Narcissistic Mothers and Their Adult Sons. #shorts #narcissist #cptsd #redflags #npd #emotionalabuse

[valorie]

And once that son gets married, the narcissistic mother is in constant competition with the spouse of the son.

[eyrctut]

A hard lesson is, that they don’t love the golden child either. They are incapable of love.

[RandomGuy-zbgd]

My mom is a covert narcissist. She made me choose between my wife or her. She never came out and said this but the kind of relationship she wanted with me would have caused us to separate, which is what I believe was part of the plan. Needless to say, I choose my wife! I heard that is rare but I did. It hasn't been easy and we are both estranged from that side of the family now. We have endured smear campaigns and mental trauma but at the end of the day, we still have each other!

Growing up, I didn't think there was anything wrong in our relationship. I felt like I was just close with my mom. However, after looking at it through knowledgeable eyes and with understanding, I noticed things aren't what they appear. I personally went through denial but everytime I tested our relationship, the response was always a textbook example of how a covert would act. If things didn't go her way, you hated her, or you didn't love her. To hell with your individuality and marriage, what about me? It's always about that...

"What about me!?"

Any kind of boundaries we tried to set would be dismissed in a nasty way or a "what about me?" gas lighting fest.

Looking back on it, we gave her plenty of chances and what we requested wasn't a big deal until it was made a big deal. Things could have been so different with the simplest bit of effort. What severed the connection the most, was the refusal to get counseling with us.

Don't get me started on my sister. She is on the opposite end of the covert spectrum.

Anyway, if you are going through something similar, do the research and brace yourself for good and bad results. It sucks to let go, but you have to do the right thing! I look at my wife and kids and know that I did the right thing! We have a lot of trauma but we also have each other! God bless you if you are going through this! It's painful but you can overcome it!

[SHABAZZTRIBE]

please ! this subject is so needed ! Nobody talks about the Mothers

[NathanSegal]

I witnessed my mother and brother speak like lovers. The abuse made want to puke. Disgusting.

[spacegirl]

You've certainly hit the bullseye for the weird dynamic my mother and bro have. She has completely ruined him.

[BigLukeBeChillin]

This is my grandma with my dad💯 there’s a difference between a healthy relationship and just plain weird attachment. his father left her and her 2nd husband died so she’s literally been attached to my dads hip my whole life didn’t realize how weird it’s was until I grew up and left. They eat together, ride around all day, watch movies, talk otp when they actually are apart. I don’t know how my mom has dealt with it she dead ass shares her husband with her in law

[Ale-kpfh]

Perfect ! My poor sister who is the golden child has been completed manipulated, a puppet, a miserable slave, no job, no family, no friend ... she is stuck with chains in this poor situation of co-dependence... differently i got free at the age of 30 and i refused this abuse and they hate me! People like that are monsters not human!

[CIslas-imum]

My ex and his mother were both narcs and that's the way she seemed to be with him! 🙄I'm so glad to have gotten away. This two were inseparable, you would question who was the actual couple. 😵‍💫

[richardwalker]

Thank you! My brother was the Golden Child. I was the scapegoat. 🌹🌹♥️❤️

[JJ-dklr]

100%. My brother is exactly that! But, he is another narcissists too.

[sugarandspice]

These mothers love, adore, and support their sons. They barely tolerate their daughters. They’re sensitive to the son’s feelings, but easily dismissive & insensitive to the daughter’s feelings. They treat their kids quite differently. It’s sad.

[FreeJulianAssange]

My brother is definitely the golden child. When my brother was in a car accident she acted like she was going to die of the stress and emotional pain, took time off work, and stayed at the hospital. The vehicle had very little damage and he required a few stitches. When I rolled my car twice off the short end of an overpass, landing upside down, she screamed at me over the phone in the hospital. It’s like you know when you know.

[sw.]

You are spot on.
I have a narcisstic mother in law. It took me years to overcome.

[pinkrabbit]

Spot on. The description of my mothers relationship with me.
Took me a year of education, I went through the pain of aknowledging I went through abuse, have been programmed to fawn, codependency, trauma bond, please, crap fit, , and give supply of my life energy willingly. I worried, was stressed out, sad, distorted and disturbed by troubled thoughts and beliefs for about 30 years. I lived in a lie which is her reality and serves her only.
And I'm a baddass narc abuse survivor!

[Manifest]

Had to get out of this weird ass so called love my mom claim she had for me. She really stuck it to me in the end but 3000 miles and 2 years later I'm still here to tell my story.

[amymccormick]

I briefly dated a younger guy with a narc mom. It only lasted about 4 months, but it has left a lasted impression on me. He had just gotten a divorce that only lasted a year or so. Surprise surprise. Luckily his mom and ex wife lived on the other side of the country, so I never met them. But I was constantly being triangulated with his mom. It was so gross. He admitted that he had these long phone conversations with his mom, where they discussed their feelings, it was emotional incest. She would always tell him to break up with me, or tell him how she felt about me. If I ever brought up how weird that was, he would then rage at me and tell me that his mom was a better mother that I am to my kids. He didn't even know my kids. It was just weird!

[Quartercheeseburger]

My mother once said she’d never love me unconditionally. I was 10 years old, and I still think about it to this day. Only 2ish years left until I can get some money and move out and cut her off permanently.

[if]

My half-brother is still living with his mother well into his 30s. She says he gets bullied. He's an ass an tries to gaslight people but is socially awkward, sociopathic.

[jengable]

Also, in some narcissistic relationships, one sibling becomes the "Golden Child" because they NEVER call out their mother's behavior, in fact, they may enable it. It is the "Scapegoat" (aka the truth teller) in the family who usually calls out the mother or parents, and is demonized for it. In fact, the "Golden Child" may often cover up or cover over their mother's dysfunctional behaviors, because they do not want others to see how the situation REALLY is. Then, something may happen to the "Golden Child", and then the narcissistic mother is left with only the Scapegoat, who finds pleasure in exposing the TRUTH.