Fear of Intimacy Part 1: Spot the Causes & Signs

Dr. Ish Major is a board-certified psychiatrist and relationship, sex and dating expert. In this MedCircle Live Class, Dr. Ish talks to MedCircle host Kyle Kittleson and the MedCircle audience about the causes & signs of fear of intimacy.

Follow Dr. Ish on...

This education will help you cope with..
Fear of rejection
Fear of vulnerability
Abandonment issues / Fear of abandonment
Anxiety around an intimate relationship
Marriage issues
Trust issues
The healthy (and unhealthy) emotions surrounding love, dating, intimacy, and more
Other relationship issues and intimacy issues

#Relationships #MentalHealth #MedCircle

[amandapieciak]

For many women safety is behind this... I can not be intimate with you when there is not trust that I am safe to be vulnerable with you.

[ally]

"The opposite of the fear of intimacy is a sense of worth" MY Head EXPLODES

[masodadominique]

"We all got something we pretending not to know about ourselves" 👈🏿👈🏿👈🏿 Wow!

[valkyreve]

It's the fear of abuse, (n adulthood also)being hurt again for me. It's not always fear of rejection.

[AnnieinKC]

I thnk people are quick to accuse one as having a fear of intimacy, but many times, that person is seeing red flags, and therefore, doesn't want to see the intimacy through. Also, many seem to suggest that the other person is "normal, " when they're NOT. Listening to your intuition is your best protection.

[vickyytoriaaaa]

Wow I love Dr. Ish!! We need him in more videos. It’s so evident how passionate he is in his work

[steffiekensley]

Totally avoidant! Can completely relate. Too many emotionally unavailable people (many of the narcissistic ilk) in my life made me dependent almost completely on myself to the point that if I'm asking for help, I may literally be drowning. Once you identify one narc in your life, you realize you've had many around you with a Cluster-B personality disorder over your lifetime. So, then, the question becomes how do you prove to yourself not everyone is an emotional manipulator and allow vulnerability with safe people only? Where are these precious, amazing people and how do you find them and connect with them when it seems you have a narc target on your forehead?

[karacole]

Totally relate. When your husband wonders if you just don't like him that much but really it's your deep fear of rejection that keeps you distant from him. 😔

[tarameehan]

Dr. Ish is literally blowing my mind. I’m currently watching this and it’s hitting all the notes with me in a way that easy to understand. He’s my new fave on MedCircle. Thank you!

[chaiandmatcha]

2:01 intimacy is me being vulnerable and allowing you to see me, know me and accept me. That leads to love and belongings

18:07 overcoming fear of vulnerability
20:00 mindset of just to be seen

[stPersonStateConsciousness]

31:40 Know exactly what you are doing, why you are doing it, how you feel about it
52:00 Simplicity 👍🏼
53:00 The hardest things are usually the most simple

[jacquelynallen]

Fear of intimacy is the fear of rejection. Mic just dropped!

[saratonnan]

A trained psychiatrist who is totally relatable! He doesn't talk like a "distant" professional. He shares his own struggles and vulnerabilities & thus helps us understand we're "normal" & going to be OK. ❤❤❤
More Dr. Ish, please!

[ambivalent]

Self parenting! When I was in my later 20's through my 30's and into my 40's. I realized I was very very wounded, emothionally/psychologically as well as physically. If someone made a sudden movement near my face, I flinched, and guarded my face. It could be anyone or anywhere. It was reflexive . I knew I needed to protect myself from any more pain, from my parents. I made some powerful decisions, most didn't understand, about distancing from my parents.
I knew nothing of this phrase " parenting yourself ", yet I consciously decided to mother myself.
I took an elementary school photo of myself, where I saw beauty and innocence, and put in my wallet. It represented my vulnerability, my frailty. If certain feelings came forward, I'd pull the photo out, and use words that affirmed my worthiness of love and comfort.

At 61 I still struggle periodically with exposing my feelings and sharing/asking for my needs, only with a partner or for whom I have deeper feelings. It can be so painful, that I tear up. Recently I have found by forcing myself to confront it, which still causes fear, it allows me to feel relief. No matter the outcome.

[RIKISTEVENS]

The things that we are fearing are shaping us more than the things that we love and the things that we aspire to. Great message.

[melfegredo]

You guys have no clue how much I needed this. I have had some traumatic things happen such as emotional and mental abuse from my ex. I have been finding it really hard to be intimate with anyone and trust is very difficult as well. Thank you so much for what you do and all your content it has helped me when I have needed the most help. ❤️

[nicoleshaffer]

Loved it! Kyle, Medcircle wouldn’t be the same without you; you do such a great job bringing out what the listeners need

[le_th_]

He is charming and charismatic (and I'm hearing Dr. Ramani's voice in my head saying, "Run when you encounter charisma". lol).

[allthingslexi]

Some people are afraid of being touched because they don’t know if that person will be gentle and kind.

[mila]

“if you’re gonna get on the islands, make sure you burn the boats” I love this so much—their dynamic is great and kyle is very relatable. Thank y’all for introducing me to Dr Ish !!