You Don’t Lose People. You Return Them | Stoic Philosophy

Most people struggle significantly after losing their loved ones, which seems to be a natural phenomenon. Also, the mere prospect of losing someone close to us triggers anxiety in many. But the Stoics observed that the fear of loss and the torturing distress of grief are consequences of irrational thinking. This video explores Stoic philosophy in the context of attachment, loss of loved ones, and how to deal with being separated from those we care about.

Video: You Don't Lose People. You Return Them | Stoic Philosophy

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00:00 - Intro
01:34 - Our attachments to people
04:34 - People aren't yours
08:08 - Emotional assent
11:13 - Seneca's letter

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[carldawes]

"Imagine loving someone so much that you'd do anything for them."
"Now imagine that someone being yourself."

[mountainhobbit]

the more we try to control something, the more it ends up controlling us.

[ilovethemoon]

One thing I learnt that has helped me when I’ve lost someone important is to realise that the person you lost didn’t make you feel the love you felt, it was you. You created that love and you made them the centre of it but really it was you.

[nimsilva]

“I still love the people I’ve loved, even if I cross the street to avoid them.” -Uma Thurman

[FelixSkura]

Stop breaking your own heart by exaggerating your place in someone else’s life. Don’t be afraid of losing people. Be afraid of losing yourself, when you trying not to lose someone else.

[yvruoom]

Life is not about winning or gaining, it's about accepting and letting go.

[memesinc]

That sick feeling in your gut means that your love was true. Its healthy to feel this way. The difficult task is letting go and not letting it consume us.

[bluesign]

Separating is hard. But sometimes, loving someone means wanting what's best for them and letting their life take them where they need to be.

[xp]

Be willing to walk alone. Many who started with you won't finish with you

[unfixingbowl]

Don’t force situations. Let people do as they please. Only make the effort if it’s returned if not move on in any type of relationship. Only permanent thing in your life is yourself. Everything else is a variable

[jules]

My favorite saying is “I have yet to meet all the people who love ❤️ me!” Makes me appreciate those who were in my life and look forward to those to come.

[gravityclarity]

You can be attached to someone, but not let it consume you. Be ok with being by yourself. It's ok to feel sad when you lose someone you love. But don't let it destroy you.

[MikeJackson]

It's not so much losing the person that hurts, it's the future that you can no longer have together that's worse.

[Raj-tslw]

The only thing you're attached to till your death are your own thoughts, soul and the body. Work on them the most.

[Camila_Gonzalez]

When I think about not being able to see someone ever again then I get this feeling in my chest and it’s so strong .

[janewildly]

This is rough for me having left a 6-yr long relationship. You have to sit still with the pain & let it go. Easy to say, but hard to do. Sometimes the hard part is letting go of the pain, because it felt like if you do let go, you’re losing all of the shared memories. It’s sad.

[zek]

I lost my best friend 6 months before losing my mother, that's a few years after losing my father. The idea they are now returned brings me some comfort, I appreciate this upload.

[felicityduijkersloot]

Real love is letting people go ❤️ just be grateful for the time together

[humairafroz]

One thing which has helped me to get over losses and difficult times and to the time still help is a quote by Haruki Murakami. The quote goes like this "Such wounds to the heart will probably never heal. But we cannot simply sit and stare at our wounds forever".
Hope this relieves you too.

[LydiaLegault]

A dear friend sent me this before we stopped talking. Letting go is so hard. Emotions are so strong. There is peace however in accepting that they were never ''yours'' to begin with. I rewatch this whenever I find myself sad/depressed again that our friendship ended. 😔 It takes alot of strength to let go of attachment. ''Grieve moderately''