LADIES, DON’T SETTLE! Relationship Expert On Why You Should STAY SINGLE | Case Kenny

On Today's Episode:

Relationships can be really fun and exciting, and they can also get a bit messy, awkward and questionable. Even after investing years of your life.

Pop quiz for the ladies still searching for the right relationship and for the ones questioning the relationship they’re in now, and you have to be totally honest.

Have you chosen the wrong relationship because it beat the idea of being alone? At least you weren’t the single friend, or the one that walked away first.

Can you think of someone you dated that clearly only happened because you lowered your standards enough?

Has the thought of starting over and walking away from a relationship that obviously had no future kept you in an unhealthy, unhappy, and unfulfilling relationship way past the expiration date?

If you answered yes to any of these questions and smirked thinking about your friend, sister, or cousin that would be a HELL YEAH to one or more of these questions, then you’re in for a treat. Today’s guest, Case Kenny, is one of the most influential voices of reason for millennials, an internet entrepreneur and the host of the podcast, New Mindset, Who Dis?

Case is talking with Lisa and shares why being alone isn’t just 1000% better than settling for the wrong person, it’s freaking dangerous! Irrational fear of being alone and the stigma that comes with it jeopardizes you being your happiest most vibrant self.

QUOTES:

“I don’t think you’re ever too picky because you have the experience, it’s not just theory for you.”

“Starting over doesn’t mean you’re getting farther away from what you deserve, it means you’re getting closer, logically.”

“Speaking to what you need is the most romantic thing ever.”

“The right relationship gives us the opposite of settling down, with that person it gives you more life and more of everything.”

“The right partner makes you more independent.”

“A big problem is we date in potential and we don’t date in reality.”

“I think love is always worth the chance, is worth the risk, if we are willing to wipe the slate clean. finding a way to wipe the slate clean, finding a way to say this person hurt me, but not all people are like that.”

“Life changes for the better when we prioritize how our life feels to us instead of how it looks to other people.”

Follow Case Kenny:

[LisaBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[kekekiki]

Learnt it the hard way " Just because you are thirsty, it doesnot mean you should start drinking poison ".Some relationship might give you illusion of ending ur loneliness but it will always keep you alone.

[jcszot]

After my husband passed away, and I enjoyed a 15 year, wonderful marriage…..I was stunned at what had happened and what was going on in the dating circuit. I attempted to participate a few times, but I just couldn’t deal with it. I would rather be alone than be disrespected and used. I had so many men offer a casual relationship, and were more than willing to treat me and my apartment as a truck-stop, and I just got disgusted. As I said-I would rather be alone than be used and disrespected and not to mention settling for so little. I suppose I’m lucky and extremely grateful that I can be alone and I don’t mind my own company lol because that’s hard for a lot of people. I think that’s why so many women settle for so little and that saddens me.

[karlataylor]

Better to be lonely than with a narcissistic psychopath.

[DoctorCarrieHall]

I will never lower my bar. I'm single alone but not lonely, and at PEACE.

[CaseKenny]

THANK YOU SO MUCH for having me on your show Lisa! I was honored to be able to sit down and talk so openly about these topics we're both so passionate about.

[skinnypete]

I started dating at 15 and barely took a break from it over the next two decades. I was so conditioned to feel like being single for 6 months was a long time. Finally at 35 I stopped dating altogether over the last 8 years. It’s been the calmest most progressive time of my life. I wish I had taken a long break much younger. We put so much energy into our partners and dating in general that it’s necessary we learn that all that energy can be redirected into investing in ourselves and other non romantic relationships

[sanjeevbains]

👍🏽The right partner makes you more independent
👍🏽The most successful people have the most stable home life
👍🏽Unlearning (journaling, therapy)
👍🏽the every day little things & small rituals count (emotional bank account)

[nicolafarnhill]

I think the turning point in having boundaries, standards comes from the pain of a broken heart❤

[lisaeve]

I lowered the bar because of self worth. Then became embarrassed by the men I was with. I was also scared of dating a narcessit, so dated young and broke thinking they would be nicer....nope... just selfish.... and messed up.

[michellecd]

I as a former psychotherapist, got my own weekly therapy for over a year after my ex walked out of our marriage abruptly. My therapist said in one of our sessions, "You're NOT picky, you're being discerning & there is nothing wrong with that, it's actually a good thing" when I gave various examples of when my then-ex called me picky over the years. The reframe was priceless! <3

[Greenwitch_Garden]

I’ve been single for three years and it’s been so healing. I have tried dating in these years but keep choosing myself. I keep growing and changing, setting my boundaries and no one has met the standard I have set. The facts are: I know I want for myself and I will choose myself over a partner who isn’t right for me and my life. ❤❤❤❤

[liljerseygirl]

I don't feel lonely anymore, I used to to but now I'm used to being alone and I can keep my 6 figures for myself....

[creatureofstyle]

So interesting what she said about her first relationship because I just had that epiphany the other day but for the opposite reason. My first boyfriend was an absolute prince to me and I realized that I can probably credit him for my secure attachment style. He taught me right off the bat what a good, respectful, patient, kind, commited and fun relationship was so I never felt like I had to settle for less than that. After I had that realization last week I sent him a thank you note letting him know what an impact that had on me as a young girl (I was 14 and he was 17 when we started dating, which was many years and quite a few relationships ago).

[AS-onfz]

I'm sooo lonely, but i did this consciously. It's hard. It's truly a harsh path but i refuse to fill my life with people i don't resonate for the mere company. I literally don't talk to anyone in days. Only my parents and my brothers through the phone because they don't live with me. I hope i don't get crazy out here and can soon find true friends.

[RojitaCali]

What is the big deal about being “lonely”? Reality is, your not lonely! It’s all in your head. What about friends, family? Why, oh why go into a “relationship” just for the sake of being with someone. Someone not even good for you, or that you don’t really like. 🤔

[kimbrand]

I'm happier with my dogs than the men I have found so far. 😅

[Holistretch]

Wow. Such solid advice. I’ve settled big time in each of my relationships, always using the excuse- “but he loves me..” 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️

[sydonieA]

I needed this so much 🥺❤️, I’m young 21, I have been in a toxic relationship and it has taught me a lesson to not settle. And after that relationship I haven’t open up to anyone because I’m working on myself. However when I’m suppose to open up I still have the same toxic trait and getting a attached too quick because I feel very lonely and don’t really have a community that supports me. But I’m gonna keep pushing just for myself to become whole and the person Gods want me to be

[laura]

I found connection in deeper friendships and dancing again. ❤