Narcissistic parents expect you to beg for approval

#narcissisticmother #narcissisticparents #narcissist Narcissistic parents expect you to beg for approval. If you were raised by a narcissistic parent, you grew up feeling invisible and full of shame. You internalized feelings of abandonment to signify unworthiness, however this is a lie. Narcissistic parents are unable to attune themselves to their parents causing attachment issues and abandonment trauma that can haunt a person well into adulthood creating dynamics such as codependency.

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[Lily]

TY,

Once you learn to self validate, you will no longer beg for anyone's approval. Anyone who can't accept you u, create boundaries/preferences or remove YOURSELF whenever possible. As an adult, it is healthy to individuate to live your best life.

You are ENOUGH 😉. Discover yourself and live your own life.

Namaste

🕊️ Peace 🤸 Shalom🐵

[candywilkins]

Yes! My fathers ego is very fragile and my dad loves to point out my faults. He is very critical about everything that I do. I realized that I will never be enough to someone who is abusive and who doesnt love me! Unfortunately this is my life. God says I am enough and I'm fearfully and wonderfully made by God himself!

[chilloften]

And now we walk around like this.
This is something I can’t seem to mend, unless I’m alone.

[crownhealerc]

I’m done trying to gain my Dads approval smh now he is verbal abusive and talks aggressively towards me . He be trying his best control me by any means. He even tried to make sure I couldn’t get a place while I was Homeless so he could control me. He told the Housing coordinator who was providing me a hotel I was a lier and I had places I could go stay! They actually kicked me out to the street! When I confronted him he even tried gaslighting me pretending he did the opposite! I didn’t go for it at all because I caught him telling her. I told him that he did me dirty and he finally admitted that he was embarrassed of my situation. Then went back to denying what he did and blamed it on my Aunt. I have been low contact because it is overwhelming and I don’t want him to think it’s ok to bully me. Even while I’m low contact he is too much! I have my own place now Thank God!

[susanenz]

Moms a narcissistic alcoholic and I'm an empath and her scape goat. We are both in our senior years. I'm not worried about her and I. I'm worried about damage I may have done to my children and inadvertently to my beautiful innocent grandbabies.

[amorl]

Exactly what experience with my father. Never knew how I felt about anything and still to this day.

[nathaliedufour]

Ugh, true . They watch you grovel with their foot on your face, smiling, smug.

[aljazkolar]

Please talk more about this troubling topic, my narcissistic father beat me whenever i would appear in any way different from his tightly scripted image and the only response that i was allowed was " i was beat and i deserved it" because whenever i would cry or get angry ( which would be healthy and proper response to improper and unjust treatment) it only led me to get beat even further until i got completely quiet and supressed every single emotion i had.. so in my case it was parent that absolutely HAD TO HAVE approval, it was like you either can be like me or you can get destroyed.

[truthh]

I love you lisa❤️ you are never alone:) You have fought the real fight. You must have been so alone through this all.
I’m two years into my recovery process and I still remember you were one of the first survivors I found. You and your wonderful hair always have a peaceful healing quality for my sight.

I also went into the ‘fawn response’ to appease many of the abusive people in my life, it only worsens their behaviour. And you feel horrible for propping them up to abuse you more. Worst part is they kick you when you are down or vulnerable. In my case my ex-supervisor was kicking me down when I was unwell and had a lot of past trauma, in your case it was when you were a defenseless child. Heartbreaking.
Increases my respect for your recovery.

[sudhakhristmukti]

Thank you sis for sharing your personal experiences...you know what you went through...and so know what you're talking about.

[xXRubyXRaspberryXx]

Not my family- but I just escaped a relationship and it is so clear that he was a narcissist based on this description and comments....

[izawaniek]

I did the same in relation to my mum. Thank you Lisa.

[pebblebrookbooks]

We're so conditioned to fawn, I don't think I even realize how often I do it. It's too easy to conclude that I'm "out of options" way before I really am. When i feel like I'm "out of options, and I can't escape, I will pull all sorts of silly offers out of my behind. If they can't be reasoned or negotiated with, I'll dissociate before it devolves into begging.

[LN-jrnj]

My father had absolutely no interest in me. He didnt care when I was abused by partners, bullied, or that I obviously had no self esteem and made poor choices as a result. He never stood up for me, taught me anything about life or validated me. It has been incredibly painful but having my own kids made me realize how pathetic and broken he really is. Narcissists are cowards who miss out on the true rewards of life and that is their punishment

[JesusRoseAgain]

You love them so much and you want them to make things even, all they do is show you how much more they love everyone and everything else

[jleach]

I wish my daughter would understand this. 😕

[judygiovannetti]

Love your videos. I tell everyone about you!💕💕

[lucillekluivert]

I DIDNT DO SO I WAS A BIT REBELIOUS ASKING QUESTIONS AND MY MOTHER SHE WAS ALWAYS ANGRY AT ME TODAY SHE IS 83 AND STILL ANGRY BECAUSE SHE CANNOT CONTROL ME THE WAY SHE WANTS I TELL THE TRUTH IN THE FACE BUT I ASK GOD PERMISSION SHE IS MOTHER AND I HONOR HER BUT I DONT RESPECT HER NARCISSISM AND I DONT AGREE WITH HER NONSENSE I TELL HER WHY DIDNT YOU KILLED ME AS A CHILD IF YOU TREAT ME LIKE THE NEIGHBOURS CHILD AND FOR THAT DAY SHE SCOLD THE WHOLE DAY AND ACT LIKE A VICTIM BUT I SPEAK FROM GODS WORD AND SHE DOESNT LIKE THAT I LOVE GOD MORE THAN HER NO MATTER OR HOWEVER SHE IS MY MOTHER GOD COMES FIRST IN EVERY AND ALL WAYS

[patriciaoday]

I’m witnessing my grandchildren, 10 & 6 y/o go through this now. How to help children not participate in their mom’s delusion of self?? I’m realizing that I need to stop playing the narcissistic games with my daughter-their mom- for my own sanity. It hurts so much to watch the children live in fear of my narcissistic alcoholic mother. What can I do to save these children? The 10 y/o is showing signs of depression & anxiety.😞

[rodneymartel]

Often seen this pattern of behavior in my youngest daughter's mom. In conjunction with her covert narcissistic mother. That CN never liked me. Probably cause I was able to see beyond that charade.