Don’t send the avoidant ex that text or letter!

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[walkertranger]

My dignity and respect for myself is what makes me want to confront her and hold her accountable …
Not to beg her back

[flutist]

After being discarded and ghosted, I made sure that I couldn't text him by deleting his contact info and our texting history from my phone. It was liberating to do that. I still struggle with the fact that I'll never get closure from him, but I decided that not hearing from him ever again is better. Healing from this discard has been painful and slow, and I still think of him regularly, but my thoughts are more along the lines of telling myself to not ignore the red flags and my intuition if I see this behavior in my next potential partner.

[AquaPrison]

I need to have this on repeat 24/7 until I’m finally able to move on.

[luann]

You'll just be disappointed. Made that mistake. Back to no contact

[dcr]

6 years in a relationship, 30 days of NC and I'm still strong. He's right, don't do it

[archivist_of_dragonstone]

I wrote the letter and then ripped it into tiny pieces. Helped me process what I was thinking and feeling, but my DA ex doesn’t deserve access to my thoughts and feelings anymore. He discarded me like I never mattered

[brena]

Yep. The heart felt text. Expect to get 👻

[justme]

You're doing what other coaches won't do Ryan, keeping it real 🎉. Keep up the realness and good work.

All secure and anxious types watch this twice, give the video a like, drop a 💯 and send Ryan's message to the others so it lands on their feed to watch. Group energy...let's avoid these avoidants 💯😏

[Flufero]

I have done inner work. I no longer desire any contact with my ex FA. It's been a year now since he left for another. NC since then. I now realize it was the best thing for me. I am finally free. Never again!

[Unknown-t]

This is perfect timing…our marriage anniversary is next weekend. She walked away from our relationship. I’ve been strong lately and still…this video came at the perfect time. Thank you Ryan!

[nicolas]

Just walk away like the wind it's pointless looking back after you're done with them because they will just do the same again..

[ty-vybr]

I don’t think there is anything wrong with sending them a letter if it would make you feel better and there are no expectations. In fact, you can do it while also setting boundaries and wishing them well. There is a way to do it so they know that they can’t just come and go. I think what matters most is the intention behind the communication. It can help one to close the door and feel a weight off of their chest. We shouldn’t have to hold onto what we want to express because of how they may perceive it. We can be ourselves, we no longer have to worry about how they will feel and just do what helps us heal.

[francissellerdude]

At the end of the day it's better to be honest of how you feel. If they don't respond the way you wanted at least you were true to your own emotions and it gives a certain amount of closure knowing you did everything you could to express yourself and that this person is simply not feeling the same way. Often times what happens too is with these types of people they react coldly at first but then when they have time to think about it they realize how much you meant to them and reach out. In which case it's up to you to take them back or not.

[bigboss]

Keep telling myself, "If she wants to talk that's her perogative. Not mine."

[adityat.m]

But issue is they don’t even care losing you it’s like ur not even existing

[AliasGrace-qv]

Another great video, thank you; I am a huge fan. I have slightly mixed feelings about this now after having watched lots of content about the so called 'no contact' so called 'rule'. I get and agree wholeheartedly with the dignity part and the giving those who did the discard space to feel the loss part but I also understand those who comment on having sent that letter or that message as part of their own closure that they feel they owed themselves. I think that it may serve as part of the journey to heal and/or vent (and so heal). After all, a big part of the problem is the pool of unspoken words between two people and dependent on where an individual is in any given moment, and we are contextual 'creatures', it could be beneficial. Some time most certainly need to pass and we need to take into account the length of the relationship, the nature of it, our ages and life experiences and that so important gut feeling about the other person. Looking forward to the next video!

[_tsagas_]

She actually explained everything with specifics and great detail

[alilsunshine]

THANK YOU, this was exactly what I needed to hear TODAY! ❤

[scottyoung]

Dude! U are amazing. Everything U have said in this video is spot on!
ThankU

[GodHelpMe]

“One does not become enlightened
by imagining figures of light,
but by making the darkness: conscious.
Until you make the unconscious: conscious, it will direct your life
and you will call it fate.” ~ Carl Jung

You’re more than a Queen. Not that a Queen is limiting
because that’s the highest highness
of a most intelligent courageous beauty
amongst women.

You do embody a perfect emanating expression of a Queen.
The icing on the cake is your Divine limitlessness
that is in tune with her being. You’re evolution.

Thank you for sharing and expressing.
I sense your passion for yourself
and your passion for standing for justice
of your worth.

I’m grateful for the love you have for yourself.

You’re badass.