Does No Contact Work On An Avoidant Ex?

Does No Contact work on an avoidant ex?

Wondering whether employing the "no contact" strategy is the right move to mend a fractured relationship or accelerate healing?

If so, you're not alone. In this deep dive video, Coach Lee explore the intricate dynamics of relationships with avoidant individuals and dissect whether the no contact rule holds any sway over their behavior after the avoidant broke up with you.

Firstly, let's unpack what it means to be avoidant.

Avoidant attachment style is characterized by a fear of intimacy and a tendency to withdraw emotionally when relationships become too close or demanding.

People with avoidant attachment may struggle to fully engage in emotional connections, often resorting to distancing themselves as a coping mechanism.

Consequently, navigating a breakup with an avoidant ex can be a uniquely challenging experience.

So why the curiosity about employing no contact on an avoidant ex?

Well, it stems from a desire for closure, healing, and potentially reigniting the flame of a lost connection.

Many individuals hope that by implementing no contact, they can shake up the status quo, prompting their avoidant ex to reassess their feelings and perhaps even come crawling back.

However, the effectiveness of this strategy in the context of avoidant partners is a subject of much debate and speculation.

Throughout this video, Coach Lee discusses the psychological intricacies of avoidant attachment and how they manifest in post-breakup scenarios.

He scrutinizes whether the no contact rule can indeed penetrate the emotional armor of an avoidant ex and pave the way for reconciliation.

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Moreover, Coach Lee explores the dual nature of no contact, not only as a tool for potentially rekindling romance but also as a means of self-preservation and personal growth.

By detaching from the relationship temporarily, individuals can focus on their own well-being, gain clarity, and cultivate resilience in the face of heartache.

Whether you're contemplating implementing no contact on an avoidant ex or seeking solace in the aftermath of a breakup with an avoidant partner, this video offers a beacon of understanding and guidance.

Join Coach Lee as he uncovers the truth about whether no contact can bridge the chasm between you and your avoidant ex.

Don't miss out on this essential exploration of relationships, attachment styles, and the transformative power of no contact.

Watch now and arm yourself with the knowledge to navigate the tumultuous waters of love and loss with grace and resilience.

[MCitra]

It's been the worst experience of my life being with an avoidant. I rarely say things like this as im a very selfreflecting person, but being with him completly ripped me apart, creating so much anxiety, my body litterly screamed and i thought it was my fault. But it wasnt, read so many things and i just stopped and thought NO. This man is not a healthy person. I will never ever trying to fix it or work on it again because it is a one way street with someone who acts like a child and never take any accountability for anything.

[CryptoTaurusMoon]

They want an easy relationship, but everything is on their terms. Yeah, they just want to show up and rarely take any initiative. That is not what makes for a healthy relationship

[justinkantner]

Thank you, almost exactly 5 months since I went into no contact. It's been.. a rollercoaster, not gonna lie 😖 Some days I am confident of the outcome. Some days I am angry. Some days I don't need them. Some days I feel depressed - like I got dumped yesterday. But regarding of the mood, I still have deep feelings for my ex and it feels almost.. spiritual. They are in my mind, even when I don't want them to be. I do believe we are destined to have a future together. But I also believe that love is about persistance and learning to work through the painful parts. Those couples that have had like.. 50-70+ years together, who said they haven't gone through it too? In fact, I believe most of them have. They are together since they have learned to work through all those struggles - like cheating, breakups, deceit, family drama, economic factors, distance.. or whatever. And they STILL ended up together in the end. That's the real magic 🌟True love is not about having someone where everything goes smoothly - that's impossible. I wanna believe that you found your true love when you always find your way back to each other - despite everything that happened ❤

[Enjoyslife]

Are avoidants really worth this much efforts from us? 😡 If I were Ariana Grande, he would be anxiously attached to her, not avoiding at all. I call my EX’s excuses BS. I am moving on!!

