Therapist Reacts RAW to Personality vs Looks

Therapist Reacts RAW to Personality vs Looks //

Welcome to "Therapist Reacts Raw" where my producer gives me videos about relationships or mental health that I've never seen before and I react, live in the moment with no prep time. Strangers rank themselves by attractiveness, personality vs looks. Watch this video to see how therapist ranks this video.

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[thebowandbullet]

There are lots of attractive people I'm not attracted to. I can recognize that they're conventionally "good-looking", but they don't do anything for me. I find attractiveness is a combination of looks and personality/values. I also find asymmetrical faces really interesting and attractive.

[roselover]

"I wouldn't say I'm attractive or unattractive, I'm just here." Most relatable line i've heard in a long time XD

[kelseybetsey]

Based on his personality, Conrad was the most attractive person there (IMO)

[LailaDragoness]

One of my favourite quotes ever from Doctor Who fits this video perfectly. The character Amy (played by Karen Gillan), who is portrayed in the show as a very beautiful woman, is speaking about her husband Rory (played by Arthur Darvill), who's portrayed as a more mediocre looking man:
"You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful, and then you actually talk to them and five minutes later, they're as dull as a brick. Then there's other people and you meet them and you think, "Not bad, they're okay." And then you get to know them and... and they're face just sort of... becomes them, like their personality is written all over it. And they just... they turn into something so beautiful.
Rory's the most beautiful man I've ever met."

[wijcik]

Appearance gets you in the door, but personality keeps you in.

[stardusstie]

There is such a fine line between confidence and cockiness. I personally could never be attracted to someone that would so unabashedly say “I belong at the top of the line”. But it’s also not attractive to be really insecure and point out your own flaws constantly. I think Conrad was the most attractive person here because of his humility and his relaxed attitude about everything.

[Arob]

I like how the girl didn’t want a nose adjustment for just looks, it was for the utility of wearing glasses

[Olivia-xfgy]

Conrad was the most attractive to me based on his personality and thus his overall looks haha he may have rated himself the "lowest" but he actually seemed the most comfortable in his skin

Personally, I think to the world it looks like I don't care about looks cuz I've dated people "tall" and "short", "thin" and "athletic" and "fat" and "obese", etc. But definitely i think physical attraction is hugely important!! It's just that the personality is so much more important and that's what brings out the individual physical beauty a person has. When I look at my husband, to the world he may seem short and scrawny, but I see his hard working hands, his kind eyes, his strong shoulders that are constantly carrying and piggy backing our kids, his bright smile that lights up my day, etc.

[LifeisFoo]

I'm not going to be naive and say that looks don't matter. However, personality can really make a huge difference. I've met people who are objectively physically attractive but their personality is so off-putting that they are ugly to me. I've also met people who I would have considered neutral when it comes to looks, but their personality shines so much that it makes them incredibly attractive. And I love that you touched on this.
One of my good friends, who has issues with self-esteem, posted pictures of himself that were "altered" to show what he would look like if he were from different cultures. They were all altered to make the person more attractive. But when I first saw it, I was confused because I initially thought that they must not have changed anything. I honestly did not see a difference between what he actually looks like versus the altered photos. And I let him know that. That the altered photos, I feel, are what he looks like when he smiles.

[guenwinters]

As a fellow demisexual, it really comes down to who the person is. I've found people I was not physically attracted to at first in any way, but found after getting to know them, I did find them attractive. Then others who I knew were objectively attractive, I did not find attractive after getting to know them.

[nataliedickens]

Jonathan’s ending point about focusing on being attractive to the right people, and not most people really got me. To figure out first who you want in your life and then work on attracting that particular person rather than the people you aren’t actually interested in, or the world at large.

[angelahepworth]

What I have found attractive in the past is a person who can walk into a room and lift others up without putting themself or others down. Attractiveness for me is a mixture of confidence and where the person’s focus is.

[Zhenyaka]

Personally, for me, the importance of someone’s looks starts to diminish over time
For example, when I meet someone, I can’t help but rate them in my mind, put them on an attractiveness scale from 1 to 10. Also, their hair plays a big role in that (cause I have alopecia, I’m bald, and I like to look at other people’s hair because I don’t have mine).
But the longer we interact, the more my vision starts to “blur”, and I genuinely lose my ability to rank them on that scale, I can’t anymore cause now they are so much more to me than their looks

[jordanparker]

Definitely a combination for me. There are people who, objectively, I’m like “yeah, they’re definitely cute/hot”, but it’s entirely uninvolved and unemotional if they’re just strangers that I see in passing. There’s a complete disconnect. I don’t necessarily start thinking or observing them as a “sexual” entity or someone that I’m sexually attracted to until I talk to them and see what they’re like as actual people. Likewise, there are people that I wouldn’t think were conventionally attractive under passerby circumstances, but I adore their personalities and who they are as people, which completely flips the narrative.

[johnnydark]

Conrad is the most attractive by look and personality. I know why he was on least side just because he is so nice, didn't want to offend anyone and knew that other people in the room care so much about their look, and others didn't say anything because they knew it's better to not bother people, who wanted to be on the top. But still he didn't deserve to be on the bottom, someone should've stand for him

[aimeeontheharp]

This definitely had a lot of issues as a study. When they were blindfolded, they all still described what they looked like, rather than getting to know each other. I agree that they all should have done their own ranking anonymously. The blonde girl really ran things; I wasn’t even sure if she was one of the participants at first!

[oopsididitagain]

When it comes to attraction for me, it normally is a pair of how they look and the personality

[Startingpointtraining]

I like your idea of making it a secret ballot. I'd also like to see it done with the rule that they *aren't allowed* to talk about their appearance. That would be the bigger indicator of looks vs personality in attraction. Most of their discussion was describing their appearance, which is probably why the results came out similar.

[Anastashya]

The therapist is the most attractive 😳. Personality and appearance 🥰 I feel sorry for the young ones because they’re really being put on the spot.

[theetherealshaye]

I’m autistic and I don’t understand the way our society views attractiveness. I’ve had issues with the way I look in terms of how society views me, but when looking at how I view other people, I don’t compare. I view people as though they are in a vacuum. I focus on the way their facial features fit together like a jigsaw puzzle, and how their style and fashion sense showcases their personality, and brings out their facial features. I focus on the whole, not parts. I find unique styles the most appealing to me because of this, and so when people are giving numbers to each other, I don’t get it, because those numbers are arbitrary. They don’t encapsulate the physical harmony within an individual person.