Divorce Attorney Reveals The RED FLAGS You Should NEVER IGNORE In A Man! | Faith Jenkins

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On Today's Episode:

Are you choosing the history of a bad relationship, when times were good, over the pain of leaving an unhealthy relationship now? Often we make relationships about what the other person is or isn’t doing and we have the tendency to focus on our reactive emotions. What feels good and what doesn’t. The problem with this kind of relationship habit is that we give our power away. Judge Faith Jenkins has been a prosecuting attorney, a judge on Divorce Court TV, and is now hosting and producing an Oxygen True Crimes show, Killer Relationships. She is revealing the success we can have in healthy relationships when we realize our power to be happy comes from within. If you are single, Faith is highlighting all the lessons and opportunities available for you to properly prepare, learn, and plan for a successful marriage or relationship that you choose to be in. Taking some time to journal after this episode may be a great way to get started on having a better relationship now.

SHOW NOTES:

Relationship Disaster | How loving relationships turn into divorce or worst [0:37]
Power to be Happy | Why your personal foundation is a must for healthy relationships [3:05]
Lessons of Single Life | Faith reveals what single life is teaching and preparing you for [7:10]
Accept, Reject, or Build | 3 options you have when taking relationship to next level [8:39]
Being Resentful | Ways to navigate conflict and reveal a person’s true character [10:39]
Normalized Hurt | Faith on why healing is your responsibility, not normalizing disrespect [15:22]
Commitment | How to know if you are committing to love and the same things together [18:44]
Manifesting Love | How Faith manifested love from knowledge and acceptance of self [19:38]
Broken Love | Faith reveals the process for staying positive for love after being broken [26:44]
Toxic Traps | Revealing how people get trapped and remain in unhealthy relationships [30:59]
Danger Zone | Examining the danger of external pressure of being single and settling [36:38]
Rejection is Okay | Faith on how rejection isn’t about you and cannot be taken personal [41:35]
Due Diligence | How counseling gave Faith peace with her decision to marry and invest [46:38]
Successful Love | Why love deserves the same planning for success as your career [49:11]

QUOTES:

“People don't really have a lot of relationship problems [...] they have problems that they bring into the relationship.” [1:27]

“Being single was not a rest stop in my life, it was time for me to really live.” [6:07]

“It is easy to treat people right when things are going well. How do people treat each other when things are not going well? That is the key and a reflection of someone's true nature. [15:10]

“We aren't in charge of the person who hurt us. But we are in charge of our healing.” [15:58]

“I knew I was bringing a lot to the table. And I wanted someone who was going to add to the happiness I already had.” [21:43]

“I could not be a cynic about love and attract it into my life at the same time.” [26:28]

“If you're not careful, over time, you will internalize that messaging, and being single can start to feel like something you're embarrassed about.” [38:07]

“When you're single and you're dating, you can be the total package at the wrong address.” [41:48]

“A lot of times rejection has nothing to do with you. It's what somebody else is dealing with, and their perspective and what's going on in their lives, but if we're not careful, we make it a whole story about us.” [44:58]

“It was all about preparing, because I wanted to set myself up for success in my relationship, just like I did for all those other aspects of life.” [50:40]

Follow Faith Jenkins:

[LisaBilyeu]

Do you think some relationships deserve a second chance? Why or why not?

[thipimotsoare]

"people dont have relationship problems they have problems that they bring in the relationships" I felt that

[andme]

" If I give someone the power to make me happy, then I'am also giving them the power to make me sad" that's so true. My dad use to say " If you give someone the power to feed you, you also give them the power to starve you". I've lived by his quote!

[DarlingNickki]

She said: Don’t choose history over happiness! I felt that deeply! 😢

[clujbnf]

I love that she talks about meeting her person after 40, I'm late 30s and refuse to settle

[epicelizzette]

LOVEEE When she said “ it’s easy to treat ppl right when things are going well, how ppl treat each other when things are not going well that is the key 🔑 and a reflection of someone’s true nature”

[khotness]

“You can be the total package at the wrong address” I felt that!!! I’m buying her book!

[swatigulia]

We can't make others love us by loving them harder !

[mememinaa]

Ladies don't forget. Men that want you to settle are the type that don't have much to offer in any capacity! Don't lower yourself for them or anyone else! Stay blessed.

[jojobrown]

I’d rather be single and childless than miserable in a horrible relationship with someone that treats me horribly

[clujbnf]

"Sometimes in life you're going to have to walk away from people that you love" for your own well-being YES 💯 I believe this applies to family/friendships as well

[danigomes]

As a woman who lowered myself completely for the wrong person who turned out to be a narcissistic abuser I 100% recommend that you listen to this and never settle! I know I will never do that again.

[annalynvang]

I met my husband at 17 got married at 21. We grew and mature together. Since we’ve spent our 20s together there’s not much past baggages we brought to the marriage. There were times I thought I have settled too soon, but it didn’t make sense to leave a relationship that is working. (Sometimes we talk ourselves into leaving something that may not be perfect, but no relationship is perfect. They all take some work from both people involved). He loves me, respects me, supports and encourages me to thrive in whatever I choose. We are currently growing our family and I’m so happy I found him when I was young.

[SpringHWhipple]

"Fear doesn't serve you, it poisons your perspective." - Judge Faith Jenkins

[crystalp]

"If you really believe that the best is still out there for you, then why become angry when a relationship ends." I just said to a friend today, my faith tells me that there is someone out there better for me.

[jordanrintoul-thomas]

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for 8 years. Finally found the courage to leave and I'm so glad I did.

[KeziahMuthoni]

Sometimes rejection really is God's protection.
I'm on the journey of being happy alone and not settling. Love judge Faith👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[priyapixi]

This message is so important to women in today’s society to accept it’s ok to be single and rather meet the right person in gods timing. Not forced into a relationship due to others pressure and society’s expectations.

[haliec]

Single at 49. Been in longterm relationships since my 20's, engaged, lived with 2. I have never felt more peaceful and happier than i do now. I have no hoots to give what anyone thinks about my status. I know what i went through with them, financial, emotional, physical, verbal abuse. I brought myself back from the brink. I will never compromise ever again.

[insoromanoworries]

Two words ladies. Financial freedom!
I have seen alot of women settling for garage because they depend on someone for food and a roof....