How Breaking Up Will Save Your Relationship (6 Ways!)

Breakups suck. You have no appetite but somehow you can’t stop eating ice cream. You can’t sleep but you can’t get out of bed. Your sadness is piled as high as the dishes in your sink. The one person that you’d normally rely on when you feel like this can’t help you because they dumped you!

But I’m going to tell you a little secret (that you already read in the video title) that will turn things around for you.

This breakup could be the best thing that ever happened to your relationship. I promise you, it’ll make sense in just a minute.

Hi, I’m Jessica Boss. You probably know me from my other videos about how to get back together with your ex. If this is your first time on my channel, welcome. I’m a relationship coach and breakup guru. I specialize in helping people get back together and stay together for good. The world can be a lonely place and I think that if you’ve found someone you love, you should do all you can to fight for them.

So, on to the topic at hand. I know what you’re probably thinking: “Breaking up is what I’m trying to avoid. How can it be a good thing?” “You’re crazy Jessica. You’ve finally lost it.”

I may be crazy but I promise you that it’s true: breaking up can save your relationship, and I’m going to prove it. With science!

First off, breakups aren’t the end for many relationships.

According to a 2013 study by Kansas State University:

“Given previous research on the risks associated with cycling in adult dating relationships the frequency with which cyclical dating relationships persist into cohabitation and marriage, the characteristics of these relationships, and the constraints associated with cycling during these stages using a nationally representative sample of cohabiting (n = 323) and married (n = 752) couples.

The takeaway is:
One in three couples who live together have broken up and got back together
Nearly half of people aged 17-24 have returned to an ex after breaking up

I like those odds.

So why do these couples reconcile? And how can breaking up help you stay together in the long run?

[jenniferjohnson]

Saddest thing is when your partner was also your best friend.

[superbobmuffin]

2013 she broke up with me, 2019 I asked for her hand in marriage. It's not the end all be all with a break up.

[Elena-Studio]

When she started talking really started panicking. Trying to figure out what button I accidentally pressed

[anewloveofficial]

Sometimes being single and alone makes us realized how great life is.
We can slowly appreciate every little thing that you didn't notice before when you are still with him.

[andrewcruz]

THIS WILL WORK ONLY FOR COUPLES WHO REALLY ARE RESPONSIBLE AND YOU TRUST EACH OTHER

[introvertedlass]

one of my friends broke up with his boyfriend for a year and half and later they got back together and are married now

[thehollyannrose]

Doing this over and over sounds like a recipe for a forever bf. I want a husband. I want someone that is confident in promising a future to me, and I feel the same.

[Mauitaoist]

Sometimes you need to rebuild the relationship by ending the one you had and then rebuilding with the remaining parts

[Iraqveteran-kequ]

If someone is willing to walk away from you, the best thing you can do is let them walk.

[lis]

Cant stop eating? I haven't eaten more than a couple of small meals in a week.... I. Even struggle to eat that.

[foreversurfergirl]

Well while all of this is great news I think it's hard when everyone knows you two ended things. Back peddling after you let your friends and family give you the "he doesn't deserve you" pep talk is extremely hard

[poojashetty]

1.Face Your problems all alone
2.Time to heal
3. New perspective
4.Shake things up
5.Realize your priorities
6.Shows how being single sucks

[candywillard]

They can’t work on themselves when they just simply jump out of ur relationship and into another right away

[tabatatee]

A breakup makes you appreciate the person just like how a car accident can get you to appreciate life. If you don’t get back together then it wasn’t meant to be. I walk ✌🏼 boyfriend or husband I don’t stay for nonsense

[flyingtiger]

I dont see how breaking up is good for a relationship. It makes people really emotionally upset. Makes people say hurtful things they will regret. Alot of trust is lost. Fear of rejection a second time. Etc, etc.

[sherbsville]

being single shouldnt suck. i want to learn to be happy alone again, and not need someone else.

[NANDOEDITZ]

ok.... you lost me when you said "being single sucks"

[Entyse]

This doesn't work on narcissistic abusers

[WolfQueenLydia]

My bf had all depression signs, and he broke up with me yesterday coz he was so down and feeling awful. It hurt but, I love him so much and still feel his love in his eyes, despite the cloud over his head. Out of respect I said I'll allow him to find himself, and that self love, but I so want our realtionship back one day... he's so much more than just love for me...

[bettyselenator]

I broke up with my ex 4 days ago and currently I feel so lonely... but i did it for both of us because we both were damaged and we couldn't heal each other. but I hope for getting back with him cause he treated me so good and we had a polite and warm relationship.