My Partner Avoids Difficult Conversations and Lies to Avoid Conflict, Relationships Made Easy

My Partner Avoids Difficult Conversations and Lies to Avoid Conflict, Relationships Made Easy Podcast with Dr. Abby Medcalf, Ask Dr. Abby, Ep. 156 / Are you finding it hard to trust and connect with your partner because they avoid difficult conversations or lie to you about how they're really feeling to avoid upsetting you? Does your husband lie to you about how he’s feeling? Does your wife avoid talking about difficult things? Or maybe your spouse has a hard time opening up emotionally. Then today's show is for you! I'm answering another question from a listener with this exact problem and giving my top tips for creating connection!

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[garyzornow]

Hello, I am the person who lies to avoid conflict. Over the years I find that I think every conversation is difficult and with that I dislike being in conversations other than answering yes or no question. I often find that I lie to avoid causing others discomfort or to avoid explaining my self. Explaining often leads to more questions and conversation. I often feel like i am being corrected on what I say so I would rather say nothing.
I don’t start discussions, no initiating there by no conversations. No openness or honest, brings about loneliness. That’s no way to be married.

[lucyloo]

This is the most helpful video on the internet, I need to watch your other videos!

[yohannygaij]

What do I do if I’m the one avoiding confrontation and conflict in a relationship? Many times when me and my partner have conflict I go silent and I wanna know how am I suppose to break out of that cycle.

[weaverlance]

Can I just say that the amount of personal sharing in this video makes it probably the most powerful therapy video I've seen yet.

I'm 44, and I don't trust the 25-35 year olds out there giving all their therapy advice any farther than I could throw them. But with you, I'm listening to not only a mature adult, but someone who continually is dipping into lived life experience in ways that prove to me that you've been there too. You've walked the line. You've worked through the same issues and you actually have relevant insight to give me that isn't just a bunch of textbook bullshit. Anyway, I don't comment often, but just wanted to thank you for the vulnerability and let you know how much more it allows me to trust you.

[clintongarner]

I've been listening to your podcast on Spotify for a few months now and would like to say thank you for everything. My life isn't perfect but I am learning better ways to approach all of my relationships.

[rebeccalevenson]

Omg..so this is a 1yr ago and i just happen to choose to click this video topic coz i am in a decision stage regarding my separation with my DA husband.. and lo and behold you chose the name REBECCA..!! So now i feel this is such a serendipitous moment 😊

[rosaryflood]

When u discover at first in your relationship lies for avoidance
Then its plays into disrespect
Or entitlement
Superiority
In relationship
As you have children
And one spouse becomes the “ bread winner”
The bread winner is the No boundary parent “
I could go deeper and deeper w this as how this can get severely
dangerous with raising children in abusive relationships . Point is when I listen to podcasts discuss relationships many xs it’s not about a family dynamic or children involved . A avoidance man can lead into a Disney dad .A avoidance man who is the bread winner can
lead into a divide destroy parent . Lying is lying !
When we make reasons for lying
And as u said
Come to where they are
Meet them
Ask them what they want in a relationship “
When they don’t want a relationship if they lie about little things is insanity!
I’m sorry !
This is ridiculous thinking !
False sense of intimacy Isn’t a relationship !
A liar is a liar and it will only get worse and worse until you become completely insane !!
Giving of yourself to a liar when they never will be who they are to be to you is insanity making !
This may seem harsh but this is reality!

[SuperTheGD]

connect to correct, You got me at meet him where he is, what do you want to see more of in our relationship, if you felt super loved every day by me what things would I be say, when have you felt the most appreciated by me, what was I doing what was I saying?

[DIAMONDGIRL]

I brought up an issue that had bothered me and states “he doesn’t remember” and gave reasons why discussing difficult issues affects his health.

[gracelikerain]

I realize I do this and I need to change the man I'm dating has brought to my attention I run away from serious convos and he's right but I feel like I have problems understanding other people's feelings and that's why I leave

[gal]

we came back together after a crisis and a break that took almost 3 months. during our first time he was the perfect boyfriend and never avoided the hard convos and even encourage me to talk, now he avoids them.. why?

[EdG-rndk]

I have found myself in avoidance ith ny wife solely to avoid conflict. I feel this is compromise. Is this an issue ?

[crazydrunk]

My friend is cheating on her husband with multiple people and I don't know what to do. Please help!

[christianbreau]

Why women like serious conversation?? Thats the problem