Regular relationship problems vs. narcissistic relationship problems

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[MamacitaSte]

I LEFT HIM, I FINALLY DID !!! HOORAY 👏👏👏🎉🎉🎉 and yes, this channel hase give me the strength and when it gets though, i watch one of those videos again and i feel a little stronger again. Thanks u so so much!!!!

[elizabethhuang]

Normal relationship: trusting your partner to make the right choices for both of you.
Narcissistic relationship: knowing that your partner will make the right choices for himself/herself only.

[JC-buvl]

Emotional abuse is very sneaky. You don't even realize it is happening to you until you crash mentally or the abuse becomes very scary.

[Warriorsfan]

You never feel completely safe enough to just be yourself. Even on "good" days, you watch what you say and how you say it.

[evilpixiedance]

Normal, stable relationships, even if they don't work out, are not exhausting, draining, and soul crushing like a relationship with a narcissist.

[p.w.]

In a regular relationship both parties act like adults, the feelings of both parties matter, both will admit when they are wrong, and there will be no verbal or physical abuse. Abuse is NOT normal and never justifiable.

[NarcSurvivor]

Narcissistic relationship problems are far more extreme and far more damaging to your health.

[mainowlin]

A narcissistic relationship is on a whole different level of conflict. There can never be any resolution to these conflicts. It’s pure hell.

[scarabify]

How buoyant did I feel in my next relationship when she apologised, admitted she was wrong and thanked me for talking it through so she could see it from another perspective.
An apology? Not being blamed? Not being told how reality actually is?
It's so weird but awesome.

[misse]

What drives me crazy is when people say, "well it takes two to tango". Somehow implying that I am responsible for bringing about abusive behavior. There's one to add to the proverb list!

[panfried]

"it's just a regular relationship problem" - until you wake up 2 decades later and realize your relationship has not changed for the better but for the worse. You've become a shell of yourself bordering on losing everything about "you".

IMHO, narcissistic abuse MUST be included in the high school curriculum to bring the younger generation the knowledge and awareness that such vile people do exist and can essentially rob you of life. Give the younger generation a better chance to live a "normal" un-abused life.

[gigibtsurvivor]

“Oh, that’s just him being a guy.”
“All men do that. He’s just having fun. Don’t be so hard on him.”
“He’s just going through a mid-life crisis. Give him space. He’ll come around.”
So much of my experience was couched in unhealthy, societal misogyny.

[camilar]

Somehow, i dont "care " anymore about people who dont get it, good for them. I just cant loose my time any longer trying to explain or looking for validation. Life is to short for that. It feels lonely but here i am holding hands with you all (from all over the world). It is a universal public health issue, Good to be able to talk about it and to listen to.. thank you Dr. RAMANI for the knowledge and this space.

[markyanes]

My wife was in a toxic relationship for fifteen years before I met her. She was so trauma bonded to her ex that it was difficult for her to leave the relationship. Thank you so much for helping me to understand why she had a hard time leaving that relationship. Your work is indispensable to the understanding of these relationships. You are a gift. Thank you again.

[nicoletaylor]

Only someone who had lived through the insanity of a relationship with a Narcissistic Relationship can fully understand how detrimental and insidious it truly is. I was stuck for 18 years, lost everything... my family, money, friends, freedom, health and sanity. I lost the very essence of my being, I became a person I did not even I could tell you all the "craziest" stories of what I lived. Narcissist is the new "in word", people use it FAR too loosely. 5 Years free now, rebuilt my life the best I could for myself and my daughters, but there is still residual trauma in all of us. Thank you Dr. Ramani for spreading awareness of dealing with a person who has "true" Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

[stephanie]

There is no peace in narcissistic relationships. It’s a constant cycle of good days and bad days. A narcissistic relationship has no team spirit - there is no “us”, it’s you vs them.
In contrast, a healthy relationship feels like home, a soft place to land. It fills your cup instead of draining it. Spending time with your partner feels refreshing, not exhausting. When issues come up, there is a genuine interest in correcting them instead of gaslighting, devaluing and minimizing.
I was married to a narcissist for many years and whenever I complained about his behaviour, I would hear “no one is perfect, he just doesn’t know any better, maybe you should try xyz, it’s a guy thing, or give it time.”

[richellesutton]

The "all relationships are hard" rhetoric kept me in my abusive relationship for way longer than I wanted to stay. Gaslighting myself... sigh...
Thank you for being a guiding light in the recovery process ❤

[danielpoole]

You have given me a superpower Dr Ramani. When the smear campaign started I stayed strong and I finally got to see who my real friends were. Without your videos I’d never have been able to understand what was happening to me. Thank you for everything you gorgeous human! ❤️❤️

[ssully]

“He is the nicest guy I’ve ever met. You are over sensitive and needy. Your relationship sounds normal to me.” One therapist told him he isn’t responsible for my emotions and he’s doing nothing wrong. That’s when I stopped sharing my marital struggles and stayed in the narcissistic relationship. I truly believed I wasn’t doing enough and the disfunction was my fault.

[SDubThe-illis]

I have been told my whole life that "all families have problems, " I understand this now is enabling. The person who sees and speaks the truth, ends up internalizing this pain. Extremely hard on the body.