How a Narcissist is Created

Uncover how narcissists are made with Dr. Ramani’s expert insights. Explore the developmental factors and psychological processes that contribute to narcissistic personality traits. Learn about the early influences and environmental conditions that shape narcissistic behavior. Gain a deeper understanding of the origins of narcissism and how these factors impact relationships and personal development. Dr. Ramani offers valuable explanations to help you grasp the complexities of narcissistic formation.

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[soundexperience]

“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” Frederick Douglass

[lydias.coaching]

It may not be their fault that they ended up a narcissist but us being their punching bag is not going to fix it.

[jolesliewhitten]

I survived a narcissistic husband—barely. They DO NOT IMPROVE. They get worse and worse. Plan quietly and run.

[patriciamurray]

I endured 68 years of narcissistic abuse by my mother/brother/husband. I am now 69 and on my healing journey...my head is spinning!!!

[cindyhutchins]

When I told my mother I was getting a divorce she got angry and yelled "how do you think that makes me feel?" That was the moment I knew what I was dealing with.

[heartsmyfaceforever]

Someone being hurt in the past does not give them permission to hurt you.

[JasonPhillips]

As Carl Jung once said: Most people never make it out of adolescence.

[sansankudo]

As an Empath, Learning Lesson from this vid: I'm not a rehab center for Narcissists!

[btbykxj]

Love when she said an adult narcissistic tantrum can put a 3 year old to shame so true!!

[loevet]

Long before I realized that my husband was a narcissist, I thought that he was a "difficult" man. Since I knew some bad things about his childhood, I excused him all the time. Just as Dr Ramani says, I thought that it wasn´t his fault. I felt sorry for him. Then I read a book where the author wrote "You can not blame your bad childhood for everything. At some age you must take responsability for your own behaviour instead of blaming people in your childhood". Now, everytime I make up excuses for my ex-husband, I think of Hitler. A poor little boy with a mean father. His father used to beat him regurlarly. Can I pity the little boy? Yes. Do I think his bad childhood gave him the right to kill millions of people when he became a grown man? Of course not!

[katherinecrawford]

Abusing others is a choice, not a justification for the abuse the abuser experienced. Troubled pasts is not a justification to abuse others. You can have pity for them, but at a distance for the sake of your sanity and protection because they will not hesitate to use your pity against you in malevolent ways

[jenbrennan]

An observation I have made about narcissism: Once I discovered trauma may contribute to narcissistic behavior, I was less angry at the person (healthier for me). However, I was traumatized often times and did not attack or berate people. So while a person can be messed up by trauma, we all still have a conscience inside that signals right/wrong behavior. Being traumatized doesn't excuse bad behavior or justify allowing it to continue, or enabling it. Thank you Dr. Ramani!

[cheung]

NOTHING justifies abusing others. you are NOT helping the narc by enduring their abuse, you are NOT making them better, you are merely ENABLING them

[pamelamorgan]

I spent 14 years married to a Narcissist. Before we married, we had extensive conversations about our childhoods. His childhood wasn't terrible. I'm assuming it was his temperament. My dad died at a young age when I was 8 years old. My mother turned away from my sister and I. We felt totally abandoned. I did NOT go on to become a narcissist. We can have terrible childhoods. But when we become an adult, we have to take responsibility for our behaviors. I tried my best to help him during our marriage. When I realized it wasn't going to help, and possibly he would take me down with him, I made him leave. I'm free! He totally destroyed my trust, and financially destroyed me. I'm happy being alone now. I'm 64, chances are I will be alone from now on. But I now have some peace in my life.

[francydennin]

The more I understand narcissistic behavior, the less personally I'm able to take the way I was abused and the more I'm able to heal myself. So thank you.

[kellyyork]

Can you imagine spending your whole life with a narcissist with all the damage he/she did to you and your children over the years. And now, in old age, you’re stuck with this monster of a person who expects you to wait on him or her hand and foot, while you have no help. And, you’re older, getting older, have health issues of your own….and have nothing but bitter, horrific memories of your past. What an awful waste of your precious life. If you can, get out early and move across the country and start a new, better life.

[KL-bceg]

The problem is society's overall view on abuse. Unless there's physical harm from the parent(s), very little is done to emotionally abused children.

[craftwhimsy]

“Childhood is the time when a child must learn disappointment in a safe loving space.” Ma’am I’m going to get that framed 💜

[jaimesanders]

At age 64, with an aging narcissistic mother with dementia, I am learning once again that I didn't cause it, and I can't fix it. But I can protect myself and my children from abuse.

[monkfrank]

Narcissist should only hang out with other narcissists and leave us alone 🤨