5 Things Secure People Just Don't Do

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There are certain things people who are more secure just don’t do.

It’s not necessarily because they don’t want to do these things at times, but because they know that even if doing these things might feel good in the moment, the longer term impact will be unhealthy, detrimental and even have harmful effects on their self-esteem and their sense of self-worth, so they do their best to make a habit of not doing them.

In today’s episode of Good For Me TV, we're going to talk about the 5 things that people who are more secure don’t do (or at least try not to).

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[juliakristinamah]

Which one gave you an a-ha or a big shift?

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SUMMARY :
Secure people mindset
1 they don't feel the need to control everything
2 they don't talk about themselves all the time
3 they don't point out others flaws
4 they don't over apologize
5 they don't try to be perfect

[thebestwillow]

I think fully secure people encourage others, even at things they themselves can't do, because it doesn't make them insecure that someone can do something they can't do.

[mateamargo]

" i'm not great, i'm grateful" i like that

[ultravioletpisces]

Putting other people down is definitely a sign of insecurity.

Actually good to know when you encounter someone who is very cruel and critical.

[carlanorris]

I’ve known only a few truly secure people, and they really do not go around announcing to others that they’re brilliant, accomplished, superior, etc. They appreciate accolades when they come, but if they don’t, that’s okay, too; they just keep doing what they do, knowing that it’s good.

[melissaburrows]

Yes!!! Total agreement that when you become more secure you stop noticing other people’s flaws. You also stop noticing your own flaws. You don’t have to be perfect, and no one else does either.

[ranchoboomerang]

My thing was " fixing " people, I realized I was the one needing my advice and help. I stopped mostly, but still catch myself. Be kind to self and others.

[AsheetBull]

I used to be more laid back and not assertive enough, then I became the bulldozer and that was also unpleasant and problematic. I’m still working on calibrating a healthy balance in my interactions.

[LukeDavisAuthor]

5 things secure people do.
1. They do. They know they have the agency to change the world around them and if they want to change it they just go ahead and change it.
2. They can tell secure people from insecure. Their friends will tend to be secure people and they don't blindly hand out trust to insecure people.
3. They set hard but realistic goals. Their goals will be hard enough to be challenging but are also able to be achieved.
4. They know how to say no.
5. When they give it comes from a place of abundance, not from a hole of need. When they give they don't want or need some form of reciprocation in the future.

[Mathperez-dv]

I know a guy at my work place, his name is David. He is the kind of guy who is so secure of himself, yet so humble, honest, intelligent, gentle & considerate.

[yvette]

Nice! For me, having personal boundaries, being flexible and non-judgmental encourages inner peace.

[ebaystorehustlecachet]

Beware of using "I'm not perfect" as an excuse for doing things you do that hurts others.

[prod.og]

I am so ready to feel more secure with and within myself, from the inside out!

[ryangray]

Julia, you have a lot of followers and I realize you may not be able to read or respond to this, but I just want to put it out to the universe that what you're doing is helping me tremendously, and I know it's helping thousands of other people too.

I'm 38 and recently finally got treated for all my mental and physical illnesses (Bipolar, Chronic Pain, and many other "life issues"). I'm getting a fresh new start on my life after a life of depression, suicidal thoughts, and anxiety. I have always been insecure, put everyone else's needs before me, addictive, basically my "EQ" was in negative numbers. Your videos are giving me a good foundation for healthy behavior... I feel like you're talking directly to me lol.

Thank you so much. I'm forever Grateful 🙏

[sannat-l]

The control bit. I never realised that was an insecurity issue.. I’m so happy to have found your channel. EVERY single video is superb! I feel like you are speaking directly to me. I’ve had life long problems with feeling needy, nervous, insecure, the victim, hating myself and others, being overly jealous etc etc. Thank you for being so brillliant, so professional and for helping out! XX

[xironman]

OMG this is exactly me! This is my entire philosophy. In my last job, my boss’s complaint was that I never bragged about my accomplishments. Just not me. I enjoy time alone. I think that is a great trait in a secure person. This is perfect 👌🏻 thanks so much Julia! Great video!

[lindatorres]

Control yourself, you'll control the world. Secure? It's also called fearless.

[Ilovevintage]

You’re helping me hugely. I’ve neem struggling horribly. Dealing with a lot of toxic people and working to be ok with being the perfectly imperfect person I am. Losing faith in humanity. Especially since I turned 40. I’m hurting so badly inside. I’m trying to work on me. Trying to understand why people act how they do. Why I feel how I do and how to handle people. Thank you.

[katgidds]

I swing between over apologising and not seeing my fault in anything. Also can't make decisions for a group and have always struggled with teamwork - this is why! Thank you for this, given me a lot to think about ❤