Top 3 reasons why breaking no contact with avoidant ex is a BAD idea

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[Jdotrhh]

No contact for me means I don’t know if they’re dead or alive but that’s what they wanted

[noussa-tflb]

I come back to your videos to remind me of my worth & his disrespect & hurt towards me, thank you very much ❤🎉

[marchong]

Best advice ever. Been NC for a month with avoidant ex. A month ago he just left a message to end a relationship because je wanted to focus on his kids. That's it. Then message him back and never reply. Still healing 😢 but i won't take him back. I don't want him in my life because his reason for breaking up with me doesn't make any sense we've been together for almost 7 years an out of nowhere sending me a message that he wanted to focus on his kids.

[kp]

Dating on apps is a bunch of avoidants, so whether you go backwards or forwards, it’s just a flood of avoidants.

[Shestylez]

Thank you so much for this. I’m on Day 1 of no contact 😢hoping to heal from this and come out stronger 💔

[shanimeho]

Very painful to listen to you speaking about this intense emotion… thank you for your advice., definitely needed to know how to use coping strategies.
Definitely helps 👍🏼

[koala]

I wish I knew all this stuff 3 months and a half ago...I was dating a guy that ended up being FA like me, 4 months together, strong feelings from both, his fears started to come up more and more and then he pulled away (he was also starting to tell me I miss you before leaving my place). I went more in the anxious side and tried to fix things, he showed up driving a few times where and when he knows he can find for sure, to say hi (in the first month he stopped also twice and was emotional, then it was too much & showed up again only to say hi with his hand). In real NC now for 5 weeks. Now I know things, I know how we both function, how to regulate better and so on, and really wish he comes back from deactivation soon

[me_myself]

I screwed up. I broke no contact after a month. The breakup came out of nowhere. I have to let go now.

[Savage_Queue]

I messed up because she sent me a letter, saying it's the last one. Said so many kind things but said we may only meet later in life. I am going back to NC. But, the emotional trigger made me call. I hate that I did it but, its ok. We live and learn.

[a.d.b]

Last time we split he broke contact by sending a text that he was going to say hi to me but saw I was having quite a chat with another man. A convo ensued which led to a get back together. However, he still contacts his ex GF and here we are again.

[jlm]

Could you do a video on 2 avoidants during no contact & also the dynamics of 2 avoidants in a connection?

[ChumpanZees]

Thank you very much Coach Ryan, this is life saving knowledge 🙏

[peaterrepeater]

The one reason to breaking no contact, a kid! :) It's not easy though ...

[Sharrpei]

Everything you have said in this video is dead on! The abusive behavior is just disgusting and SICK! I’m done being emotionally, mentally, psychologically, financially and physically abused! I USED TO BE SECURE NOW A SHATTERED MESS

[lijojake]

I agree it is the avoidant that needs to earn you back.

[jennyw]

He’s messaged me 3 times in the month of no contact. “Are you dead” a picture of the sunset and then “I guess you’re not gonna talk to me”….. they literally do not apologize or think they’ve done anything wrong…. Right before I stopped talking he said I had an attitude (I’ve explained how I felt a billion times and what I needed, he didn’t listen ) he said “I hurt you how can I make it right”…. He’s done more than hurt me, … cheating, was in a relationship with someone else keeping me on the back burner, using me, no dates, labels, affection, no quality time, got other girl pregnant…..I cannot ever give him another chance, I need to protect myself from him. He’s a coworker, pouts when I’m around now, sucks to see him….. But damn I’d like to believe they know how f*cked up they are. I can’t even date anymore. I feel nothing. Apathy toward men in general now, zero self esteem, lots of anger, especially at myself. These people are terrible 💔

[spiritwanderer]

This is probably the most important video you ever posted. People should listen to it VERY carefully. Thank you for the wonderful work you do.

[steffiekensley]

I think once we heal, the idea of reaching out to a betrayer is stomach-churning. Anyone who's stuck waiting for a DA to realize their worth doesn't actually realize it themselves. Once they do and live from this knowing, they won't need someone whose tendencies are to dismiss and avoid them to do anything for them. No contact isn't designed to get the other person to do anything. It's for you to recognize and live from your worth so you no longer feel you're on the hook for anything from a dismissive avoidant individual. Become their opposite to yourself - accepting and loving. Your life will feel so much better, you won't want to risk it for someone who refuses to self-reflect or acknowledge truth and reality.

[ljiljanameter]

You have no idea how much you have helped me to even understand what, the hell, happend to me at all. I send you much love from Croatia.❤

[mdee]

Thanks Ryan. God bless you. I listen to this clip everytime that i want to contact him. Thanks for reminding me to see my self worth and that i do deserve better.