The Family Dynamic Of Having 2 Narcissistic Parents

Having two narcissistic parents is a stress and a pain no child should endure. You have two selfish, egotistical, immature people trying to take care of a child. When you are a child of this environment, you are deprived of so many things and it is all about survival. Today we will be talking about what it is like growing up with two narcissistic parents and the dynamics between you and your parents. What do you guys think? leave it all in the comments below! Thanks for watching!
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TLDW (too long didn't watch)
0:00 Intro
1:32 How having a narcissistic parent will affect you as a child
6:00 The neglectful narcissists
8:50 The narcissists that hated each other but used you as a pawn
11:24 The "nice" narcissistic parent and the mean narcissistic parent
14:00 The narcissists that come together and gang up on you
17:17 Outtakes


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[jesuswarnedusaboutthem]

Young lady it took me 53 years to figure this out thank you. It probably explains why I’m a shopaholic, always trying to fill a void, they also use this against me bc “I don’t know how to handle money”

[mellevy]

This is THE most accurate description of 2 narcissist parents, that ever existed.. you validated my experience entirely. Thank you, you can’t imagine how much this helped me.

[MeelisMatt]

i think to summarize your whole channel is: if kids have these parents who have issues to act like they should then kids should strive hard to get away from these people. get fast reliable meaningul friends, solid income, significant other who really cares for them. it's not about finger pointing it don't fix them it's like a chain these people probably had unhealthy parenting pushed on them also and it means if nowadays we have info we can break free of this.

[riicipq]

I am 60 and always thought everything was my fault. My parents fought and put me and my sister in the middle of their fighting. I am a people pleaser. In order for me to feel love I have to give to the point of not having for myself. I'm doing work on me and trying to understand that it was not my fault and have healing. I have forgiveness but working on healthy relationships and boundaries with them. Thank you.

[PowWowDAO]

I literally drank myself to death for 25 years. There was no other way in 20th century to deal with this shit.

I am so grateful to technology and the younger generation for being open to self-reflection🎉

[thiagogregory]

This is literally the most accurate description of my father and mother dynamic against me. Wow.

[loshshoe]

Thank you for this video. It's the best description of my own family dynamic that I've ever come across. I've been watching narcissism youtube videos for years, and they've all been a bit helpful, but there was always something that didn't make sense or that I couldn't relate to. But this video really gets there. It's been especially difficult to see my mother's narcissism, because she was the kinder of the two, so I 'attached' to her more, and needed to keep up the self-delusion that she was normal and caring and kind, which is how so many people in the outside world see her.

[saggitariusNov]

This. This here was my entire childhood. Then I married someone who also grew up with two narcissistic parents. Smh

[leewalker]

Try having 4 of them....remarriage for both at an early age. All varying degrees of toxic behaviors but all with high narcissistic traits. Controlling financially, Triangulation, neglect, berating and belittling all while praising in public. High manipulation. Oddly or luckily I have severe dissociation and became emotionally distant from all of them, played the dutiful child. I'm independent, fairly successful and healthy. Two have passed, the other two are old. I do have difficulty in choosing partners and remain single too long due to picking the familiar glitter that isn't gold...I'm one of the lucky ones because I'm not in the mindset of agreeing to self- sabotage. I never accepted their abuse or praise. To me it was one and the same-' to garner control.

[pl]

OMG. This is what the dynamic in my family was. It was always as someone had to be the punching bag. Whenever there was peace between them then I was to become a punching bag.

[nicoledavies]

I always thought i was the problem countless times tried to end my own life went down a bad road of addiction. I believed I didn’t deserve to have them . Thank u for sharing

[lorenrobertson]

I can't even begin to describe the hell I grew up in both at home and daily bullying at school. Kids at school used to tell me I should kill myself, and I would go home and try to take my life. At the same time my parents would tell me I was bad, and blamed me for everything that went wrong. I was also the secret keeper for my mother's adulterous affairs and her giving me to the same men to have sex with from early childhood. I coped by developing alternate personality, hiding at night in different parts of my room because mother could burst in when I was asleep to beat me. Dad didn't protect me. Both of them were narcissists. I was isolated from other children too. I only had one little girl that they liked and allowed me to have as a friend that I could have sleep overs with and to go to their home after school sometimes. But they moved away in 4th grade after our town was devastated by a tornado where they lost their home. This was when the bullying at school really got bad and constant. I just wanted and begged God to let me die. I still feel that way. I am glad that I am older and closer to the end of life than the beginning. Been a rough ride! I will really appreciate the peace of my Home in Heaven with Jesus.

[melissamonson]

Thanks for this extremely insightful and powerful video. I know my stepdad is a narc and I'm slowly realizing that my mom is too. Or has adapted many maladaptive traits in her marriage. I am an only child as well.

I'm reading Dr. Ramani's book, "It's Not You" and it's so eye opening and validating. It's also made me realize that I've coped by being a people pleasing codependent, but ALSO having some narcissistic traits as well. I really appreciate how you said to be kind and forgiving to ourselves as we work through these things. 💜

[thelovely]

2 narcissistic parents and narcissistic elder sibling, the sibling was very abusive to me growing up. I've let it go and have forgiven now, for me.. but i'm just trying to work through and heal the effects of all of this in my adulthood.
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[ron]

My parents blamed me for their failed relationship, My mother had a huge crush on her sisters husband and flirted with him shamelessly and openly which Triggered my Father and my Father took out all that rage and Frustations on me and somehow I was the reason what went wrong with their relationship

[Delynnee]

Thankyou for this. I’m trying to kill these narcissistic traits I’ve picked up and hearing it explained like this is really giving me hope🖤

[isabellerivest]

Wow! You just explained my whole childhood to me. Thanks.

[thingsthatclick]

Thank you so much for this video, dear Missy!!! I can totally relate - it took me a while to figure out how it all stemmed from my family dynamic! All the gaslighting, cognitive dissonance and feeling empty/invisible... I have been healing/coming to wholeness in the past few years, which includes a lot of forgiveness, creating strong boundaries and focusing on my dreams/goals. Just when I think I am good, another layer appears and I keep going deeper/feeling better after that. It's so interesting as well how from our trauma our purpose emerges ❤

[Songe]

I'm still trying to figure my parents out yet the idea that they both might be narcissist is the only thing that makes any kind of sense to me. My Dad mostly ignored us kids, it was always about his job, his boats, his house, his cars, very status focused my dad. He didn't particularly care what happened to us kids, that was mum's job. My entire childhood revolved around what Dad wanted.

Mum was a registered nurse who ignored and did nothing about the fact her husband and three kids all had a rash, blood shot eyes, fevers and a bunch of other symptoms that turned out to be a chronic illness. Even though she had the training, education and knowledge to at least try and figure out what was wrong with us and at least make some sort of effort to make sure we were comfortable and looked after. Mostly we went to bed hungry, cold, in pain and abandoned by both parents all the while living amongst all Dad's stuff.

[falsehoodbasher]

My dad regularly says to
me *You are a burden!* as
well as *Nobody wants you!*