Dating Over 50: Texting Do's and Don'ts? 5 Tips for Classy and Romantic Texting!

How do we put texting to work for us dating over 50? What are texting do’s and don’ts? In our 20’s, leaving a nervous voice mail was likely the extent of our dating faux pas and technology concerns. Today, we have online chats, e-mail and texting. How can we make texting our ally dating over 50? Dating and Relationship Expert Bob Grant, explains how texting can help or hinder your chances of finding love after 50, and offers 5 easy tips for classy and romantic texting when dating after 50.

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[sandrablake]

Very informative 👏! I’m 78 and most SENIORS I KNOW TEXT. I ENJOY TEXTING BUT I LEARNED THE MORE A MAN HEARS MY VOICE THE MORE HE BONDS WITH YOU. DESIROUS OF YOR PRESENCE!!! I like that because it ties in with SILKE’s comment about “ I LIKE BEING WITH YOU. I ENJOY TALKING WITH YOU YOU AND LEARNING ABOUT YOUR HOBBIES/TRAVELS ECT.”

[kathryncothern]

Texting has its time and place. Phone calls are preferred. However, have to consider someone’s day and evening schedules, where texting works better than getting on the phone. ❤😊❤

[stacyjaye]

Regarding texts, when you first meet someone, you don't want to just be busting into their day. In other words you need to have a good outline of what their day is like before randomly texting them. Less is more.

[lindapeck]

Interesting topic. My boyfriend and I text a couple of times a day. We share interesting articles from the news or send a silly meme. I enjoy knowing he’s thinking of me. Sometimes it’s easier to say something via text than in person. We haven’t said the “L” word yet, but call each other darling or sweetie via text in a playful way. So I guess we’re testing the waters?

[abart]

This was a timely topic as I just was talking via Messenger with a man I dated and I decided I preferred us to be friends (and he agreed) because I wasn't interested in getting married again. He texted a reply and I asked him to clarify and he said "It was meant as sarcasm" which I then replied with "yeah, can't understand sarcasm in texting". He said "Agreed, same goes with emotions". 🤔I left that alone since I wondered if he was hinting at something because for me the emoji's are really getting good for conveying emotions. If it's a serious or important situation, a phone call would be better anyway. Thanks again, I'm still learning from your videos, Thank you Silke for starting this just when I needed it. Still not internet dating but looking at joining some active groups around the area. I like the in person meeting so much better because you can learn a lot more about a person instantly!

[saraiannaccone]

In texting, a man and I connected for one month . When we met, it was a different story. We had coffee and conversation but there was no connection in person. He was respectful and kind. I texted him thanking him for a nice afternoon. He thanked me too. After that, he ghosted me.

[josephpalen]

I may need to watch this video again. At the same time I think it's over analytical. Some of the comments are interesting to read what other people think. It's a pretty convenient way to communicate. At the same time it's sad people don't make time to be together. Sometimes I am so sick and tired of just texting and never getting to be in the physical presence of some one for days, weeks, months, and years at a time. Now they have apps to text with an AI. It makes me think what is this world coming to? How much social isolation can one person handle?

[KathleeninMexico]

Hi Silke, I agree with you concerning the amount of time spent texting or emailing and also their attention to detail in the crafting of said messages. I'm sure many people would say, what's the big deal? But to me it shows a desire to create a careful message and that language is important.

Also, too much time writing before meeting. Over the years I have learned that this is a big no no. Text or email to meet and then leave it. I have fallen in love with many a man's words only to be disappointed upon the first meeting. Even one phone call can change the mood.

Overdressing. Bob. Yes. Please make that mistake. It's much better than meeting a guy who is in sweats or just after a run who really didn't care to make an effort when we have to do hair, make-up and put together an outfit to impress.

