How to Be Unforgettable on a Date | Matthew Hussey

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When you’re dating in 2022, you can almost be sure that the person in front of you on that first date is dating multiple people at the same time. This omnipresent truth can make you nervous as you so desperately want to stand out from the crowd.

The truth is, we all want so badly to be unforgettable on a date . . . but actually making that happen can feel tricky.

In the pursuit of “making someone like us,” we may give in to the knee-jerk reaction of trying to impress them, or worse . . . people please.

Even though we told ourselves we’d be chill and genuine, we suddenly find ourselves working our most spectacular moments into conversation, hoping they’ll see us for the treasure we are.

Or we get so nervous that our walls go up and we lose all warmth and become sarcastic and cutting instead.

These performances will often have us showcasing the more insecure sides of ourselves, taking the focus away from the purpose of being on that date in the first place: connection.

But luckily, truly connecting—and making yourself memorable—is much simpler than that.

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[ryushizu]

2:17 1) 'Start on The Ground': Instead of broad questions, share recent things from your life and how you felt about it
4:31 2) 'Connect, Don't Coach': Instead of 'coaching' someone, empathize and connect instead
7:47 3) 'Listen and Capture': Instead of passively, listen actively and show that you understand what the person said

[MrYoko]

11:00
My counselor always used to say, “Being heard is so close to being loved that most people don’t know the difference”

[jjc]

So basically be open, show vulnerability and be an active listener without giving much advice (unless asked)? Done.

[mundea]

I know that Matthew's content is tailored towards women, but I like hearing his insights to see topics like this from an alternative view-point

[xuxagirl]

One of the beautiful things my partner does for me is asking me if I want her to try to fix it, or just to listen. It’s so nice to have someone understand the difference.

[Baybiedoll]

My toxic trait is being a fixer so I totally offer advice and perspective when someone confides a particular issue or problem they're having. Ugh. I definitely try to work on it. But it's a habit that's so hard to break.

[kristenlobstein]

I love how your advice goes so much deeper than just being on a date. The first date is important but first impressions last a lifetime. Being a decent human by listening and understanding the people you’re with makes you unforgettable.

[rihannagirl]

Forget first dates! You've beautifully captured what it means to have a great conversation with anyone-That's incredible. Thank you Matthew.

[riddlen]

“Capturing the essence of what someone else has expressed to us…because we really listened…because we built intimacy.”

[sadiaali]

Indeed. Being a great conversationalist is about two things: creating intrigue and interest, and creating emotional connection.

[NathalieLazo]

This message is for someone who needs to hear this and will fully understand it... You are not define by your circumstance or your past. It’s not what happened to you that determines your success in life; it is how you deal with those circumstances that determines your success in life. You are strong, you are capable and practice forgiveness (Forgiveness is for you; forgive your parents or anyone whom we have chosen to hurt us, to begin the process of healing and freedom. Remember: Forgiveness is for you to be freed, healed and happy. It’s a RESET BUTTON) and practice gratitude everyday. This will change the course of your life forever. Love you always and I believe in you wholeheartedly no matter what ✨❤️ - Nat

[elainegeber]

What you share in your work is teaching me to be a better human. I know I have not always been a good listener, so I need to focus on that skill, and really be in the moment, be present, be focused not distracted and ready to jump in, allow you to fully have my attention.

[robymtzt]

Love the advice of not looking for something eventful to happen to us. We can talk about our day to day because that's what you will look for in a partner, someone to connect with on just basic topics .

[priscillaandraos]

THIS MAN IS GENIUS ! HE KNOWS OUR HUMAN NATURE AND HIS WORDS CAN BE USEFUL FOR EVERYTHING IN LIFE BEYOND DATING. I HAVE LOYALLY WATCHED HIS VIDEOS AND HE NEVER FAILS TO MAKE EXCELLENT APPLICABLE POINTS. PEOPLE SEEK TO BE UNDERSTOOD AND HEARD.

[sarahhalawa]

I love how you analyze things and human emotions, literally a genius

[lizzysalway]

Something I have noticed in your videos is that you are also learning and developing and your energy is growing accordingly. Thanks so much for the reminder that it’s not an exam, because whilst I want to keep learning and developing, I can think I need to be perfect. Thanks for demonstrating what you are advising. We appreciate you!

[coleniyo]

Thank you, Matthew! This video is so full of gold nuggets for all aspects of relationships in life…not just dating. I’m learning so much!

[liz_lemon]

I'm impressed by the self reflection in the beginning! It makes you and what you do a lot more authentic.
This is a good example for all of those "Do these 3 things and I guarantee you'll get married in 6 months" so-called coaches.

[siuzannavyshneva]

I love Matthew's Sunday preachings! And he touched on writing!! Standing ovation!! 👏👏👏✨

[violetmartha]

I certainly made an impact on a first date after watching a video that told me to " Start on the ground" ... He walked into the restaurant and there I was, waiting for him, laying on the floor 😁