Narcissistic Parents: Damaging Behaviors that Caused Childhood Trauma

In this video, I discuss the enduring harmful behaviors of narcissistic parents that have lifelong impacts on your relationships and who you become to be.

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Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, has helped 10,000s of people heal from family dysfunction and become the true self they were never allowed to be. As a family systems and self-differentiation coach, he leverages 45 years of experience to help clients permanently break free from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships, and build a strong sense of self.

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[jerrywise]

Finally get your family OUT OF YOU & be the true self you were never allowed to be 👇

[andrestipanovic]

“The one who creates anxiety is the one who is in control “
Narcissist rule #1

[dazedhavoc]

Narcissists truly are the worst human beings. My mother is a malignant narcissist. I went no contact over 5 years ago now and I've never been happier. She never cared for me and provided me a toxic and traumatic childhood. I cut all ties.

[Sarahwithanh]

Every now and then I gaslight myself and think, “maybe I’ve got it wrong, maybe they’re not narcissistic and I’ve just got it wrong”… and then I watch a video like this and it just validates my perspective and experiences.

[partymarty]

after going no-contact I learned that I needed to work on the way I talk with others. my whole life I’ve been thinking it’s normal to give unsolicited advice in conversations. social anxiety makes this harder for me to undo but I’m working on it. I learned that “awareness” is the first step to recovery, thank you.

[mamabear]

Note to all parents: your kids dont owe you anything. Stop telling them everything you have done for them. Its your job to provide and take care of your kids. Dont expect to get paid back. If you love your kids, they will love you. All these parents complaining about how their kids aren't taking care of them, dont want to admit that they are narcissistic parents

[mingo]

My mother is the pinnacle of Covert Narcissism. Dear God, help me. I'm so tired of being everyone's therapist. I need just one person to be on my side. Just one.

[ranstxx]

Honestly just get away from these people, you cant change them and they will only screw your head up.

[fifilafleur]

They will also have children to have caregivers in their old age... fully expecting their kids to prioritize them over everything else. They are extremely entitled and will continue being abusive right up until their death. It’s their way or the highway.

[mtnriffraff]

I’m 55. And the phrase, “I’m your Mother” still makes me cringe.

[knucklehoagies]

My childhood upbringing has severely effected my social skills as an adult. Even at 37, I still struggle with how to have basic chit chat with adults anywhere I go. Work, on the street, random strangers, etc. Sometimes, I don't even know HOW to improve or where to start. Simple tasks such as leaving my house to walk to the store is anxiety inducing as I am hyper aware of my environment and constantly confused on how to navigate people. It's like my fight or flight response is constantly on and I don't know how to turn it off.

[earthformsbymarie]

I come here to validate that I am not crazy & these behaviors are abusive. Your videos are a dose of sanity, thank you Gerry!

[richellepeace]

I told my narc Christian mother, when a couple of months before she died she decided she wasn't a good mother, was scared of facing judgement, and all the sudden needing me instead of the others she compared me with. I told her to call her favorites if she needed nurturing. She face planted in the hallway a couple months later. Don't miss her a bit. They are of their father, the devil and they don't change.

[brendanthebdog]

My mom has used every single tactic you've mentioned, with shaming and infantilization being her favorites. The only adult interactions she has are with customer service representatives. Any contact with her beyond 2 minutes is agonizing.

[kaystephens]

And they'll feel justified in everything they do. Even steal from their children.

[jenyj]

My Mom is a subtle narcissist! She parentified me from 8 years old. Every compliment was followed with a “…but…” and then she’d tell me how to do it better! She was in competition with me my whole life…manipulation and blackmail, silent treatment if I didn’t do/say what she wanted. She actually stopped talking to me because I didn’t do what she said for my breast cancer treatment, never visited during my treatment or surgeries!! My successes are always followed by “…just like her mother”, health and mental issues I’m “…just like your father”!
I’m 62 years old and just coming to terms with this!!!

[MelissaSalinasTV]

Narcissistic parents need or want to have children to have as their emotional punching bags. That’s just cruel!

[David-eums]

How did this become such an epidemic? It seems like an entire generation was trained to misbehave.

[stevestruthers]

I remember my mother once telling me that I had no empathy for others. Meanwhile, I was only 12 years old at the time, and barely knew what empathy was or how to display it. I suspect that she was a narcissist, and possibly may have had Borderline Personality Disorder, because she was always elevating me and then tearing me down for no reason at all, or imagined or small failings. Needless to say, this kind of behaviour destroyed my self-esteem. And if I was injured or in pain, she would often criticize me for verbalizing my discomfort and was often unsympathetic and unsupportive.

[ElizabethPascal-zpio]

I knew from a little girl, that my mom was a narc, I use to ask Grandma what was wrong with her? And she said that's just your Mother.I spent my whole life trying to figure out why I never felt loved by her. She just passed away so I 'm going to let her RIP😢