Maybe I'M The Narcissist? 8 Ways To Find Out #narcabuse #emotionalabuse #npd

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[IntegraDIY]

Dealing with a narcissist, can make you be one.. that negative energy and mindset rubs off. But it’s not permanent as long as you distance yourself.

[JamesNGames]

My experience dealing with the narcissist was both perplexing and unsettling. Whenever I refused to comply with their demands or rejected their needs, they would react in an incredibly dramatic way, as if I had physically assaulted them. It was bizarre to witness this reaction, as their response seemed entirely disproportionate to the situation at hand. However, it was through this experience that I began to understand the depths of their sensitivity - that to them, a mere word or action could inflict the same pain as physical harm. It was both humorous and disturbing to see how they had internalized the idea that "no" equated to violence, and it made me realize just how deeply their narcissistic tendencies had taken hold. Overall, my experience with this person left me feeling both bewildered and wary of their unpredictable reactions.

[richardleetbluesharmonicac]

Everyone has narcissistic tendencies it’s called the ego. If you’ve been highly abused by a narcissist, you tend to take on some of their affections. It’s very simple if you don’t lie cheat, steal backstab, gaslight and hate you’re not a narcissist.

[markmartin]

The narcissist laughs at someone else’s misfortune. My father and older brother would laugh when someone fell down. I would be horrified and run to help. My father and brother looked at me with disgust, like I was trying to be a goodie-goodie. Like that’s a bad thing. In fact I think only narcissists use the phrase goodie-goodie.

[ChannelleHinds]

Incredible you’ve taught me so much about myself! I am not a narcissist but can carry the traits after 10 yrs of being forced to live with this person. (8 yrs in a relationship an the other 2 yrs because he’s refused to leave my house)! It’s so bizarre because I’m such a caring, kind an empathic person when I’m around everyone else but him. An, as soon as I step through my front door my guards go up it’s like switching on the light and I’m in total (and I hate myself for this) nasty mode, ready for whatever he’s (been) about to do. But 12 wks in therapy from psychiatrist, psychologist, domestic abuse worker and social worker (an of course all the amazing teachings I’ve learned from these videos) are now teaching me how to deal with his behaviour in very different ways. I’m 8 wks on an I’m now strong enough to find somewhere else to live for me an my child so thank you Michelle it’s great to know I’m not a narcissist and strong enough to leave one! ❤

[chantal]

Wow this brought me into tears.... after 1, 5 years being accused of narcissistic abbusing my ex and his parents and letting my network of friends and family believing this about me, this finally makes me believe in myself again.... thank you so much!!🙏

[albangel]

Seeing and hearing you is just what the doctor ordered. Thx for being there.

[Wennifer]

I always heard the term "gaslighting." I never knew what this term meant. After learning about gaslighting and the many types & characteristics of it, then I knew what alot of people have been doing to me all life

[britany]

This is the best video on NPD I have ever seen to help diagnose. I think it might've finally clicked after the 500th video.

[LoveSource]

I love this video because I know that I am not a narcissist. He tried to say that I was one, but I just know I'm not. I have empathy for others.

[cassiebennet]

I have been questioning if I'm a the narc in my marriage. But then I realise I'm walking on eggshells so much, to avoid his rage, that I'm developing autoimmune diseases.

[renegadephilosopher]

Had me worried. I genuinely laugh. I love to laugh. I have a sense of humor.

[kimsanders]

My ex narc thinks hes right about everything, if it is not his way then its no way. When you tell him you cant do something for him when he needs it done right away he stopped speaking to me. He tried to make me think I was the narc. He doesn't share with my accomplishments. He belittled me for everything.

[perfectday]

Michele,
I'm admittedly feeling a little bit emotional right now. Yes, I've asked myself this question, at times, when I've thought about times when I was reacting in ways that I'm not proud of. From what you've shared in this video, I'm not a narcissist. However, I still have lots of ways that I need to become a better version of myself.
It's so interesting that you mentioned being someone's "garbage pail" because just yesterday I was remembering when I was working in an extremely toxic work environment. I was being severely bullied, literally being screamed at and threatened nearly every day that I worked. It took a massive toll on me. I finally got to the point that I was done. I no longer wanted to be the company dumpster for them to dump their crap onto me. After following through with some necessary preparations, I was able to leave.
This was several years before starting to learn about narcissism. Most of what I've learned about it has come from you, Michele. You have had a major influence in my life because of the tools of recognizing it for what it is and what to do about it. It has changed my life. I still have lots to learn and more healing to do, but I am so grateful for what I've learned from you. Thank you! ❤

