3 Reasons You Keep Thinking People Don't Like You (And What To Do About It)

3 REASONS YOU KEEP THINKING PEOPLE DON'T LIKE YOU (AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT) // People with social anxiety aren't strangers to the thinking that people just don't like them or think lowly of them. It's a constant belief that anyone you meet, no matter what the circumstance, is annoyed/irritated/weirded out by you. But why do you keep feeling that way? In this video, I share with you 3 reasons why you keep thinking that people don't like you and how to change that.

I hope you enjoy the video! I'm right there with you.

Asha

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[KarmaBulatovna]

whenever someone is nice to me I think that they think they're doing charitable work

[tominhaledhisfingers]

I keep thinking people are against me, i don't trust anyone. I'm gonna give this time and learn a lot

[JayJonStew]

I'm pretty simple, try to treat everyone the way I would want to be treated. Made sense when I was 6 and just kind of stuck. What I didn't know, is that people will hate you if you are kind. And they will destroy you if they find out it is genuine kindness.

[grapeisking]

I don't necessarily "think it, " because I "know it." I try join in groups, yet I can obviously tell they don't want me, whether they voice out the truth or not. My friends who I thought were friends are now strangers. I want to say I'm being hard on myself, but I can't excuse the fact that what's happening in front of me is the truth. I don't know if I'm doing anything wrong or have done something wrong, or I'm just unlikable. That's why I prefer to stay in my own little area. Then hypocritical people would tell me to step out of my comfort zone and get a life. I've listened to them every single time, and yet I've had the urges of suicide every single time. That's why I'd rather stick to the person that I know best, which is me.

[nicolefausett]

People don’t like me because I’m always happy, and jolly. My coworkers said it many many times

[rf]

I love how u explained narratives, I used to be a bubbly energetic kid in school and people would tell me I’m weird or that I’m not funny if i try make a joke or something and I think thats why I don’t like interacting with people because they won’t like how I behave so I try to change myself to the type of person that I think they would like

[Chris_]

I feel the same way....and I like this. “Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, surrounded by assholes. -Sigmund Freud.

[thebeautyofanempath]

I feel empty, I think about what people may not like about me instead of what I like about them. I had an hard childhood and because I was treated like Cinderella at home, I don't know how to fully be myself without being scared. I never know if someone likes me or not. Will love to talk to you about it, 😒

[rf]

Or if somebody compliments me if they’re with their friends or something like that I will think that they are trying to make fun of me in a secret kind of way

[oanhtran]

I grew up around boys in my family and never knew how to take care of my appearance until sophomore year of high school. I was social, just through out my childhood I experienced awful things with my peers because I was so boyish, did not look as put together, etc. People pretending to be my friend to make fun of me, bullying, etc. Now whenever anyone approaches me at parties I seem to distance myself from them or feel as if they won't like me even if others introduce me to their friends talking about how we would get along. Sometimes it just reminds me of the times people used to approach me to make fun of me in elementary and it prevents me from getting close with anyone even at 17. All I do now is reflect other's behavior at parties when it is a stranger, but whenever someone wants to actually get to know me and I do too, I just get the urge to up and leave.

[JT-gmfk]

This video missed the mark. It puts blame on the individual instead of the people that truly don't like them. A society that is filled with blind followers will often not like the one who proudly chooses to be different. Don't shrink yourself to fit into another's box.

[zendog]

I'm surprised that no one has come up with the concept that you have to like yourself more than anyone else first. This means liking your idiosyncrasies, faults and flaws. Everyone is fucked in their own way and when you like yourself enough you can abandon the idea that you NEED others to like you. The weird thing is that when you drop the need for others to appreciate and like you and just be yourself friends will come into your life naturally.

[Laura-oheq]

What if you are not invited to things all the time by certain people but everyone else is? Surely that is obvious then?

[hafffie]

I think people don’t like me… no… I know they don’t because most people say to me, “you know literally EVERYONE hates you.” And I just pretend I don’t care but I usually end up crying myself to sleep that night…😔

[LlamaFace]

My parents got really mad at me a few weeks ago. And they said I always ruin everyones mood and that I’m the problem. So since then I feel like a social burden on people. I feel like I ruin everyone’s mood and they’re only around me because they feel bad for me. I don’t feel worthy of being liked. I don’t even feel like I hold qualities that someone would like about me.

[uniqueeonee]

This really helps me i was bullied in school A LOT. I think even after years later i have social anxiety disnt healed completely. Thank you for this amazing video.

[TimurTripp]

Your channel needs more exposure. This stuff is definitely true for me. I always interpret things negatively!

[kierancooper]

The more and more I watch videos like these it confuses me more and more about issues I may or may not have and it really hurts my head thinking about them. Yay.

[queenofthebutterflies]

Thankyou SO much, Asha. I was abused and bullied at school, not only by close ex ''friends'' but the entire school and also staff. I left home due to really bad abuse and was basically a street kid except I looked older and so met older men. 1 man took me in and another had me as his GF. Looking back, I can see how sick this dynamic was and that it was also very traumatic. Around 16-17 of my ex-boyfriends and close friends either OD'd on purpose or blatantly suicided by the time I was 23/24 yrs of age so when I am around other 'normal' people I just can't relate. I've spent so many hours in NA meetings and in ashrams and have had such a full on life I feel like normal people can 'tell' that I'm not like them 'cos I'm kinda not!! I really struggle with small talk.
I really like and appreciate the advice you've offered here and have copied your url and will come back and watch when I'm going to be around them, ie. before school drop off and pick ups and on weekends b4 football or b/dayparties. I never realised that it was social anxiety but it does make sense.

[hiddenname]

I used to worry and overthink about this. But then I realized that I cannot do anything about it. I cannot make everyone like me. I stopped worrying and just live my life, one day at a time. More at peace with myself now. I remember this one time I joined a Lego group. They didn't seem to want me or other new members in general. I tried it for a year to give them the benefit of the doubt. Nothing changed. So I stopped coming to meetings without notice. Don't miss them. I play my Lego on my own, and more at peace. 🙂