How to stop arguing with your partner--in just minutes | Roderick Jeter | TEDxSanDiego

Why Be Angry? You can settle most any disagreement with the one you love is just minutes. No Fuss No Drama. Rod’s game approach helps couples overcome seemingly insurmountable disagreements that have lasted decades, in just minutes - NO FUSS NO DRAMA.

[WilliamStone-kp]

I’ve known Roderick for many years. He was always the calmest guy in any situation. I am glad to see, him succeeding in developing this conflict resolution tool for the world. Good job my friend, sharing your compassion with the world.

[eviep]

I have learned that for me, at least, ego and pride gets on the way of most arguments. Once I understood that and kept my ego/pride out of it, I can pretty much resolve any issue with a clearer mind and greater openness. Life is so short.

[W_Bin]

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focus on a single issue of disagreement.
reduce that issue into a simple yes or no question
both write down reasons to support yes or no answer
1 person reads the most important detail that they have written down.
Without debating person 2 repeats back in their own words what they believe person 1 means. ("what you're saying is, you would like...")
Person 2 will then ask is that right.
Person 1 says yes or no.
Person 2 responds to what person 1 MEANS. (Not what person 2 thinks person 1 means)
They continue focussing on this detail and the remaining details, 1 detail at a time, until the issue is resolved

processing the detailing writing slows communication giving them both time to think and respond thoughtfully (much more effective than the quick emotional response that often happens in disagreements)

[stevintwiggs]

This was the most impressive video that I have watched in a long time. This stuck with me like glue” The relationship must win or you both lose. That was a eye grabber that will gain the attention of many. Rod you are making a difference in the lives of many individuals keep up the great work I'm proud of you

[fairygurl]

Anger is a Sign of Pain or Fear Of It.

*Much Compassion & Respect

[ewalichorowicz]

A good sense of humor can disarm any conflict. Laughing together is fun and helps people relax, so the issue dissolves. I like what you said: "the relationship has to win or you both lose". Thank you so much for the giggles!

[aprilperkins]

Awesome. This is exactly what my marriage is in need of. Ways to be able to communicate to resolve issues without elevated attitudes.

[alvahamilton]

We often hear but don’t listen. We sometimes listen but don’t understand. Rod Jeter’s YB Angry techniques helps couples remove barriers to meaningful communication. If there is even a smidge of care, compassion and commitment in the relationship, I believe these techniques are fail proof. The RELATIONSHIP wins! Well done!

[IntraAwareness]

Internal healing makes a person feel comfortable in their own body and more calm & connected with everyone around them. It all starts inside! 💛

[detectiveback]

I tried this with my narcissistic ex during our relationship and it didn't work. This technique works assuming the relationship itself is healthy sadly

[audreyjacobs]

Such a powerful way to present a simple idea that can save America. Thank you.

[pepsteruncini]

In the Marriage Clinic by John Gottman, having studied couples for 30 years, they found that resolving conflict is NOT determinant for couples staying together or having a great relationship. They say that fixes like this normally work for a little bit, but the day-to-day is harder. Most couples that stay together have unresolved conflicts. Things like learning how to repair and accept each other's bids to restore the relationship during and after an argument are more important than "Resolving" conflicts.

This is still a great tool, but he overpromises at the beginning with his intro.

[RowansApothecary]

This is called active listening, and it is integral in communication. I learned this when studying neuro-linguistic programming and cognitive behavioral therapy.

[laarnidr]

The speaker talks about when things are good at home you can bring that good vibe/energy to work. Well, it’s the other way around too. When you’re too stressed and burned out from work it is hard to show up and give the best version of yourself at home.

[joycewilliams]

Great talk! This technique teaches active listening which is the key to maintaining a good relationship.

[dominiqueadevereaux]

Good job Dad!!! Congratulations❤ Proud of you! 🎉

[CMS_]

Wow! So happy I found this video. I pray this works. We love one another so much but the arguing is destroying us 😥

[argeonmcwilson]

Excellent tool to learn how to communicate with your partner. People must want to fix their marriage and the issues in order for it to work. It’s a start to something that could beautiful when a marriage/relationship is worth working for. Both parties have to be willing to explore this. Great tool! I’ve played the game and have referred to others. It’s definitely a game changer.

[MRkperyto]

It's an easy solution. The main issue is how to make it happen. How to convince the other half to talk and not to argue and how to stay patient and strong when not everything goes as planned.

[CeTeraLee]

This is absolutely amazing and I feel like if people really sit down and take the time to do it, it will help a lot more people’s relationship! 😊 this was really good unc