How To Successfully Break Up With Someone

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In this week's episode of LOVELife, I discuss how to break up with someone. It might be someone you still love, or that you don't see a future with, but it's never easy. Here are my thoughts to help you get through the tough time and keep arguments and heartache to a minimum.

Video links at the end -

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[MK_Ultra]

Its so difficult when you know you're going to be responsible for hurting someone you genuinely care about because they are good people. Whether you met someone else, just dont think you have the capacity for them in your life or whatever the issue is. When you know you will hurt them it hurts you but it has to be done.

[lynnc]

It sounds silly but I recorded a video on my phone of me talking about my feelings and why I have made the decision to leave. After our breakup I would revisit that video and it helped me alot

[wasnae]

"Don't give many reasons" is absolotuly amazing. People tend to focus on the weakest arguments. Thanks! Wish me good luck.

[joamaziah]

When it comes to deciding whether you should leave a toxic relationship or not you gotta ask yourself do i want to die once from the breakup or die everyday staying with them.

[MyMEGAamazinglife]

I burst into tears because it's so fucking hard to do! I love him to bits but the relationship is way too much hard work and I know he doesn't love me as much as he pretends he does... he just doesn't want to be alone. He doesn't look after me or try to protect me. I need to look after myself...

[EllieJM]

Im dreading breaking up with my boyfriend. I have a speech written and im so nervous....just hard to tell someone you care about that you dont think you are right for eachother

[rahmarae]

I'm the one wanting to break up and it breaks my heart.

[eelyssafischer]

I ENDED A LONG RELATIONSHIP ABOUT 4 MONTHS AGO AGTER GOING BACK AND FORTH WITH MUSELF FOR MONTHS.. AND SPECIFICALLY CAME BACK TO TELL YOU ALL THAT IT WILL WORK OUT!! Trust me sis, it is the most god awful painful thing you will experience. But I’m here to tell you that after 4 months I am the happiest and healthiest version of myself possible. You can do this!!!

[patriciahopey]

After 20 years of marriage i told my husband I needed to be on my own. My strongest case was It was time.He agreed he wanted to be on his own. No anger .no accusation. Calm. I'm leaving not only the home, I'm leaving the province I've lived in for 55 years. An alcoholic, a real narcissist a man on a 40 year quest. I've let go of my past and look to my future. THAT is hope. 3 cheers from Canada

[nastialover]

I'm so glad you shared this right now. I am about to drive up to see my boyfriend of a year and a half and end things. He hasn't done anything wrong, and I love him, but I need to be alone right now. I'm so sad and conflicted but hearing your advice is comforting. It's not easy.

[graveserpent]

At some angles he looks like Daniel Radcliffe wtf why is Harry Potter giving me love advice

[anewloveofficial]

It's never easy to break up with someone but it's more painful than staying in a relationship where both of you are no longer happy. Just tell the truth because that's the only thing that will set you free.

[mmommo]

I'm a paralegal. I learned on the job when presenting your case to the Court, ONLY offer 2-3 of your strongest points to tell the initial story in the complaint.

[josephmeetstravel]

It was the most difficult thing, but I had to break up with my fiancee a little over 6 months ago. We were together for 2 years, mostly long distance because I live in Japan and she lived in Texas. We would always make a trip to visit each other. She stayed for almost the whole summer before and I visited her family in Texas and asked for her hand. Everyday away was spent on the phone talking to her. But I just knew she wasn't the one after I proposed. We fought so much and I questioned our friendship sometimes. I realized that my feelings for her were gone when I came too. After she left from staying with me for a month in Japan, I called her and broke up with her. It was so difficult and yes she begged me back. I took this advice from the video and held my ground. I knew it was right for us both and she couldn't see that. After a week, I began to question if it was the right thing to do. I was feeling lonely. I would always think back to those reasons as to why I broke up with her and then I would keep on going strong with my decision. After a month, my attitude changed at work with my students and fellow cowokers. People began complimenting me on a positive attitude change. I had a glow about me and I seemed different and more passionate and fun people would tell me at work. No one had any idea I broke up with my ex. It showed me I made the right decision. I was happier. Every day I decided to move on and do different things. I am glad that I broke up with my ex even though I broke her heart or "ruined her year, and her dreams of getting married, " as she put it. Her family hated me after that. It was a sacrifice for my happiness. I knew I did the right thing when I made the most difficult decision but feel way happier after doing it. Good luck ladies and gentlemen. Don't rob yourself of your own happiness. Nobody is in charge of your happiness but you.

[Sunshine]

Thank you for this. You have addressed my biggest issue about breaking up. It's hard to admit, but I believe I am one who wants to be "the saint". I can't stand to see anyone hurt., especially when I feel responsible. You mentioned that that way of thinking is a bit narcissistic. I never looked at it that way before. Thank you for pointing that out.

[bassgodgandhi]

This is some solid advice Matt, looking forward to my next break up :)

[deheyyo]

"be careful because when we get lonely, we can end up making the wrong decisions"

This is me, fight for nothing for 2 years and touture myself, ending up losing myself, my happiness and my life. Stay strong.. you are not alone okay. Its easier said than done, but love yourself first, that is very important!

[ChocoIand]

Timing is evil sometimes .. you meet the right guy in a totally wrong time and have to say your goodbyes then lots of guys shows up but you never can find anyone like that guy. And I always wonder why not that I am stuck wondering but I wonder why it happened this way? Or if I will ever meet someone that is just going to take his position in my heart .. why will I always love him the most? why he entered a place in my heart no one did before or after :/ .. love is a mystery sometimes.

[f.a]

After watching this.. I know exactly what I should say tomorrow.

[MrCrazyNinjadude]

I am about to break up with someone for the first time in my life, and I wanted to say thank you for this great video.