Why Men Feel FEAR After They Met The One

#jonathonaslay #datingadvice #whymenfeelfear

[sourgummiez]

My dad met my stepmom kind of the old fashioned way hehe, they just celebrated 20 years of marriage. My dad was single for YEARS while he raised me and when I became a teen and went to live with my mom, he really wanted a relationship and put an ad into the dating section of the newspaper when he was in his early 50s and found his perfect other half. I think it’s such a cute way to meet, so rare ❤️

[sebrinaleepayne-biscardi]

You can't make a mistake, with the right person.💗

[jennlaw]

Sadly, he’s 55, I’m 43 and he lacks emotional maturity. We have attraction, chemistry, compatibility and shared values but I didn’t realize the emotional maturity could be the dealbreaker.

[endigosun]

The tragedy is that many men are never able to admit and address these fears.

[TheAttractionTriggers]

*The best time to love with your whole heart is always now, in this moment, because no breath beyond the current is promised.*

[agnes]

What annoys me the most is that I have the same fears yet I fight against them to make room for love, but the other person can't meet me half way and just decides to end things after everything seemed to be going well, he was the one pursuing me, etc., and I open myself up, show respect towards him, and suddenly "you deserve better... I'm not ready yet". 😢 This is not the first time something like this happens, and it is tiring. I'm as afraid as you are, I've been rejected probably more times than you have, I'm choosing you and bringing a lot to the table but all I ask from you isn't money or anything like that, but true commitment, true love and care, and we can work together everything else. It's frustrating, painful, exhausting, and it's not loving at all (even if the other person pretends they are being "heroic").

[victoriagoodrow]

When it is "real", the fear of "loss" is real.
The same way you lost your son, the danger of going through that pain again is real. That is completely understandable.
You are so right, Jonathan.

[gracia]

They think you're "The One" for him because you're just his fantasy, however, he's NOT the right man for you because he's immature. A one sided relationship never last. He cannot have a good relationship to any women he likes unless he's healed and he's changed.

[sebrinaleepayne-biscardi]

No worries. . . 💗everything will fall into place because what's meant to be is meant to be.💗😁

[Teow_of_Meow]

We communicated well,
and both emotionally mature. Lot of passion and I could see us going somewhere. He was a “Have nots” but faithful we could build. My deal breaker, and this is a common one for us ladies was his inclination and habit for distracting self with porn, lust etc. Spirit has a way of revealing to me everything needed, so ultimately at the end, I had discovered by chance that he was sending sexually charged messages with a stranger. When I asked him, with sincere and calm curiosity if he felt any remorse or regret for his actions and he said no and says it felt innocent - that he was simply “bored” that day. Done. Over. Bye bye.
Still, it hurts. I loved him.

[mikyl-forh]

It's not fear, but if he's a good man, it's awe in the sense that she may be the one and his carefulness is mistaken for fear.

[camirrahcharles]

Gave up dating a long time ago and definitely not about to start again. It makes no sense to go on a bunch of dates just to be left with nothing. I’d rather be alone and enjoy life by myself and these men now days aren’t even worth the time, energy, nor effort.

[leslietylersmith]

Very refreshing to hear things from a man's point of view. It has sometimes felt like men have a secret pact not to let women know their innermost feelings. I'm noticing more & more men are integrating more with their emotional nature & expressing more. Is beautiful. Thanks for putting yourself out here & sharing your perspective🙏😊

[Snale]

Sometimes immature guys can become mature, they just need a little push...Once I was dating a guy who was acting weird at the beginning of the relationship (not calling, rarely texting) and I spoke my truth about us. I told him how we don't need to be together if he doesn't feel the way I do, there are plenty of people out there who may be perfect for us and we don't have to waste time...Than he said, no no, we will change that! And he did, we had a great relationship for 6 years
And I rememeber before we started dating we kissed on a party, afterwards I was expecting him to call me but he didn't. About 2weeks after that my friend's husband said that I have to contact him because he doesn't know where the two of us stand 🤣🤣🤣

[bolotabr]

Life is hard to deal with, dating someone should be easier.

[sardiniangirl]

I am 51 years old how hard does it have to be ... WTF IS WRONG WITH TODAYS MEN

[celiaescalante]

I notice that he doesn't want me to leave when I visit him, but he just swallows those feelings. I asked him if I could stay on his couch and he said no. I am wondering if he thought I just wanted to stay in his couch to save money. I didn't want him to feel used. We're in love so everything is so sensitive. He's 43. I wasted too much thought in complainting to friends that I thought he wasn't interested in me. I shouldn't have listened to his words and should have listened to his body language because on Christmas day, he said he had wanted me to be his girlfriend and he said to me that I told everyone I wanted to marry him. I didn't. He's just too shy to ask me himself, so he made that up to get me to ask him to marry me. That's why his mother asked me why I haven't married him. He seems crazy, but it's just shiness.

[juliewilbur]

After years of living with a man who "loved" me so much he resented how much "power" I had over him, and showed me how on several life threating any man ever again!

[ramonacrawford]

Fear steals our joy when joy is critical to living a life of fulfillment. We all deserve love n joy. Fight through the fear n live your best life Reminder for myself

[lindawhitener]

Thank you Jonathan. I understand well, what you mean in being so vulnerable. I lost my husband to cancer 5 years ago. I needed to get myself in a better place first. It is worth it before finding that right person for me! I have found him after getting to my happy place and passions for myself after my loss. Love you all! Take heart, it is possible to find that love of your life, after getting to your best place, loving yourself first! ❤️🤗😘