Narcissists Who Are Sexual Manipulators

A distinct way to discern if a person has strong narcissistic tendencies is to observe how they engage with others sexually. Dr. Les Carter describes how narcissists are so full of themselves that their exploitative tendencies are on full display when they wish to connect romantically or just physically.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[tionnatiara]

The coercive sex is what broke me. He wouldn’t take no for an answer. He made me feel like my body wasn’t my own. Like it was his and he was just lending it to me. Like he was entitled to it whenever and wherever. It altered me in the deepest way. Thankfully I’m out and I’m slowly reclaiming my sexuality.

[istateyourname]

I think empaths are seeking emotional connection whereas narcissists pursue only physical gratification.

[sanjmalik]

Everything with the narc is superficial. Emotional or physical. Life with them is just a lonely existence

[lisajohnson]

This is so true. Sex is never about connection with a narcissist. It’s always either a weapon or a tool for manipulation.

[izawaniek]

Thank you for raising this delicate and extremely important topic especially in those abusive narcisistic relationships. There is no intimacy or emotional connection with those people. They feel entitled to exploit and abuse their partners sexually, there is no heart connection - there is no deep meaning in a sexual connection with those people, they do not think about the future at all. All you feel is exploitation and humiliation. Thank you again dr Carter.

[marcfilion]

The only friend a narcissist has is the person they see in a mirror.Avoid them like the plague.

[charliebubbles]

If we just listen to them, they will tell us all we need to know about their true selves.

[kaddylady]

The sex just stops one day, and then they turn it around and say its you that doesn't want sex (even if you've been begging for it and theyve been denying you of it for Years). They can make you feel like you are no longer worthy of sex, that no one would want you, and blame you for not wanting it. Its really confusing and abusive.

[lifewithabria]

My ex malignant narc boyfriend kept files of women he'd "conquered" in his Google Drive. I also learned he'd secretly video women and send thise videos to coworkers and "friends". I literally felt I was with a psychopath when I found it. It was a shrine. Thank everything I got away and started my healing journey. Now, I'm with a beautiful man who is loving and kind and now we share children and a good, healthy relationship. You couldn't pay me millions of dollars to go back

[jennyblankenship]

My narc ex once told me “if I say no to him then this relationship will not work!” We were on vacation together. Then he went and cheated on me while we were still on vacation. These are evil evil people with zero regard for anyone except themselves.

[amandaliverpool]

This happened in my long ago marriage. Just when I thought I'd gotten somewhere with all the talking and have 'reconnected', I discovered that it was all a con for him to get what he wanted with a total disregard!

[WakeyWakey]

Thank you for addressing this topic today, Dr C. My narcissistic husband's sexual behaviour reflects that of the maturity level of a 12 year old boy, by his words, needs, actions and attitude. There is zero emotional depth. So sad 😢

[tamagotchi]

I'll rather be loyal to one without sex than live with a cheater who always has "reasons" for his deceptive and self-servicing agendas.. The covet ones are worst

[lisab]

One thing I learned is that the narc treatment I get magically disappears when he wants a little “some-some”. The silent treatment ends quicker or the charm is turned on. Does he think I don’t see through it? 🤮

[grandmaatthefarm]

My narc spouse told me that sex and marriage had nothing to do with each other! He also withheld sex, told me I could "ask" if I wanted it, and then would tell me NO. He would treat me like garbage when he WANTED sex....and would only treat me half-way decent AFTER I gave in to him. Talk about HELL. By the Way, I left him and filed for divorce on May 18, and he died of an aneurysm on June 19. My head is still spinning from it all, but at least I am free.

[theladyamalthea]

I finally learned that there was supposed to be an emotional connection between us, and I learned about grooming. I was 15 when he started grooming me; he was 21. I was 16 when we started dating, and he pushed my sexual boundaries almost immediately. The sexual abuse has been, by far, the worst abuse I experienced at his hands, with the deepest consequences. I never want another man to touch me again.

[HandsofGlory]

I was with a covert narcissist where I was sexually assaulted several times. He was a liar, abusive and a cheater. He also tried to take my life by strangulation on Nov 20, 2022

[Cherubim]

This is so true. I've worshipped at the alter of a narcissist and it has all but broken me. He demands perverted acts, and believes it to be his right. He has also said it makes him feel dominant over me. It's made me feel cheap and worthless. These videos are slowly helping me to try and recover from all this. If I'd not come across this channel I would have continued to think I was totally to blame why he had no feelings for me. They are evil people.

[angelacahill]

It was because of this issue that I started wondering if it was possible for human beings to walk the planet with no soul within. Like just animated meatsuits walking around.

[miker]

They completely ignore the character and decency of others with no regrets. They are truly in it for themselves and themselves only