Narcissistic Father or Mother: Why They Can’t Stand You

In this video, I uncover the truth about why your narcissistic parent rejected you and couldn't stand you.

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Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, has helped 10,000s of people heal from family dysfunction and become the true self they were never allowed to be. As a family systems and self-differentiation coach, he leverages 45 years of experience to help clients permanently break free from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships, and build a strong sense of self.

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[jerrywise]

Finally get your family OUT OF YOU & be the true self you were never allowed to be 👇

[khadijahnyabinghi]

They are our first bullies and we are so scared of them when we are children. The physical and verbal abuse is nerve racking.

[SteveJones]

Parents that bring children into the world and then fail to love and nurture are awful pathetic humans.

[idagirl]

My mom hated me when I grew out of the adorable child phase and my appearance changed during adolescence. God forbid people weren't constantly telling her what a beautiful child she had.

[Falconlibrary]

My Mom still hates me. All my life, I wondered what was wrong with me. I missed a lot of the joy of life because I thought myself unlovable.

[katiewarren]

The heartache and terror of being hated by your mother stays with you your whole life. An absolute travesty.

[dianehereshko]

I could never make my mom happy. Just the fact I breathed pissed her off.

[truescotsman]

This one is simple. Your narcissistic parents can't stand you because you're strong and they're weak. That's pretty much it.

[Rooikunbo]

Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child...

[AlvinKazu]

They couldn't stand you, but yet cannot be without you...

It's sickening, destructive and pure chaos.

My parents keep telling me I'm a guest in their home, but yet they want me to move close to them. My father will look up land close to him for me to buy... It's crazy. Even if I had the great relationship I thought I had with my father, I still want to live where I want to live... Not where they want me to live.


They cannot stand you, or want you around...

But they still want to control you, and use you for supply or w/e.

IT's ALWAYS about THEM.

[Denise-yc]

I felt hated by my parents.
Not accepted.
Bullied. Blamed. Accused.

[kburton]

It will always bewilder me as to why it’s legal to raise a child in this type of environment. It’s criminal and demonic

[zennihilist]

When I was 10, my mother, whom I had a desperate trauma-bond with, sent me to live with my abusive dad. At 12, I was made a ward of the state, and spent the next 6 years in group homes and foster homes while my mother went first to college, and then to graduate school TO BECOME A PSYCHOTHERAPIST. She has been very successful in the 35 years since. For a long time, I was not. After foster care I chased her and got just enough attention to keep me addicted to her, and I could never understand why I couldn't become a functional adult. A year ago, she moved to another state. I was devastated. But I have since thrived. Her absence was the best gift I have ever been given, I have been able to excavate my own agency and acknowledge the truth of my own story. I could never understand why no one else in the family would come to my rescue, and then a couple of weeks ago I stumbled upon the 22 Rules of Narcissitic Families. I am still very much in the process of learning how to understand everything that happened without the influence of her self-serving interpretation. You help a lot, Jerry.

[sarahcouture]

Makes sense. They have a role you are expected to play, they hand you the script, and if you step out of charachter in any way, you are considered a bad actor in the narcissists theatre production of their life.

[raylenegoodman]

My youngest daughter commented on my relationship with my mother she said “ Mum, I think Nan is your personal bully…she’s mean to you “.
Children pick these things up just by observing.

[jesusreturning]

Basically you will always be in the wrong, no matter what u do or dont do, its always a losing battle.

[jimmysroom]

"they have children but maybe many of them shouldn't". Thank god someone else understands.

[aammssaamm]

Each and every child is extremely honest until he or she gets punished for speaking out the truth and learns to shut up or lie to fit the "society". This is how we start destroying ourselves. I don't think there is a single child in this world without such a painful experience.

[ladennayoung]

I feel like I discovered that about my mom recently. She is a covert narcissist. So I didn't realize that she was abusive towards me. I think they get jealous of the fact that you are genuine and authentic. Yes. That is true. I can see that and understand that now.

[richardjslade]

The innocence one has another aspect to it in my experience. Innocent children ask good 'why' questions, they don't just accept things. A narcissist's worst nightmare is someone who asks why, doesn't accept things at face value and basically seeks accountability. It's funny and sad but I've seen the narcissistic parent in my life be scared of an innocent child with a good question. 😅