Don't Do THIS When Someone Has Depression - Dr Julie #shorts

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[DrJulie]

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[sparkeli]

Also to add; we maybe depressed and going through difficult times but that doesn't mean we can't listen and support our friends/ family. As Dr Julie says, talking about other things can help us. Also feeling like we have supported a friend can help us feel useful. After all, depression makes us feel useless.

[LanaPhillips]

There's been moments when someone I love has been struggling and I just didn't have the words. So, instead of making mistakes or saying the wrong thing, I just said, "I don't know what to say to make you feel better, but would you like a hug?"

Worked every time

[elise]

When I told my mom I was feeling depressed she immediately started yelling at me and asked me stuff like "what do you want me to do about that?" angrily. And then later she told me more kindly that she's here for me. But I think her first reaction is very telling. I wish she would have done a tiny bit of research on how to not traumatise her children before she had me.

[simonportlock]

I relate to this so well.

About 2 years ago I just wanted to end. I remember talking to someone and saying 'I'm sick of constantly talking about what's happened to me, I just want to talk about other things. It doesn't matter what, just other things. My situation is dominating my life'. A friend of mine a day later started talking about what we did as students, running around naked in bars after rugby match, etc. I remember saying to him a few days later, 'Thank you. I did mention my situation once, and I had a smile on my face. First time in a couple of years.

[ZA-xsks]

I wish I knew what is and how to deal with depression when my youngest sister was still alive.
I just started to learn the signs and symptoms in depression, and most of it I saw in her.. 😢

[haniyamaimoona]

I was just talking to my mom about how I want to become like doctor Julie after studying psychology. And when we were having an argument about how important listening is my mom said that not everyone can be a good listener. I think since I am the only good listener in my entire family, I am the one who has the worst mental health and am on multiple meds. Just listen! It will help people in ways you cant even imagine

[saanvisingh]

Last year I was dealing with someone drifting into depression. I tried the 2nd and the 4th point but the person kept going back to discussing grief. In the process it became too overwhelming for me and it gradually started affecting my mental health. That was when I advised the person to get professional help and in return I was called selfish and insensitive. But I moved out of that situation, regardless of what the other person thought. Because I think you can help someone else only if you are fine. Moreover you can’t counsel someone and you can’t play the role of a therapist.

[sabertag]

I havent been diagnosed with depression, but I have experienced extended bouts of depression, and I found that 4 is true for the most part. When I'm depressed and am doing something that makes me happy, for the first little bit it feels like I'm ignoring how I feel. But the longer I do the things that make me happy, I stop ignoring how I feel because I don't feel depressed anymore.

[ShyleeOri]

The first one is so real as someone who is depressed when my parents comment on problems i have been aware of and working hard on for five years its like telling me to give up and that all my work was worthless so i give up and also i dont want them to think that if i achieve anything it was thanks to them

[Dobby-qnpy]

Oh that music in the background…. it makes your absolutely right words so powerful 😢

[hope]

That’s so true I have depression and I hope a lot of people listen to you.

[JuviaLockser]

My husband learned quick how to handle me when I’m in my lows. He just gives me hugs, listen to anything I have to say, and asks how he can help me feel better. Sometimes he picks up a treat for me or something. Just little things he knows makes me happy.

[selindafloss]

Coming from a person who has dealt with really bad depression for a long time, these are very VERY true, y’all!!

[fishbowl.]

To add: Don’t compare the depression with your own sadness. It can make them feel like their depression isn’t something they should be feeling

[cassie_m_k]

i agree 💯 percent!!! im am going through some crap, but your videos are truly a blessing to me and you've helped me more than I could've asked for 😊 thank you, god bless your soul 🙏❤️

[TheLazyTangerine]

I have a friend who's depressed and, I know they don't like talking about it, so when I'm with them, I avoid bringing it up and try to make them as happy as I can, and when I manage to make them laugh, I cherish those moments.

[mistystreasurechest]

I always send these little shorts of free wisdom to my son. Thanks so much!

[shinchan]

Dear Dr.Smith, am a student and am struggling with depression. And I have my best frnd who knows this and gives me support. But I need you, you are like a sunshine in my mind full of numb, dark thoughts popping in and out. Plz start making long videos on depression and anxiety.(I have seen ur old vdos but am asking to make more) At least of 10 min. Am sure many people need it. thankyou so much for what u r doing. And it's a warm request to take out some more tym from ur routine and make longer videos. May god bless u

[hellooooo]

Thank you so much ❤️ my friends try to help me but it even makes it worst, i thought it was just my mind, but now i See ir isn't.
Thank you your always helping ❤️❤️💔