Should You Break Up or Stay Together After Sexual Sin Occurs in a Christian Dating Relationship?

What should a Christian dating couple do if they are struggling with sexual sin? Should they breakup if they have premarital sex? Should they stay together if they fall to “lesser” sexual sins other than premarital sex? What does repentance look like for a Christian dating couple who has fallen to sexual temptation? Here are three Christian tips if sexual sin has occurred in a dating relationship.

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[PrestigeWorldWide]

I took the first option. When my wife and I first dated, we both knew we loved each other. It was more natural for me to be myself with her, then anyone else. We both burned with passion for each other. Rather than wait and upset the Lord, we got married after dating for 6 months. Going on 16 years now with two beautiful children. Despite us making mistakes, the Lord offered us a way to make it right and we listened. He has blessed us with two children, who I can’t imagine life without. Where I’ve failed in faith, He’s been faithful. Where I am weak, He is strong. Our culture says wait until your older and financially secure to get married. This isn’t natural. Our bodies tell us it’s. Or natural. OUR HORMONES tell us it’s not natural and our ability to have healthy pregnancies diminishes as we age. We were broke when we got married, but God made a way because we obeyed.

[TheRealJohnSouth]

I think God brought me to this video for a purpose. This has served as a reminder to honor and respect my woman. Thank you.

[nicolascotteire]

Myself and my fiancé were sinning but now we’ve both turned to Jesus and abstaining while we plan our wedding

[mowebster]

If marriage isn’t an option...break it off. You will get hurt from not guarding your heart and that’s a whole different pain to heal from

[vanessagonzalez]

I agree as well! It’s very hard to live by the Word but I honestly think Gods word helps protects your heart, mind, and body. Saying No to sex to guys I have dated who are “Christian” has saved me from heartache and wasting time on the wrong person.

[nolufefemdingi]

I realise after going through the comments that this video is 6years old and it just confirms how the word of God will always be relevant...thank you for this insight and am blessed that the Holy Spirit convicted us and now we are on a renewed journey in honoring God and know over the past year of repenting and being intentional God will be glorified in the end of the it all.

[lelobteka]

the problem is the more we stayed together we started to break some of the boundaries. and finally we gave in. we were still in school so we promised eachother it willnot happen again. and the more we tried to stop our self the more it became impossible. finally we broke it of! and 6 month back we came back. we are engaged now. the problem was we broke the boundaries we had. so now we implemented strict boundaries for ourselves

[layoe]

I was beginning to drown in self guilt and thinking murder thoughts. It really destroyed my relationship with God
Thanks for this message! I've broken up with him and decided to focus on God
I started reading the book you recommended by Redeemed like David 🙏🏼

[rosem.]

I agree 100% with all points. With option #3 (taking time off ) I think it is a good solution because the distance apart will confirm if this is the person you want to marry-they say distance makes the heart grow fonder. Also, it is an opportunity to take some time with the Lord to pray and fast(after repentance ) to hear God's voice and make sure that the other person is the one God wants you to marry and if it is the right time to do so. Sexual attraction and the "want" to marry can sometimes fog ones vision. Best let God clear it up. 🤓 Btw Mark...HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

[KoziRootz]

Aloha,
I’m stoked you did a video on this topic, it seems like sometimes people think this is taboo to have conversation about. Sometimes people fall short of the glory and need to hear that the world isn’t over. Mahalo for being honest and humble with the options I agree with all of them and I think you did a good job articulating each one. Please do more videos on topics like these, our generation could really use the guidance without the pride and perfection of Christian performance.

[goodvibes]

The major concern I have in this— “Leading to Marriage” if a couple failed to keep the abstinence from sex is People end up “Marrying for the Wrong Reasons” then end up having Failed Marriages and Others being Miserable for so many

People who lack Discernment. People who are slowly or just beginning to Grow-in-Christ, may end up marrying a Narcissist or Sociopath. There are so many of them out wether it’d be a supposedly “Christian”.

Other Christians may end up— Marrying for the wrong reasons for the sake of sexual desire. But, not have— A Godly and Biblical Marriage.

To be Married— you have to be Ready!
You have to be the Right Person (First)—
— for one another.
People get Married and they are not even ready to be A Good/Godly Husband/Wife at all.

People get involved in Relationships just because they want company. They don’t want to be alone. They like the concept of having somebody there by their side or for them.
And— the notion of being in A Relationship= Happiness.

I believe, that if a couple unfortunately crossed that That they should Truly “REPENT”. Doesn’t need to Break Up, unless the Other or Both of them continue to Struggle.

You should NEVER—— get Married
for the Wrong Reasons.
Marriage is A Commitment!!!
Marrying A Person who is not Equally-Yoke
with You leads to Suffering and Unhappiness!!!
The Person you end up— Marrying
will have TREMENDOUS Affect in Your Life:
Health. Mind. Emotions. Personal-Relationship
with GOD. Finances, etc.


I could ONLY HOPE—— for Others to Grow in Discernment through Christ.

Be Blessed and GOD



By the I HIGHLY Recommend
that you WATCH 📺 (his Other VIDEO):
“12 Reasons NOT TO HAVE SEX Before Marriage”

A GREAT Blessing or Assurance and ENCOURAGEMENT 😇

[waygirly]

I think making a plan to not commit sexual sin is also helpful. That way you don’t rush into marriage and don’t continue to commit sin.

[avondalemama]

Great reminders. I have tried to teach my girls this. One is 26, and the other is 31, both are lovely.

[indriadrayton]

Never thought I would find myself here!

[latreases.jonesjr.]

Thank you Mark. I wish my ex could have seen this last month. After he broke up with me God directed me to fast for 3 months so I can fully commit myself to Him. That is what I am doing.

[jasminesantiago]

I’m a pastors kid, which means I’m quite about these topics. How can I speak openly when the pastor is my parent and when my parent is my pastor. This HELPED me so much! God bless

[RG-ovcm]

Why is this not preached more often? Im wondering why most of the messages that I hear implies that you should be an overcomer in this arena before you are "worthy" of getting married, thus you should break up. From what I understand, Paul is saying one should marry if they are struggling. But most people would preach and go the other direction where they wait before they dont struggle anymore before they can say that yep I can marry. It's like, Im dirty, but I want to be clean first before Im worthy to take a bath.


Pastor Mark, why do people emphasize breaking up instead of balancing their message with a word about marriage?

[angloaust]

Paul said if They cannot exercise self control let
Them marry!

[Julz]

Thank you I had to make boundaries because our kissing got out of had, I asked to wait until marriage which my boundaries wasn't respected, so I had to beak it off and also flee from sexual sin.

[wyattandwill]

Be aware before breaking up with someone you've had sex with that there's a high possibility of thinking of that person during relations when you move on and marry someone else. Even thinking of someone sexually is a sin, so my suggestion is to marry the person you've had relations with. I pray that everyone who isn't a virgin has only had it with one person or is very moved on from past sexual relations. Jesus has a way out: sex can be for building up your relationship and honoring God if in marriage, not just to be in sin and be wicked!