaks to my heart so much. It was never my desire to go through this, even after he committed adultery I was willing to work on us and the marriage. But he chose her over me and our two young children. My heart hurts still but God is good, even in the valley.

[sherryclark]

I learned a long time ago to enjoy my own company - healing process must begin there...

[tinabrooks]

Thank you for clarifying, I have allowed myself to be held captive with the understanding divorce is not allowed. My husband is a minister/ narcissist, he uses the Bible/ scripture as a weapon to keep me in this marriage. The lies, gaslighting, manipulation, has been consistent for 4 years. I believe there is healing for me. I have detached myself from this marriage,
Because I know that he will not take responsibility for anything that brought this marriage to a place of destruction.

[joskeffington]

Thank you for this; it has helped me with some of the “guilt of divorce” and sure others too. At age 60 after 36 years of marriage, I was presented with divorce papers and obviously stunned. Yet a year later as I’m now healing and choosing to move across the country to be close to family and live alone, I see how God has been protecting/ guiding me all along. I know God has a plan for me as He has for you; He will never leave me. Thank you for your work.

[lisahindle]

34 years of secrets, lies, abandonment, talk of divorce and now I'm enduring religious abuse and more abandonment from friends/family/pastors - their well-intentioned advice is like layers of toxic, heavy lava smothering what little life is left in me ... and to date is THE worst, gut-wrenching experience besides finding out the double life my husband has lived.
Lysa, Jim and Joel, I cannot thank you enough for bringing these topics to light where God can do HIS healing in me. Through your podcasts, I feel like I can see a Promised Land. I am finding the courage to walk into my healing. Keep going, you are making a difference in the church!
I'm so deeply grateful. Shalom

[mariethompson]

I have done the work!! All of it!!! I do want love again one day. A Godly Man who loves Jesus !!! But as for now I'm with Jesus and he makes me whole!!!!

[marthaniblett]

When he spoke about HR meeting the board this came to my mind.

HR human Resources = HR Healing Room

[scruffy]

I had 2 friends that chose NOT date again until their children were grown and out of the home. One of them was more than financially stable and so happy with her freedom from oppression, and she was so involved with her children that I think she had no NEED to invite a man back into her life. Her life was so full and I think she just didn't have time to concentrate on yet ANOTHER relationship in her life. Her children were her focus. Period. Their spiritual growth was the most important thing to her. A bad marriage affects the children so much in so many ways and she just wanted to right the wrong that she felt she had allowed to go on for so many years. She did a great job and God blessed her life soooo much. It is incredible how good her life has been. She is very independent and very focused on her spiritual life, helping others find joy and what her mission for God is. Our mission is NOT to be married is it? I don't believe it is. It is nice to have a partner that is headed in the same direction but if that partner is not headed in a good direction? She used to say, in relation to "dating' again, that she already had 4 children and they kept her busy enough, she did not need another "child". I used to think that was so funny but so true. God is so good and he knows are needs. Trust him to take care of them. God Bless all.❤👍🏻

[angelam.]

Dr. Joel is such an addition to this program. Love his contributions!!!

[darlenegoray]

I’m feeling so validated after watching this. Thank you for allowing God to use you.

[angealexandra]

Wow such an eye opener 👏 conversations, we usually stay too long, so comes alot of grief and regrets 💔, and also how to exit in a toxic relationship, thinking about one's stability and how to navigate through, when we leave, but the truth of the matter is there is no formula in leaving a bad or unhealthy marriage, reach out to family and loved ones and God will surely make a way, where there seems to be no way.

[Pathway-xhqx]

Oh, thank you for the explanation about Pharaoh- first part Pharaoh hardened his own heart. Your start out- to better fullness understanding that divorce is a wide lens of people idolatry (also abuser-narcissists) that God hates- James 4:4 you (adulterers & adultereresses) love of the world is enmity with God.

[tinarobinson]

Thank yall for this! Im getting ready to file for a divorce after holding on for years. My husband is an alcoholic, emotionally, verbal abusive, & doesn't believe in God. He tries to pull me away from Christ. I thought if i tried hard enough that i could lead him to Christ but i cant let him pull me down with him any longer. 😢

[DailamiPuang]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her