[patrickwade]

I think texting can be a good quick way of communicating in some ways, especially when people are too busy to be able to talk, a quick text can be an effective way to let you know they are thinking about you, but it also can be very impersonal. I was in a relationship and texting each other was used for a quick message. We both preferred to hear each other’s voice. In the end, she used a text message to break up with me. The next girl I dated never wanted to talk on the phone, it was almost always lots of texting. My friends our age thought that was weird. Granted, her job was the type that texting was way easier than spending the time a call would take. Ultimately though the texting became more impersonal, which I think is inevitable. That girl broke up with me via an email….go figure. Sometimes I think we were better off having to communicate actually talking.
Good show today.

[amygalvin]

I agree. Continuous texting ( especially before meeting) is rather pointless. If a man has intentions of meeting you for a date 3 texts / phone call should suffice. I believe there are serial texters for quick hits for a ego high. Also, if you’re over 50 please don’t over do the abbreviations. The have there place, but It’s a bit childish.

[siobhanmcgregor]

I'm going back on the market at 50. I'd rather study a degree in chemistry than bother atm.

[JCHAN-qdrz]

What about long distances for extended time? It is hard to use simple short texting when sharing details with your lover. The option to chat in texts if a phone is not available .

[brandonb]

Due to my attachment issues, i have no intention of meeting, so i watch as she loses interest, and feel comfort that they vhoose to end it, so i wont have a potential stalker.

[diverdave]

Loved this, dated someone who would never talk on the phone, won't be doing that again. OK quick question, I meet a lady at a singles party, we hit it off and are going on a date in a weeks time, I work away for a week at a time then home for a week, is a short text a day in the mean time to let her know she's on my mind OK? keen on your thoughts

[Wildevis]

This has left me a lot to think about, very interesting conversation and will definitely make me think when I text again. I also hate the abbreviations, I do text like I speak and also get irritated with too many abbreviations except from ym daughter lol, but even she writes full words and sentences. I like complimenting/thanking my friend when he does something good for me and he loves it and he says he then feels he wants to do more to get that appreciation. I also like to just say I like to be with someone, that I enjoy their company and conversation

[woodliceworm]

I hate texting - I have to do it at work it means stopping what you're doing or pulling over in the Van, finding reading classes, working out the spell checker, and constant typing the wrong letters as your fingers tend to push multiple buttons. That's work even worse when trying personal texts, same as messenger used to be, any text can be used as evidence of your multiple faults. Three-word replies are ok or texts like np, or yes are good in fact the new phone has all the replies built in. I get what Bob is saying here, however, for those who take days or even years to think of a good reply, or never see hints or come-ons, an instant response technology can be a menace.
Texting is for the HCM and good luck to them, now I'm just going to slip into my dinosaur cave and hide from the world. (oddly I always loved the vid phones on Thunderbirds, In one company I worked for, we finally got those phones and most people turned off the video - I can see those phones being more useful in dating - yes I know FB can do that but not the same as a standard phone and talking to the person almost like being there..

[NancyDrew]

I love a good mystery... Silke how do you pronounce your name? Bob seems to pronounce it differently than your other guests😉. Hmm... 🤔 Would you be so kind as to help me solve this mystery? 🔎. Love the show!💕

[DougHardy]

Great tips; however, you’re making the assumption that I actually have a woman’s number to text.

[olrailbird]

Useful advice over all but the major gaffe at 6:18 chucks everything else to the side.

Men should NEVER ask for exclusivity. That is a major red flag, ladies. You will not enjoy dating a beta male who has to know where he stands.

Real men won't beg for a relationship and they won't be the first to say I LOVE YOU.

Women are the gatekeepers of sex, but men gatekeep relationships. Ignore this at your peril.

[sandrablake]

Very informative 👏! I’m 78 and most SENIORS I KNOW TEXT. I ENJOY TEXTING BUT I LEARNED THE MORE A MAN HEARS MY VOICE THE MORE HE BONDS WITH YOU. DESIROUS OF YOR PRESENCE!!! I like that because it ties in with SILKE’s comment about “ I LIKE BEING WITH YOU. I ENJOY TALKING WITH YOU YOU AND LEARNING ABOUT YOUR HOBBIES/TRAVELS ECT.”