you will become what you hate about yourself

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SOURCES
Collected Works of Carl Jung: Jung, Carl G., author. (2014). Collected Works of C.G. Jung. Volume 16, Collected Works of C.G. Jung, Volume 16 ; Practice of Psychotherapy. Princeton, NJ :Princeton University Press

Effectiveness of Jungian Psychotherapy: Roesler C. Evidence for the effectiveness of jungian psychotherapy: a review of empirical studies. Behav Sci (Basel). 2013 Oct 24;3(4):562-575. doi: 10.3390/bs3040562. PMID: 25379256; PMCID: PMC4217606.

The Persona and the Shadow in Analytic Psychology and Existentialist Philosophy: Bolea, Ștefan. (2016). The Persona and the Shadow in Analytic Psychology and Existential Philosophy. Philobiblon. 21.

Quote on Jung and Liminality: Robert Pelton in Young-Eisendrath and Dawson eds. 1997, 244

[journey_to_a_million]

I hate being rich (lets hope this works)

[jacrispy]

So basically the world needs more tricksters. Time to start my silly arc

[pxo]

“you’re everyone you hate, and it’s ruining your life” -giles corey

[laaaliiiluuu]

It's like crashing your car: The more you focus on not hitting that tree next to the road the more you will steer your car towards that tree because that's where your focus lays. You become what you focus on.

[tonypark]

wake up honey it’s time for our weekly dose of existential crisis

[ReynaSingh]

“Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual's conscious life, the blacker and denser it is. If an inferiority is conscious, one always has a chance to correct it.” Carl Jung

[crystalwaters]

the other day my therapist told me people don’t not want to hangout with me because they dislike me, it’s because I don’t show myself enough to give them the option to like or dislike me blew my mind 🤯

[GavenJr]

Be based.
Embrace the cringe.
Grow out of your self hate.
Aknowledge your projections.
Give yourself a chance.

And above all, know that:
Without dark, one cannot know light.

[Dominis.]

We really should let ourselves fail more often. Unfortunate that the socioeconomic climate is so unforgiving, making it really hard to forgive even on a personal level

[keroli]

it's kind of comforting and scary how your videos are perfectly timed to my life

[millie.k]

I remember hating smoking as a kid. I would actually go up to smokers as a child and politely ask them to please quit smoking for their health. As an adult, I began smoking.

I remember as an adolescent how much I loathed the idea of ever working on a farm. As an adult, I took a job working on a farm and it was one of the most beautiful times of my life.

There are so many cases like this in my life, and I always wondered if there's a part of us that has such a deep love and wishes to abolish all extreme opinions, and the only way it can genuinely achieve that is to experience the world of the despised opposite, so as to fully comprehend what we are scrutinizing with greater context.

All of this happened unconsciously, in that it took years for me to recall, "Hey, I actually loathed smoking as a child didn't I?" and, "hold on, I remember how intenesley the idea of boots in mud repeled me." I was pretty shocked and a little perplexed with these revelations.

I wonder if that is what this shadow is.

[mina]

The flaws we find in others are often the ones we fail to find in ourselves.
That's what I tell myself since I heard it as a kid, over and over. It's been very helpful.

[coreyroberts]

I especially like the part on shadow work being fueled by friendship. Real friends pull no punches and want you to be the best version of yourself; not by telling you to do it, like a parent, but going through it with you in the field, even if it’s redundant for them

[burnbabies]

That section about being jealous of assertive people hit right at home. I changed for the better in that aspect of my life but god that example made me feel less alone. I used to be known as the nice guy all the time who loves everyone but i just didnt have the balls or energy to tell others what i hated about them. I started emancipating myself from that by being overly direct and mean but now im well balanced between flexible with others and assertive

[montenegroafro]

I LOVED how you used Spongebob and Patrick as your examples for expressing your shadow. When I watch Spongebob, he always wants to be nice and not hated by others so he’s always obedient, but sometimes it can be too much to the point he lashes out his frustration/assertiveness in a negative way. For example, the episode when he let Squidward sleep in his bed for being homeless and Spongebob had to be the maid (literally) for every request Squidward made. This of course led to the climax when SpongeBob busted Squidward out of his house and choked Mr. Krabs to force him to give Squidward his job back! 😂

[Moniversity]

But what if embracing your shadow makes you be hated by others? What if being true to yourself leads to your friends beginning to dislike and reject you?
On the one hand I want to be authentic, because that's the only thing making me be truly happy - on the other hand I don't want to be lonely, as people begin to hate me as soon as I show all facets of my personality. This vicious circle is making me crazy.
I feel like a bad person, like someone whose true identity doesn't correspond with the rest of society. I feel like I'm evil. I know it's not true, but it's hard for me to still hold onto this believe when putting my mask down leads to others suffering.

[JomfoboIsSigma]

we probably hate ourselves because of how people in public/ online represent it. We really don't want to become that type of person but deep down we truly are one of them

[CrudDeposit]

So don’t hate yourself, see what needs to be pruned and make yourself into what you love.

Edit: pruning off stuff like bad habits, not your shadow self 💀💀💀

[floydblandston]

My wife expressed a frustration she had with me, as she put it; "you hate people, but you're friends with everyone and everybody likes you!"- it was quite well said. I'd say that I'd embraced my shadow, and could dislike 'the lower qualities' of human being, including my own, which then freed me to love our shared humanity. Having happened before I'd read Jung, I was at a loss then to explain the paradox.

[peachaesthxtic]

Exactly.. i hate the fact that im innocent, emotional, stupid, weird, sometimes cringe and embarrassing, ugly, etc.. and i find these things the hardest to hide.. i hate myself that im so naked and exposed i cannot maintain double identities or be 2 faced like others.. i also have depression and anxiety which makes me come off as socially awkward and anxious and no matter what its so hard to hide it