[Lilly]

Almost 1 year after my ex broke up with me because 'his feelings faded and he needed to find himself' bs, I can say I am almost 100% healed. Been in no contact since day 1 and never reached out to him gave me the chance to see that him leaving me was a big blessing!
It has been an emotional rollercoaster for many months and Coach Lee helped me like no other
Now, I come here from time to time to watch his new videos and I'm glad to see that he keeps up the good work!

To everybody hurting: It will pass, things *will* get better even if you can't see it right now. Time really does heals all wounds ❤

[michaelking]

I'm most thankful that I never got my ex back.

[Apbt-rvzw]

Coach Lee I would say that Avoidants don't understand the issues because they are emotionally immature. So if you get back together it will be like talking about it for the first time. Avoidants avoid responsibility, if you try to raise these issues, they start to stonewall, distance themselves, shutdown.
Avoidants need professionals to help them thru their deep seated traumas.
Avoidants aren't like the norm, I know that sounds judgy but keep it real.

[larroelli]

It’s been 48 days since I went no contact. The first 2 weeks were excruciating. I still have my moments were I get depressed and want her back so bad and other times I feel ok.

[Luke-iqvz]

perfect relationship, 1.5 years. suddenly broke up out of nowhere when i was emotionally vulnerable. did 3 weeks no contact until she reached out and said she didnt want to continue things. another month went by and i reached out to gain clarity about the social media things and she told me to leave her alone so..

[totalgeezerok]

Been here everyone, what an absolute waste of time waiting and trying, its humiliating, .they ended it for a reason and broke trust to support in hard times.

When you realise better people for you out there, you will be happy and accept it. Peace

[imchentoshi]

Thank you for all the tips. It was really helpful. She just called me after 11 days of no contact.

[roysalazar]

It's been a year since. I've had people tell me that she is an avoidant. She told me a lot about her past relationship being a real bad one and growing up with her folks. There was a lot of drama there. I want to reach out to her but I don't know. She hasn't reached out. I don't know what she's doing now or if she met someone else. There was no drama between us. We trusted each other. I miss our time together.

[Wizard-Girl]

🚩🧨Dear Coach Lee: IF Avoidants suffered childhood neglect, you’d think they’d welcome the caring from partners as adult? Why run from what you lacked?

[johnball]

Thanks coach. I really needed to hear this. My understanding of her attachment style was driving me crazy.

[jibberjabber]

My ex told me three weeks ago that I’m a good guy but she doesn’t feel we can recover from disrespecting each other. Fast forward three weeks later and she’s saying she wants to start back talking and miss goofing around with me. Is this a sign of breadcrumbing?

[duckymomo]

we broke up through facetime. Even though i was ready to travel to her place and my tickets are booked but she broke up with me before 3 weeks. She broke up with me because she is scared of doing longer distance since i will go to another country for studying abroad and currently she wants to stay in her country. We ended in anger and in the end she texted me “good bye” and then i texted her back that i understand her decision and wish her the best. Even though i know i could not do anything in this case but i love her so much. It’s only been more than 1 week since we broke up so hope to update soon.

[countdowntorevolution]

really?

I wouldn't be able to respect myself (& I don't think she would either) if I let her come back without apologising for her rude and dismissive attitude towards me.

[Ahicksaf]

can u make a video to explain to us how to handle breadcrumbs from ur ex ? she's breaking no contact with me even after me setting a boundary, and i don't want to block her cz u said not do that. I want her back, but she keeps breadcrumbing me, she's doing this for a long period. She sends a video she asks for favors, she sends a joke, she asks me about my social media activity, she breaks no contact every 2 month and says nothing about the relationship. She's an avoidant and left me for no reason, it was all of sudden

[mihaelasvidbojidar]

I really need this as well Coach Lee thank you thank you so much. I hope you have a blessed Sunday five months ago. My boyfriend broke up with me after five years of relationship. He is an avoidant five months later he came back, but since we’ve been back his back on the same that he was before, and I have to be very careful how I deal with him

[JMaverick-zs]

A dismissive avoidant is afraid of emotional intimacy and will run