[susanplove]

During the relationship, my ex said with anger while venting about his brother "I think my brother is a narcissist! I really think he is!" and a couple moments later. "I think you're like him!" It hit me. I was in the mindset of "I'm a bad person" at the time. I was so worried, googling about narcissism in 2016/2017. We broke up in 2017. I kept asking my therapist if she saw narcissism in me in 2018 and was still so worried. Eventually, as time went on, she said I was the empath and that I needed better boundaries. She didn't call him a narcissist but she said he had a "disowned second self." It wasn't until 2020 I realized that he was a narcissist when I learned about a little covert narcissism. And then now finding your channel in 2023 learning more about covert narcissism and CPTSD (which I had). In that time period (2016-2019) I kept on saying that "I feel like I'm in a psychological thriller and this feels like the twilight zone." It was such a crazy experience, covert narcissistic abuse. This is another validating video. The healing took a while. I'm still healing. I think it might be useful for me to join your group to finalize my healing because no one understood me at the time. I felt deeply alone but I'm glad I'm able to heal from childhood narcissism (as well) after that relationship and finally break out of these patterns (my patterns as well). Thank you, for your channel Michele and I wish everyone a healthy recovery.

[alyarrf]

I was hoping to come across this discussion in the topic.

1. For the first question my honest reaction was, that I was in an initial shock, because I wasn't fully aware of the topic, and secondly feeling sad, that if I am one, then I would be hurting people around me.

2. Second question: it motivates me to get help, to actually understand my situation better, and rule it out from my system.

3. I am at a point in life with my wife, that I misbehaved out of disappointment, followed by anger, and then I had to shut my emotional side. But before that, it was always me who be trying to avoid arguments and initiating to resolve situations, every time. I would always be the one who would be apologising because she wouldn't, even if it was her fault.
I had to shut my emotional side, that used to go and repair situations, but now I am tired. I am waiting for her to come and realise, but sadly, the more I do that, the more that person is waiting out, it feels like a seigde.

4. When I laugh, it's been a long time since have laughed. People used to call me "ever smiling person" radiating positivity all around. When i have a genuine laugh, i love it, and it relaxs my heart, it feels home. After meeting her, I helped her to stop thinking negative about people, judging them, she did come out of it, but it feels like that it went inside of me, I had become like her.
When I cry, I honest, straight from the heart.

5. I value other people more than me. I believe in God, so I respect and see other people having more value than me. I always humble myself.

6. I am willing to get help, if financial situation and time allows.

7. Before my success, I am always happy to see my family members succeeding, I am always happy to see her succeed more than me, but it hurts me, when she starts looking down at me. Like I need to improve myself, she says, that she knows my worth and that's why she wants the same for me, but I feel it's more for her to show off to her friends that she is married to a cool intelligent guy.
Also when she is telling things at her work, she shares them in detail, and I honestly helping her if she needs it, but as soon as I start to tell her things about my work, she is easily bored and nit much interested or look down upon my job, like it's not even worth discussing, so I hardly tell her how my day was. Every day I make an effort asking her how her day was, she hardly or never asks me that.

8. Reactive abuse; I have reacted in an abusive manner, that I can't believe I would ever do. I have never laid a hand on her ever, but out of anger I have said something that I am not proud of. Now she brings those up everytime we have another argument, it's like she us collecting evidences and reinforcing everytime we have another argument. My kids see my reactive abusive more louder than what she is doing, so they have started to side with her. And they isolate me most of the time.

[davidmaish]

Watching a narcissist laugh was always perplexing to me. The laugh is always exactly the same, same tone, exactly time'ed with precisssion, same number of laughs/breaths, it is used as a word, kinda like "like" when some people talk. I always referred to them as the "plastic people". I saw from the beginning how fake these people are, but did not understand/ know what narcissisim is. The only time i ever see a real laugh from them is when they have hurt someone, embarressed someone, or when they see someone loose at something in life. I am still haveing trouble excepting that some of my family is like this.

[JoelMaisonet]

Thank you for this… I’ve been struggling to answer this one.

[nicolemjohnson]

This video was so helpful! Thank you so much! I am in my healing journey and feeling so weighed down with a barrage of realizations and truths that are emerging and then also still receiving emails in my spam folder from the blocked narcissist having me question if I’m actually the narcissist! This video helped me validate myself and contrast the clear signs that the covert narc ex displayed throughout the entire relationship. Sheeesh this journey is not easy.

[jimhendricks]

Thanks so much for this presentation. It’s an issue I’ve struggled with and wondered about for sometime now…