The Adult Narcissistic Child

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[jesusfaith]

Almost 3 years no contact with our son, some days are still hard because we have 3 grandkids, I had no choice it was me six feet in the ground at 60 or walk away …..my heart goes out to all you parents that is going through this 😢

[tamarazwinak]

It's been horrible and it never stops. It only gets worse as the years go by. Indescribable pain for any parent going through this tragedy.

[lauraswanson]

It's so hurtful, we sacrifice so much raising our children.

[kathiemihindukulasuriya]

The crazy thing is that if the narcissist is allowed to call the shots by most family members, the one that stands up to them (just by refusing to be controlled and living their own life as they wish) will be blamed by the narcissist and their appeasers as the one who broke up the family - as if accepting abuse is the price you should be willing to pay. I have seen this several times and it always puzzles me that the abusive person is not considered the problem instead of those who say, "No more."

[JH-lspg]

Thank you for this. I had to go no contact with my only adult child for my own health. It’s a heartbreak every day but the alternative is worse.

[authorjessicaahoopes]

The pain of dealing with a narcissistic adult child is so traumatic for parents who love that child so much. Thank you for addressing this kind of relationship. There needs to be a lot more talking about it.

[Temptfree]

And everyone blames the parents for not raising them right. Fact is most parents do not deserve bad treatment. It's NOT always the parents' fault. Parents can have the best morals and the best intentions but narcissistic kids will always see things differently and interpret their concern as an attack.

[jennywager]

They fake care for the elderly parent but have 0 empathy to be caring. Its a complete horror show.

[catalinawoody]

When the behavior of your adult child is negatively affecting you then it is time to step back is the best advice I have heard when dealing with a narcissist adult child. Their childish games of silent treatment, coward act of off and on estrangements, the disrespect, controlling, always needing to be praised, and having to constantly walk on eggshells around them is emotionally draining.

[SamSolasdonSaol]

This is the excruciating relationship where going no contact is still heartbreaking every day.

[naturegirl]

One thing I’ve learnt is if you don’t respect yourself they certainly won’t respect you. Being nice and easily forgiving without them showing any remorse for their bad behaviour is giving them permission to treat you like a dog. Remember the wonderful person you used to be before you had kids. And be that person.

[brookea]

Being sandwiched between adult and child narcissists makes family events EXHAUSTING!! It always affects my mental health no matter how strong I go in and I truly need a day or two to recover. I wish it was different.

[excripto]

It’s always sad to see grown ups act like children and you feel like a babysitter everytime you’re with them.

[philsdon]

Every time I am subjected to my daughters vicious rage, I lose a month. She's so venomous and degrading that I can barely breathe after an attack. Did I make her a narcissist? Perhaps. She had an abusive father and I did everything to compensate for that. Mr. Rogers was my mentor. If I loved her enough she would grow to be her best. My heart still breaks for her. By the way, Mr. Rogers' sons turned out badly. We try and try and then walk away.

[LiveToday]

Received an email from adult son demanding money. Read it and felt emotional and physical pain. Took a deepl breath and the words, " This is what manipulation feels like, " popped into my head. I read the e mail again. From blame to guilt, you owe me, crying victim, attempts to make me sympathetic, gaslighting, it was all there. No threats this time, so that was a plus. I did not respond. It hurts. It is not my fault. It is not going to change. I will protect myself from abuse.

[CS-ivtk]

Thank you for this. Approaching the one year no contact with my 32 year old daughter is very difficult but being in the abuse is worse. It’s a no win situation

[hades_town]

lots of comments from people who had to go no-contact with their own child, major props to the people doing that, that can't be easy at all

[dvawva]

The narcissistic grown child MISSES EVERYTHING that being an adult affords a human being.
It is a crying shame that they don't see it.

[CaraMills]

Thank you for todays topic. I raised a grand-daughter after she was abandoned at 13 by both parents. I hated what her parents did to her, so I tried my best to be mom, dad, and Nana. She has many traits of a narcissistic person. She is now 32 years old. I accept my part in my overindulgence her. This past Christmas I said, I have had enough. I am doing tough love. I was her last family member who had not given up. I feel she has kept me in a prison for 16 years trying to help her. I cannot go on with her in my life. She has chosen a addicted toxic relationship with a person I refuse to associate with. She has ruined enough birthdays, holidays and vacations for me.
I pray everyday for our peace and harmony to return to our family.

[deborahkish]

I haven't spoken to my 46 yr old narcissist daughter in 7 years. She's tried to destroy my life. She told my 2 young grandchildren I was dead twice. She's pure Evil and I never want to see her again.