Dismissive Avoidant Breakup | 6 Reasons The Avoidant Ex Comes Back!

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Will the dismissive-avoidant breakup and return? Does the dismissive-avoidant after breakup come to their senses and come back? An avoidant partner turned avoidant ex behavior can be difficult to predict. In this video, I’ll give you 6 reasons why the dismissive-avoidant attachment may return. But take these tips with a grain of salt and beware of the anxious-avoidant trap.

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[KatyaMorozova]

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[jessicataylor]

Dating a dissmissive avoidant will leave lasting damage to your attachment style and self esteem for a long time after the inevitable breakup. It will affect your following relationships in a huge way. Stay away from these people. They are very close to being narcissists in my opinion.

[songsforsale]

The fact that you would want a dismissive avoidant back at all shows you're not well yet

[polo]

Don't let them to come back! They will leave you again sooner or later. It's just a matter of time

[toddrick]

My dismissive, fearful avoidant gf just broke up with me due to her being too overwhelmed with current life obligations (work, family pressures, and, trauma). Thankfully, prior to meeting her, I had developed a secure attachment style, so this breakup, while it’s not easy, I know I will be fine after processing and healing. I don’t need her to come back. I hope all of you watching this video finds the peace you deserve. ✌️ ❤

[deliveredbyjace]

What hurts is that the relationship was so strong and then the reason he gave me for the break-up was that he “couldn’t continue.” All in a text

[Mari-lvrd]

To have a lover with this personality type is quite painful but your explanations truly put this in a better perspective. I see him more as an underdeveloped child now and keep him at a distance, which is one of the most difficult things I have had to do in my whole life, but I have to take care of myself. To forgive and be forgiven is my daily reminder. Thank you.

[philphil]

The best advice is to avoid the avoidant FOREVER! Period.

[Violinbutterfly]

This confirmed so much that I just told my DA when he tried to come back AGAIN. Once I come to point of realizing it's going nowhere and I leave, I experience trauma whereas he doesn't have the same emotional consequence bc he's so detached from his emotions. This time, I told him I can't do it. He definitely misses me. He definitely recognizes we were special. But he can't commit ...so I can't stay.

[amitsalaskar]

we all are here watching this video as we are ruminating/ obssesd over our ex's. thinking where they are and what are they doing in their lives..the truth we need to realize is whereevr they are and whatever they are doing including dating someone else as we speak.. the truth is they are gonna sabotage every intimate relation in their life as they are deflecting the most beautiful thing in the world "Love" and someone who deflects the epitome of emotions - love - they are miserable little demons and wont be happy ever. leave it to their karma and live a healthy life with someone who can feel and understand and reciprocates - Love

[djenning]

My avoidant ex came back to me, 4 months after breaking up with me when we fell into the anxious avoidant trap. During those 4 months I discovered attachment theory, came to understand the anxious avoidant dynamic, learned to behave more securely, and found a way to re-engage him as friends, and communicate in a way that shows him I have self respect and i don’t make him feel unsafe anymore due to anxious behaviors I’ve tamed. We had fantastic sex when we were together and maybe he wants that back. But now I’m dating somebody else and I’m unavailable. I’m probably very attractive to him now.

[lissettecorona]

As you said Katya, we may meet all of the criteria but if their fear of commitment and vulnerability is bigger nothing will happen.

[mrzl_]

Do avoidants just use you as opposed to loving you? Because it sounds like it...

[strawberryjam]

I think having a specific person is not as important as having a warm, playful and fun relationship. You can have that with another person. Waiting for an emotionally unavailable person coming back is sad. Heal and breath, meet new people who can help you see other good things in life. Start planting small seeds in your life, as personal development, exercise, going on hikes with hiking groups. Joining group activities. Hang out with people who laugh a lot. And set some small personal goals every week, even if it is just doing laundry. It helps on confidence to cross off on a todo list, even when it is just the simple things.

[laylapreater]

Dating an avoidant was so hard for me, because before we broke up recently, we broke up a few months before that and I worked on myself and I changed attachment styles from anxious to secure and my avoidant ex changed me back to anxious again. I tried the no-contact thing with her and it didn’t work because she would avoid me for hours even a whole day. Now that I think abt it I think I kinda drove her away. I bought her things, cooked for her, listened to her problems, told her about my problems. She treated her friends better than me and that hurt me so much that I was like “f*ck it. I gotta break up with her. This hurts me”

[takebackmylifetakemylifeba]

I'm starting to realize this is the reason I'm struggling in my relationship- he's Avoidant. I'm not hearing any reasons to stay. Thank you for this helpful explanation- all makes sense.

[gauravborkar]

She called me "needy" Just for wanting spending time with her. I asked her for breakup and she just agreed never asked why. I went no contact and and never going back.

[TiffanyNicholeCatley]

5 out of 6 of these things is the case for myself and my avoidant partner. We got engaged recently after coming back together 5 months ago from a mutual breakup. We also started therapy and he's opened himself up alot. He still has a ways to go but he's undoubtedly committed. He's even remarked that he values my assertiveness and direct approach. Though still gets extremely defensive, he will admit where he went wrong in conflict.

[sunbeam]

I was dating a FA who turned dismissive at the time of break up. 5 months into recovery and I actually am less inclined to see them back. Maybe as a friend but that's it. I processed the break up, I took all the attachment styles quizzes, I researched endlessly and I realized we just do not match.

[busyazn]

Thank you! Great insight!

1. You left on good or neutral terms. 1:50
2. Strong boundaries. You let them know it’s not ok to act that way then they may come back. They have a strong moral code. You will not be putting up with wishy washy behavior & you respect yourself 4:30
3. If you had a strong sexual connection but if they come back, they may be only seeking a sexual connection but not a romantic one. 5:40
4. They realize they had something special with you. 6:50
5. They genuinely couldn’t commit for a relationship for a specific reason . Ex: career, still recovering from a past relationship, suffered adult trauma that they hadn’t worked through it. If they realize it then they may try again. Don’t hope for this bc unknown if they worked through it. 8:14
6. They didn’t immediately rebound into another relationship. 10:18