6 Signs You've Given Up On Love Unintentionally

Have you ever wondered why is dating so difficult? Or feel like no matter how hard you try, you cannot seem to get lucky in love? If you have had bad experiences trying to pursue romantic relationships, it may feel like the best thing to do is to throw the towel in, give up on love and save yourself the heartache. Dating can be a scary experience; being vulnerable is not always something that sits well with us as humans and we can be avoidant when it comes to finding a romantic partner. To help you explore further, here are a few signs you might've given up on love unintentionally.

Disclaimer: This video is designed to be for educational purposes only and not to suggest that these signs mean that you have really given up on finding love for good or that you should if you are feeling like this. But to help you become more aware of your fears and mental blockages so that you can make changes in your life. Reach out to people you trust if you want to talk about how you are feeling.

Writer: Jade Hamilton
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Nhi Nguyen (new animator)
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Disclaimer: This video is designed to be for educational purposes only and not to suggest that these signs mean that you have really given up on finding love for good or that you should if you are feeling like this. But to help you become more aware of your fears and mental blockages so that you can make changes in your life. Reach out to people you trust if you want to talk about how you are feeling.

[Forever_Rayne]

I'm tired of one-sided love... I've never be someone's first choice, always the one forgotten. It has made me think if I'm lovable at all.

[gavino]

I remain single because tbh, having crushes and dating people takes a lot out of me. Feeling emotions THAT deeply drains all of my energy. It’s exhausting

[CowToes]

I'm 38. I'll tell you I've given up. No close friends. No one talks to me. The amount of isolation I feel on a daily basis is overwhelming. Also, no money, no social status means no love.

[DEATHxTHExKIDx]

Despite all this social media it definitely feels like there is a loneliness epidemic.

I actually consider my friends who have partners or marriages extremely lucky.
To even experience base level romance, boyfriend/girlfriend is lucky from my perspective.

[pocketdynamo]

"Do you ever question your past relationships?"

Past relationships, ay? Thanks, now I feel even worse.

[WRClan]

I swear these vids pop up at the perfect time when i feel that way everytime and its scary

[Riako]

I'm 35 and about to turn 36. Love is something I'm giving up on. Every single girl I've tried to get with, hass all said the same thing. "Thank you for being so nice, but I'm just not interested." It's the same thing over and over again. For years.

I'm tired of no one liking me, I'm tired of one-sided relationships, I'm tired of never ever being the person someone likes. I'm always the one who likes someone, but they're never the ones that like me.

I'm giving up on relationships, I've accepted that I'll be alone till the day I die. 36, 38, 42, 50, 60+

Statistically, there are some that will be alone their whole lives. I'm accepting that I'm just one of the "lucky few."

[jayzepickle]

Ive always been good at giving love, but I struggle immensely with accepting it.
I think I have such low self love, that I genuinely dont believe others can love me unconditionally. I assume everyone will leave once they get bored.

Its kind of crazy how unconditionally I give love, but how hard it is for me to accept that sometimes others can do the same for me.

[subigyachapagain]

1.If a date doesn’t go well or as planned you just shut it down.
2. You don’t take opportunity to meet new people anymore.
3. You feel jealous when you see or around other couple.
4. You’ve got into head that everyone is playing games.
5. You may consider settling for someone you don’t love or you have unrealistic expectations.
6. You feel you’re unable to love another person deeply.

[cosmoverse.]

Yes actually, after seeing so much of hate and betrayal in this world, anyone can lose faith in love..I wish that everyone is doing good with their mental health in this pandemic.

[Anonymoususer]

Context: This took place at a military training school

I’m a 23 year old guy and I recently told a girl at my school that I liked her, and it was the first time I had ever told anyone that I liked them. Two of my close buddies gave me encouragement to tell her, so I ultimately did. It felt somewhat good to get it out, but it caused me to start acting more awkward around her to the point where I started to creep her (and her roommate) out. Fortunately, she’s really nice and we were able to have things mostly go back to normal, but yeah. Telling a girl that I like her is a mistake I’ll never make again

[jasminjasmin]

I’ve given up and I am happier. Seeking love was ruining my self esteem and my happiness.

[teknique]

I'm getting older now and I'm accepting the possibility on being alone forever. The cards I'm dealing with is definitely not in my favor so I appreciate seeing happy couples around me because at least i know that it exists.

[DamnItHeadJedi]

The other day a coworker asked if I was seeing someone. I responded, “What? You mean like a therapist?”

🤦🏻‍♂️ dudes? My single is showing.

[JohnnyDoes_]

I honestly cry myself to sleep because I have to pretend that I'm happy going out with my friends and their significant others, but I'm actually dying inside knowing that I will never have what they have

[wandRng]

I admit, i will forever be a romantic, but at this point in my life, im learning there's no one really out there that can fulfill my internal and external desires and thats okay. Instead of questioing why, ive learned to "date" myself. There's so much to me i never knew and wouldn't know if there was other energies around me. I'm convinced im here to completely fall in love with myself and the Divine, not in a selfish way, but in a deep, soul path type of mission. It tragically beautiful and I'm proud of who i am today, standing in my full authenticity. On days i yearn for human embrace, i just watch Divorce Court and boy, that brings me back to myself real quick😂go and love your own selves people, it'll all be ok.

[brideofduscur]

I gave up on love long ago. People are always like, "but you're so young!"

Well, abuse and trauma know no age.

[Ninji]

Been told “no” and “you’re nice but-“ so many times that I just don’t try anymore. Trying to land a date feels like trying to get a job interview for something I’m not qualified for.

[joehoe]

32 here and still single. When I was young I did my own things, minding my own business. Friends, well, I wasn't busy with that. Happy in my own bubble world. Other people were just mean and were not fun to go with. Always brabbling about football, and other bs I didn't like. And then everyone suddenly had relationships in my surroundings. It took a year to figure out that because I didn't make friends, I didn't know how to connect to others. That was when I was 19. Since then I always was behind the facts: just trying to fit in, but always was in the wrong groups that didn't suit me as a person. I'm still lost. At least I got the skills now, but now everyone is settling and no one has time anymore. I feel lonely and constantly rejected. Now I'm like: what now? I did so much already. I learned a lot of skills and still it's pointless, whatever I do. Had so much bad luck as well with the classes I came in. They shuffled per year with almost no one to rely and lean on for longer. It was so lonely. Then only classes with men. After that, I was always the oldest with a different mind set. After years of dating sites, hobbies that didn't work out, rejections, personally being lost in what I want, now I'm at a stage that I don't know what to do anymore. 😢