Why Do I Hate Myself? How To Stop Hating Yourself (Self Hatred)

Bestselling author, Noah Elkrief, explains exactly what causes self hatred, why you hate yourself (shocking), & how to stop self hate.

The written blog post explains things in more detail:

Would you like to know the answer to the question "Why do I hate myself?" This video will explain exactly how to stop hating yourself, and how to stop self hate and self hatred.

Noah Elkrief

This video is about how to stop hating yourself. If you think "I hate myself" or you believe that you have self hatred, the only thing causing this hate is thoughts. Your particular attributes, qualities, and circumstances may seem to be causing your self hatred. But, in any moment that you don't think about it, there is no self hate. If you would like to know how to stop hating yourself, the first point is to recognize that self hate comes from thoughts, and the next step is to investigate the validity of those thoughts.

[lastdoritosbag]

I hate myself
I have crooked teeth
I'm lonely
Socially awkward
Make everything worst for myself....
But when you see me
I seem like the happiest person alive

[tarxlanter]

it's sad that I had to look this up

[ingerfie]

I always do thing I regret. I go home and cry until I dont have any tears left. "Why did I do that?" "What will people think of me?" Im hitting myself in the head a thousand times. I want to fall asleep so I can have a bit of fake hapiness, until I wake up and suddently remember everything.I just want to die.

[morinokaeru]

When he said "when you play with your friends"...I don't have friends

[douglas]

I don't exactly hate myself, I just don't believe in myself. I can't see anything good about me, I don't feel happy about what i do and i can't stop nailing myself down for everything i do. No matter how hard i try, i can't please myself. i don't set the bar to high in anyway, I just don't believe in anything i do. I have no friends, not one. No-one likes me. I try to be happy, but i can't, i try and please others but i can't. Nothing i do has any achievement in my mind.

Thanks for this. It helped.

[TheRealGalaxysMelody]

I don't understand. I hate myself every moment, every day. There is never a time I do not hate myself. I can see that it is a thought and yes sometimes I am not always thinking it because I get destracted ..but that doesn't mean I don't always hate myself. I factually do hate myself. if I could play god and change everything about myself I would if I could.

[hoodyhoo]

I hate myself because of acne, very dry skin, a big lump on my forehead (always wear a hat), crooked teeth, not witty or charming, very socially awkward, and I have anxiety all the time. However if you knew me you'd think I was a happy person.

[thomasmorgan]

Good advice but I still really do hate myself, I wish I was not in this world

[CuddleSeason]

I hate myself. But I have nothing to complain about. Living in a huge house with a lot of luxury and being healthy, but really, I do hate myself. I have the feeling no one can understand me. My interests, my way of thinking and plenty of other things. While my friends are getting girlfriends it just doesn't happen to me. I am lying to people, even pretending things to myself. It's almost like I am isolating myself from the reality. But yeah, who would give a single fuck...

[target]

*My stupid little self-hate issues*

I just want to accomplish something and help people and become self-reliant, even though the mere thought of it is scary. I hate that I don't live up to my own standards of being productive and helping people, and I hate that I'm supposed to be gifted and have so much potential and yet I'm lazy and I don't even try.
I hate that I hate myself. Hating myself lets down the people who love me and makes me even less self-reliant. I don't trust myself, can't even accept myself. People tell me I'm great and smart and get A's and I know my family loves me and I love them... but I hate myself because I can't be good enough, I can't even say out loud that 'I love myself' because of it all.
I also hate myself because I hate myself, and I can't mock or dismiss the thought because I'm so sick and twisted that I'm almost proud that I hate myself, and I feel like if I were to love myself it would be terribly egotistical. But then I feel like even venting this is selfish. I know it's a distorted perception but if I lost that perception I would lose who I am because it'd be losing what I believe. Please, what do I do?

God, I'm so stupid. Nobody's going to care about the ramblings of a teenage girl. I'm probably just overreacting. I'm not desperate or anything, really. Here I go again, being selfish and asking for help with my little drama before the people with serious problems.

Just ignore me. Look, I'm even seeking attention by saying 'I don't want help' when I genuinely do!!!

Agh, brain, stop talking already! You're just having a late-night breakdown because you're immature n' all that.

edit a loooong time later: hi folks. i completely forgot this thing existed until i got a reply notification. just wanted to say that i still feel this way sometimes. more than sometimes. but it's better, and i recover more quickly.

a big chunk of my self-hate turned out to be gender dysphoria. i'm a guy now; i'm out to most people and i've begun hormone replacement therapy. it took me a long time to get here and there's a long way to go, but i can actually imagine a future where i'm comfortable and secure in my own skin now. so if your self-hating talk contains a lot of stuff about being ugly/monstrous and feeling disgusted with your gender maybe do a little questioning? who knows, there might be something there.

but for everybody else, another huge part of me feeling better came from being open about my feelings. it's kind of the most awful mortifying thing in the world to talk to someone you love about hating yourself, but it can get you out of that mental space. also by talking about your feelings you are admitting they are worth talking about. and (if whoever you talk to is a decent person they will confirm this) your pain is an actual thing that you don't deserve and isn't shameful. i know, shocker. and hey, telling somebody how you feel can be really uncomfortable, but at least if you turn out to be queer like me it's practice for coming out lol

[noaheasingwood]

I can't stop hating myself. :'(

[angelsrosena]

I hate my life so much that almost every day I curse myself.

[rowanarmit]

i will stop hating myself when i achieve my goals.

[Fulgrim]

I think for me it’s gotten to the point I can’t even stand to look at myself in the mirror.

[pubbles]

This video really calmed me down, I feel really bad about comparing myself to people and I feel bad about my weight and how clothes fit me. I want to feel comfident about my looks but it's hard when I see everyone around me being legitimately half my size

[linnahlskog]

I only saw the first 2 min and realise i hate myself in every moment and will always do and the video cant change how i feel ..

[aoafruit]

I hate myself because I feel like everyone else does when they probably don't. I never get invited to things with my friends, when I see photos of them together I cry because I feel so lonely

[stonewalljackson]

I hate myself because I allowed my own self to be taken
away. The person I believe I could have been. A allowed that person to be taken
away. I didn’t show the courage to stop this. I didn’t realize the consequences
to be paid later in life. I don’t mind what I brought upon myself, but the person
I thought I could have been would enhance those around me lives so much. So
today they deal with a broken person and I can never forgive myself for doing
that to them.

[MissSkittlezRawr]

The facts are that society taught me that cellulite and stretch marks are bad and now I hate myself :( They're not "just thoughts" if I can see it in the mirror

[nikolaangelov]

I generally feel like I'm a boring person that is uncapable of making jokes or stuff like that. And I know it is a thought. Now my question is: should I believe this thought? On one hand I shouldn't, because it doesn't do anything good for me. But on the other hand, I think I should, because I have many experiences that prove that I am, in general, boring.