The Narcissistic Family Dynamic

[teresafraser]

I'm the scapegoat 🥺 I was bullied....made fun of because I was so loving and was a
Once I walked away the whole family dynamic broke apart ....The last thing I told them before leaving was....
I've been the glue that has held us all together which the glue has now come never looked back and created a magical life of love...peace...and harmony ✨

[timescale]

I’m the scapegoat. I removed myself from the toxicity and now I’m free.

[vrprecious]

To the scapegoat child we got this! 🤛🏻❤

[chaychay]

Im the scapegoat and the invisible. I have a high narcissistic family especially my mother is pure toxic. Going thru trauma and abuse. Now im in therapy. Please pray for me people. 🙏🏼

[MS-mojp]

This is so accurate it's ridiculous, I'm an invisible child. Without my sister, who is the scapegoat child, I would be totally lost in the sea of these dynamics. She's been there for me and my brother always. Just wanted to give a shout out to all scapegoats, the shit you go through is not all in vain, your siblings benefit from your inner self discovery, you are a teacher and a guide !!! It's so important to share your experiences !!!

[alicekat]

I was 1000% and still am the scapegoat. I would call everyone out on their bs. That’s why I’m now distant to preserve my peace.

[blacknight]

Being an invisible child truly sucks and can cause lasting depression along with low self-esteem.

[ClownShoes]

To all of you out there who identify as the scapegoat child, the most liberating and empowering thing you could ever do is set firm boundaries and stick to them. I'm 40 and I'm just now getting good at not giving my power away to certain family members...I wish I would have had the courage and knowledge when I was a lot younger to stand in my power.
Blown away by the accuracy of this btw... correlates perfectly to the dynamic with my siblings growing up. We've become wise and are all healing and developing healthy relationships with each other, but it wasn't easy being raised by narcissists.

[savoyaepps]

My Mom hated me and was jealous of me from a child. She was the Queen of belittling criticizing and Put Downs. I often wonder Why a mother would intensely dislike her daughter child. Her brother told me at 45 that she was simply jealous. Jealous of my success because she felt it should have been hers she was so smart as a child. The narcissistic parents pitted me and my brother (the golden child) against each other. Sad. All gone now except me. Sigh.

[aliveinchrist]

My husband is the scapegoat child of his family. His family heavily involves themselves in church activities while ignoring their own sin and the sin of the family. The love is very cold. I pray they see the error of their ways before the Lord comes so they may have oil in their lamps.

[bestcasescenario]

I’m the scapegoat and my parent cut me off, cold turkey the minute I finally stood up for myself.

[barrymorgan]

The oldest and by far and away the Scapegoat child. That’s me….I’ll never understand how any parent can choose one child over the other. Anyway the description of a parent creating a Narcissistic monster is definitely on point. I witnessed this myself for years. It’s a great way to destroy a human being and make them so toxic that NOBODY wants to have anything to do with them. EVER

[thelightworker]

The golden child doesn’t always become a narcissist, but does have trouble developing their own identity— I was the golden child. My sister the invisible child developed depression. The scapegoat needs freedom so they seek external validation sometimes in the form of dark arts.

[crystalclearchey]

I know someone who has three kids and this describes the dynamic perfectly among the parent and them.

[SolaGratia.]

I knew before I checked the comments that it would be full of scapegoats. Hi fam.

[szarahsshow]

Was the youngest of 9 mostly narcissistic siblings, and was 100% the scapegoat. Felt like I was the dog to kick. Got in trouble for things I literally didn’t even know happened, got blamed for stealing shit I didn’t even know existed. Constantly harassed & bullied by my older sisters, while being expected to be their butler. To this day I don’t have a single good/happy memory of them, and developed an eating disorder because of them. Now we don’t really talk, not that they ever talked to me before. Honestly, I never used to blame them, we all picked up bad habits to survive… but now that I’m an adult, and they’ve been in therapy for a while, I’m aware that I never truly existed to them, and they will never know/see me as a person. Nothing more than the dog they grew up kicking.

[tyhassoul]

“Desperately wants freedom” Felt that one

[godsfavouritesatanandhisde]

I was the scapegoat 😂 they get mad when you get free! It forces them to deal with their own demons within and they can’t stand accountability!!!

Scapegoats are often the divine chosen kids!

[rubyh.]

I'm the Scapegoat child, everything I do is wrong and never complimented never given credit never acknowledged for the good I do... I keep a distance from my family I don't need that negativity in my life, I wish them well 🙏

[sparkwill]

I’m the Golden Child and it’s HELL!!! Can’t make a mistake, or the love will be taken away. You don’t have your own identity