Grief Counselling and The Four Agreements: First Agreement

The Four Agreements holds wisdom for Living Life. I use this beautiful book for supporting Grief in my counselling practice. Watch as we explore the First Agreement. Be Impeccable with Your Word!

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[grieftherapist]

Follow along as we explore all of the Four Agreements and how we can use this wisdom to support Grief! First Agreement.. how can you be impeccable with your words while Grieving or supporting a Griever? 🙏❤

[edwardianspice]

Oh my days. You are wonderful. I mean it. You are such a breath of fresh air. Xxxx

[judygrubaugh]

Repression. It is a social norm for American grievers. Three days off work, and then it's time to move on. I'll never forget the day my husband took a man in his arms right in the middle of a cabinet shop. He had lost his Dad over the weekend, came back to work already feeling the pressure of social expectations. My husband just scooped him up and held him while he sobbed. They never spoke. Precious

[kimberlybain]

When asked how I’m doing I always say, “ I don’t know how to answer that.” That’s the truth. When asked, I feel empty. Nothing comes into my brain.

[jennifermanns]

I'm glad you are here. I'm having a hard time dealing with a loss rn. I lost a friend to cancer. I found out she passed away from a senior bus driver yesterday. She fought tooth and nail, but I won't forget her. The last time I saw her, I was at Walmart, we talked some, and hugged. I think it was a hug goodbye, imo, but I am battling the grieving process, trying to cope, etc. This is helping some, and I love the kind heart thing you do. God bless you.❤❤❤❤❤❤

[edwardianspice]

Oh not weird at all! I have been diagnosed with globus brought on by emotional trauma, and I’ve realised I need to sing out loud! It opens up the voice. I have quite a good singing voice but I don’t think it matters whether you do or not. If you’re storing up trapped emotions in your throat, have singing lessons, or just sing your head off. It will release throat tension. That child who was told off for singing? Metaphorically that was me. Never allowed to express myself, always feeling suffocated by controlling primary carers. Sing! Sing! Sing! That’s my advice

[kimsemple]

well meaning, but painful still, was "he wouldn't want you to be upset"...about my husband and best friend and partner in life...that was taken too early by brain cancer. I tend to be honest when answering questions about how I am, but always sense the asker is a bit taken back by my response...perhaps hoping I would say I'm fine. We don't seem to do death and grief very well in our privileged Western culture.

[speaktheresafox]

What was touching to me was if the person could share a fond memory or story that honored my loved one. The second was just heartfelt sadness and a sincere “ I am sorry” from the person. Very simple shared sorrow that showed me he would be missed. Loved your ideas about how to comfort someone else. That would have been so helpful and I value knowing ways to help others.

[Kay-pbtm]

You are amazing Jo! I need this so much 😢😢

[kathrynmonaco-douglas]

I love this book,
It’s on audible. I share it all the time.

[margaretward]

I felt very alone after my mom passed away. My husband never wanted to talk about it with me, I wanted to talk to him. He thought if he didn't talk to me about it I wouldn't keep getting upset. I told him that whether he talked to me or not it didn't change my pain. He didn't get it. I felt alone and unseen by him and his side of the family. None of them ever spoke of my mom or regarded me as someone grieving a loss.

[shannonodell]

If I express honesty about how I’m feeling, no matter the reason, I’ve repelled my acquaintance who I hope to get to know better and become part of my much needed social safety net as I age. I have no family nearby except my daughter. This is why, I fear, that so many of us including me, feel alone even when there are people right next door or in the next room. Women especially have been taught as children to offer emotional support not request or require it. I think we all need to be schooled again and practice it to understand how a more caring approach might be better. After only three months, the calls and concern about my well-being following my husband’s death disappeared. And at work my boss never inquired nor sent any note. The pandemic was already painful without personal interactions. I’m a good actress I think. Even my therapist thinks I’m doing so well and wonders if I’m ready to stop the appointments. I just don’t know how to be any other way. Negativity repels.

[martaperosio]

I must confess that until I lost my husband I had never experienced great grief. I lost my parents when they were old. I grieved for them but not with the present intensity. My mother hid her grieving from me and my siblings. That is why I was surprised by the intensity. I know now and at times devastating but I am convinced it will be acceptable in spite of falling back in despair time and again.

[qeytmyok]

i find it that when people ask you how you are they are expecting you to say you are fine.if you say you are not they simply dissappear they don't like it at all.

[kazcsamuels]

Thank you. This has helped me more than my grieving sessions. I’ve recently stopped going. I have lost my son in Oct to delta/Covid. Wished I found your other videos during the holidays.

[joyceandrews]

Silence was the most hurtful, I would have appreciated honest communication, either by actions or words.

[AnalyzewithAstephen]

My world is shattered now that my mom is gone...she just turned 41... She died in May this year it's still it normal for me to feel like I lost a part of me

[ginnylamberson]

ITS BEEN A YEAR AND NOT 1 PERSON HAS ASKED ME ANYTHING

[karencrecco]

The most enraging statement was, “ He would want you to be happy. it’s time to move on.”😡

[yokimawhittaker]

People don't keep their word after the funeral. The flowers stop coming and the calls. I rely on God not people. People always let you down.