Narcissistic parents are unable to say these three things

Narcissistic parents are unable to say these three things.

[donnellallan]

These are exactly the three keys that enabled me to recognize the narcissists in my life. I realized as I neared the age of 60 that I had no memory of my mother ever admitting to being wrong, ever. Once I established that pattern in her, I was able to detect it in others as well. It is so helpful to know. Thank you for this simple, important video.

[pault]

My narc parent has said I'm sorry, only to manipulate me back into being her supply. I've had covert narcs ask me what I think, but the information they were trying to gather was only to mirror me during the love bombing stage. They do have the physical capability to say these things, but it will never come from a genuine heart.

[sttes]

Just an observation: I've witnessed the narcissist adamantly profess "I'm so sorry", but always followed up by "for what happened" or "for what he/she/they did to you". It's never an admission of fault. I know this stands in line with what you are saying... just thought it may be worth pointing out for those out there who may be taking this too literally.

[avocadodee]

Just popping by to wish you a happy Father’s Day.

[scottbanks]

Hi, thank you for sharing information on the problem of parental alienation. I have been alienated from my two teenage children now for five years and I am still struggling with the loss and grief almost daily. One of my biggest regrets is how complicit i became in the alienation from my children because I didn’t have the tools or knowledge to react and cope in a constructive way. Even though I knew what type of person my ex-wife was when I started the divorce I was unprepared for the emotional turmoil that a high conflict divorce would have on me emotionally and mentally. Each time she would do something that would undermine my relationship with my children I would respond in an emotional way which often reinforced the message that my ex was trying to teach my children. That I was unstable, unreliable, distant, and unloving. Because she would initiate conflict in the presence of the children both in person and via telephone this became the normal impression that my children came to believe. When dad is around there is always conflict. With in six months of our separation my children had stopped communicating openly with me and stopped saying I love you. The pain of this rejection again caused me to act into the alienators hands as in this time of hurt I withdrew and went into self preservation mode. My first advice to any parent dealing with alienation would be to keep calm and seperate the emotional pain you are feeling from your interactions with your children. Seek the help of support groups quickly and use organisations that can facilitate hand overs of children during custody exchanges. If the requirement for supervised visitation is imposed either by the court or the other party, embrace the time you have with your children and remember the people doing the supervision will become witnesses and allies to the type of parent you are and the priority you place on your children. Document document document. Keep a diary from as soon as you can, record everything, take photos of the happy times you are with your children. Where legally allowed record conversations both in person and via telephone. (In Australia you are legally allowed to record any conversation that you are directly involved in and although it is legally permissible it is not seen positively by the courts of you are recording conversations with your children.)

I would love to see someone do a video that talks about many of these issues in simple language, without the technical jargon that can confuse the alienated parent during a highly emotive time of their life. One that concentrates on the ways the alienated parent should react and not on the actions of the alienating parent.

I hope all parents who have to face this in their lives have the love and support of friends and family to keep them strong. My best wishes to all the parents seeking to reunite with their children again.

[heatherhoward]

Even if they do say they are sorry, it can be all a facade. Their words don't match their actions.

[estebanvela]

In 15 years I have never heard her say. I’m sorry, or I was wrong, Now she has alienated my child after 12 years of raising him without her, I’m destroyed and I know my son is Hurting, I just am so destroyed that I cannot even sleep or think about him without having a panic attack, I am just trying to figure out how how to get him to talk to me.

[candijohns]

I finally have my kids in my home for the first time but nether one wants to be social. They both have holed themselves away in their rooms and I have asked about playing video games and boardgames together and all I get is no I rather play on my own. Dr. Childress hasn't exactly covered this. Can you give me some help, they leave to go back on the first

[tinamchenry]

Sorry sorry sorry. Actions speak louder than words....

[daby]

I have always said that my daughter's father does not have a heart I already know the Stepmom doesn't

[angelasmiley]

Narcissists are ruled by the leviathan and jezebel demonic spirits. This is why they are so cunning and deceptive to inhuman like levels. I had to cry out to Jesus for deliverance myself from these generational demons, as I was sinking with a family filled with these spirits that produce narcissists. The leviathan demonic spirit helps keep the narcissist in pride and the jezebel spirit helps keep the narcissist in using control and manipulation at all cost.

[PinkPoodleCrafts]

My ex could say he was sorry... ONLY if it was prompted... like if i was really upset because of a betrayal he did to me... and i would be crying and I would say "Damn! Arent you even SORRY!?" and then he would say "yes, Im sorry" in a very forced and matter of fact way as if I should have known he was sorry just by him being there and how could i dare even ask him such a thing....what is wrong with ME? lol That was the ONLY times I ever heard those words. Jackass.

[JLEOTHELION]

So my dad apologizes all the time for minor stupid things. And he does say I’m sorry after my mom or I bug out on him for doing something fcked up but it’s not a genuine I’m sorry. It’s like he thinks he can say I’m sorry and it makes everything okay. Or he will be all aggravated and go I’m sorry ok.

[stevehinze]

I have had my narcissistic ex say email only once of "what do you think" total surprise for to see this, but this was a trap because once I gave my opinion on the topic which was opposite of her's idea or plan I received email after email of how wrong I was and she went on to tell others of my response verbally (because she dare not show anyone what was really written) with a very twisted version to make me look that I have no care in the world for my kids.

[stormthrush]

My experience is they certainly can and will say these things, but it's damned clear they certainly don't mean them.

[SaraSyn]

I wish I heard I'm sorry, my mom and my ex have been trashing me for 10 years now :(