7 Tips to Overcome Social Anxiety or Social Phobia

For a sufferer of social anxiety or social phobia, even just thinking about meeting or mingling with others can bring feelings of panic, leading to them avoiding seeing people altogether.

In this video I'll share 7 quick and easy tips you can use to make social situations more comfortable, aimed at helping you to gradually overcome social anxiety disorder.

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Key points in this video:
00:00 Introduction
00:31 Social phobia causes panic
02:16 How do I get rid of social phobia?
03:23 Start of my 7 tips for building social confidence
03:36 Tip 1. Prepare to relax
04:30 Tip 2. Seek out social situations
05:46 Tip 3. Look at your surroundings
06:59 Tip 4. Ask questions
07:55 Tip 5. Switch off your imagination
09:04 Tip 6. What *do* you want?
10:34 Tip 7. On being yourself

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[xeropunt]

After some traveling, I came back relaxed, confident & overconfident even. Micro interactions along the way, or at places where you leave & never see them again, or them seeing you, gives a more experimental sense of adventure. A noncommittal/disposable freedom, as it were. You try different approaches/reactions & find human commonality & more of what you actually like. You burn up pent up nervous energy & generate more social energy/endurance...

[jolte]

I love how scientifically you break down these very complex and individualized struggles!

[niewieder]

How this channel doesn’t have more views/subscribers is fascinating to me.

Keep up the good work 😊

[tannerhagen]

What’s people’s take on virtual reality in assisting in PTSD? I know it is not related to the title, but perhaps it may also assist in social phobia as well where people create avatars and engage with people before taking to the streets. I assume Mark’s position, if I may call him by his first name, would be a bit dubious for the former as for the latter I think it has some potentiality. Thoughts?

[emilymurphy]

you are beyond helpful and reassuring <3 thank you sir

[pauale]

I just ran out of the gym right now I’m in my car crying cus wtf is wrong with me?!? 😅🙈 I can go to the gym with my sister, a friend or my son but alone I obviously can’t I ran I just can’t I had people staring at me and I didn’t know where to hide it felt so uncomfortable I can’t believe I’m crying an adult woman with a 13 year old son crying cus I can’t be in a social environment without people I know to make me feel comfortable 😅🙈🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m such a wierdo, awkward as hell It sucks

[ranc]

First of all social phobia is archaic term. IT was replaced in mid 1990s when CBT "experts" discovered that it is not phobia at all - which means it does not go away with exposure, as any phobia does go away with repeated exposure to feared object.

This panic is actually Complex Trauma. It is complex version of PTSD.
Panic is amygdala hijacking and Emotional Dysregulation - it is important to notice that - because Mayo Clinic defines panic as hallucination and that there is nothing to fear.
Trauma is not fear. Trauma is being exposed to psychopaths and abuse over long period of time at repeated intervals.
So it has nothing to do with willpower as ableist CBT explains and brainwash us into false explanations that we are simply "over-sensitive".

"Social phobia" is not related to social situations.
We do not get panicked because of normal and kind and safe people.
"Social phobia" panic will come due to toxic people and predators. So we are not problem as CBT gaslight us.
Social "phobia" stems from ACoA and ACE - which means we have high skills to detect fake people.

So idea to become relaxed with potential serial killers is really really bad advice.
Instead of relax - I would not fight our alarms going on due to abnormal and sick and evil people who trigger us into social "phobia".

Instead of gaslighting us into relaxation - I would rather transform this "relaxation" by becoming Sherlock Holmes and look for clues what bothers us about people who trigger social anxiety panic triggers. Like a detective. Or another analogy is being scientist in a lab - that we detect new viruses. Being curious.

If we go with CBT ableism - where we suppress our emotions - this will end up as mental illness and personality disorder.
When we distrust our gut feelings - we will end up with toxic shame.

5:49
"Look at your surroundings"
"Socially anxious people focus inwards"
That is shyness, as you said in the video.
You are talking here about shyness. NOT social anxiety.
You mix up shyness with social anxiety.

Socially anxious focus on other people. They notice what other people do, act, they focus in detail on other people - due to expectation of aggression and attack - which is similar to the original trauma which caused social anxiety trauma.

This video is worthless, it is talking about shyness.
Whereas shy people will expose to social situations - and their shyness will naturally go away.


What bothers me about videos like this is that it gives wrong information about social anxiety - and that is narcissistic abuse: gaslighting and brainwashing into false explanation of reality. You are doing incredible psychological damage to socially anxious people who look for honest and genuine help - and get this shy nonsense described here - which will make socially anxious worse, since shyness is not the same as social anxiety.

[uncommon-knowledge]

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