How To Stop Hating Yourself!

Recently Self-Hatred or Self Loathing has a been subject a lot of you have asked about. So today, we're going over ways in which we can stop hating ourselves.

We hear it all the time.. You just have to believe in yourself, or say some positive affirmations each day it will make you feel better. Or one that I mention frequently, you should talk more nicely to yourself because it can improve your mental health. While all of these things are true, and they can in fact help us feel better about ourselves, it can be hard to go from, you are so stupid and lazy! To...You are amazing and so good at everything!

Cause suddenly saying positive things just isn’t going to work. Sure we can say it, but we aren’t going to believe it, so we aren’t going to keep doing it. It can feel like a waste of time and frankly, stupid! Since we know talking more kindly to ourselves is key to fighting anxiety, stress, depression, body dysmorphia and many other mental health issues, how can we change the way we talk to ourselves without feeling like a total fraud? This is where bridge statements come in! They bridge the gap between the negative and sometimes downright nasty thoughts and the positive ones. And here is how they work....

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[kbkoolaid]

Thank you! I've been struggling with feeling unlovable and having a low self worth. This video helps so much.

[paleobc]

I’m glad Kati finally took on toxic positivity

[rm.makes.me.smile_]

Something I've found that helps me is when I think something bad I catch myself and add the word "sometimes" to it.

For example:
"Oh my god I'm so ugly... sometimes. Not all the time, but sometimes"

Or

"I make such stupid decisions...sometimes. Sometimes I make stupid decisions, but not all the time. Maybe this time I did, but maybe next time I wont"

This may or may not work for others but it's helped me feel a lot more open to the possibility that I'm not as sucky ALL the time as I think I am.

[bellaandsevy]

This video COULD be the start of people’s recovery, just maybe

(Edit Holy Crap thank you I did not expect that many likes thank you)

[pickledoe]

“We have to live with the idea that our negative thoughts that could be wrong. Thoughts are not facts, they are not based in research, and they are not unbiased” wow... just wow... that hit home. 🥺🖤

[genn]

“I’m so annoying and that’s why no one likes me” “I might not actually be that annoying and unlikable”

[minthint]

I tried the positive affirmations but it was so stressful because I didn't believe them and it didn't feel like it was doing anything. Thank you so much for mentioning this, it takes the stress off of going from really negative to really positive.

[sarahjo]

My positive affirmation for today is actually along these lines: I believe in the person I dream of becoming.

[louise]

Sometimes I feel as if I don’t deserve to be kind to myself and I don’t deserve anything that’s happy and that’s hard

[staybalancedn]

This came right on time. God is trying to tell me not to give up

[MatRoush]

"It's POSSIBLE that" Kati Morton is the greatest person on YouTube.

[KeifusMathews]

Self-Hatred is my main cause for my depression so happy you decided to talk about this, get some popcorn folks and enjoy the message, thanks Kati~

[macandcheese__]

"maybe i could, some time in the future, be lovable and happy" is literally the only thought that's helped me live this long.

[lastpidigit]

girl you made me cry at work, please never stop making these videos, you are a ray of sunshine <3

[madipetrowski]

I've had countless therapists tell me to talk kindly to myself, but I couldn't just all of a sudden start telling myself I'm amazing cuz I won't believe it. This is what I needed. More therapists need to say this.

[cathykley]

Yep bridge statements are very effective stepping stone. Funny, my husband started me on bridge statements and we didn't even know that was a thing! Lol Now I've been able to switch over to positive statements that I almost half believe! Progress!

[jennifer]

I was abused by my dad every single day for 18 years, in every way except sexually just because I am a girl and not a boy like he wanted. Every day I heard from him that I was stupid, dumb, would never amount to anything. For many years now I have been struggling to regain my sense of positive self worth and self-esteem. This is the first time I have ever heard of bridge statements. Thank you tremendously for this!!!!

[DarisT-qcfw]

I came here searching for how to stop hating myself, but after watching, I realized that I don't hate myself, but I hate the circumstances that I'm in and I resent the people around me.

[annagajda]

When it's sometimes hard for me to get up from bed and I think "I can't get up. I'm so tired and scared and paralised and I don't want to do anything" I start to think instead "You are able to move, it's possible for you to take this one leg out of bed, and then another and so on" and I focus only on this task - to get up and do anything. It's something a bit different from what you've talked about, but it's also kind of a bridge statement to the one "I want to get up and do things".

[michaelsharpe]

Extremely positive statements can also get you into trouble. Like "I am better than anyone else". I work as computer programmer and I used to say to myself "I am brilliant". I finally realized this caused problems, because I was always trying to impress people or setting unrealistic goals in terms of my career. I did some thought on how to replace the statement "I am brilliant" with something else.
I came up with the new statement "I enjoy analyzing things and figuring things out". This was helpful because I could focus more on doing my job correctly and not trying to impress people. I found little situations where I could analyze something just for my own enjoyment or it helped me understand something that was related to my job.