Highly sensitive people and narcissism

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[mahwish_syed_designs]

“Thieves don’t steal from empty houses.” The highly sensitive person’s good intentions are the treasure these narcissists want to steal for themselves. Good intentions are what they lack. Thank you for giving us our voice back, Dr. Ramani!❤️

[shiny]

Narcissism:Arrogance, rudeness, selfishness, lies, materialism, hypocrisy. They always regard highly sensitive, naive, kind and sincere people as fools but actually they're fools. Very informative topic, thank you Dr. Ramani❤

[kristalynnmertz]

My Mom called me "too sensitive" my whole life. Finally, one day I replied, "you know, I would much rather be sensitive than be INSENSITIVE like you, Mom." Being sensitive is absolutely a good thing because it makes us connect to others. Narcissistic people PREY on us, though. We ARE victims of these awful people. We are kind to a fault, BETTER to a fault, and lovely.

[miriamneumann]

I'm an HSP and I grew up with a narcissistic father and an emotionally immature and highly insecure mother. I can't put into words the pain I had to go through to get out of this and start living my own life. So much physical and emotional pain, brainfog, depression, anxiety. I don't wish this to anyone... I really have a hard time trusting people and I have been scared of true love and people being nice to me. I just never know if they really mean it. I have been denied my needs and my reality all my life. No more :-) Now I am free! Sending big hugs to all who are also suffering (often in silence)...

[ZinniasandAsters]

I spent so long asking myself, “What is wrong with me? Why do I notice and feel things that everyone else seems to miss? Why am I so emotional? Why can’t I just go about my life like everyone else?” Until my counsellor looked at me and brought the term of HSP to my attention. And it was like a whole new world opened up for me!! I started to understand myself better and be a little kinder to myself. A total game changer.

That being said, thanks for mentioning HSP’s!

And to my fellow HSP’s that have been in the company of a narcissist and devastatingly affected by them, I’m sending you a big hug and a lot of strength.

[Stukkeman]

“Exploited, mocked, shamed, invalidated”…
Welcome to the world of empathic/sensitive people…
Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏼

[mindysmith]

I'm an HSP with CPTSD. I feel I was more easily traumatized, but my emotional depth of processing has also helped me heal.

[testmice]

I’m a HSP married to a narcissist. He gaslit me so badly one day that I went mad and he threatened to have me sectioned. All throughout this time he remained completely cool and detached. I can’t afford therapy and have no friends or family who I can talk to. However, your videos are immensely helpful and so are the comments. Thank you Dr. Ramani and everyone here.

[thebasementupstairs]

I have many of the traits of a “HSP”. I could tell from our first meeting that my narcissistic partner lacked self-love, and I foolishly thought I could teach him how to love himself. I saw the red flags as opportunities 😵‍💫 as it turns out, I needed to learn self-love too, but independently.

[woundedwarrior]

My mother was a highly sensitive people. A very wonderful lady with great character who cared for others because her mother never cared for her and was always putting her down. I couldn't have asked for a more wonderful mother. God blessed me.

[aynilaa]

100% agree. I’m an HSP and to me, growing up in a narcissistic family was so draining and challenging.

[agotahorvath]

I am a HSP and I find the lack of empathy in narcs or anyone for that matter repulsive . It doesn't take long before the lack of empathy and self serving behavior rears its ugly head . I think once you are educated on narcissism and know their playbook, it is no longer a bewildering ride . Being a HSP can make one a highly sophisticated narc detector .

[annikamin]

Please note, everyone, that these risk factors do not mean it’s the highly sensitive person’s fault or that there is something wrong with them/us for getting caught up with an abusive person. Abusive people should be reprimanded for taking advantage of someone’s kind and empathetic and humanistic traits.

[kristenturner]

I love that you delve into these very specific topics concerning narcissism. Your insight is priceless!
HSP's tend to be very self reflective while narcissists react with anger and denial to shift any negative evaluations away from themselves.

[sugrbmb]

I'm HSP and my last relationship was with a narcissist and it nearly killed me. It was the worst thing I ever went through and it took me a long time to forgive myself for not realizing sooner/leaving sooner/standing up for myself sooner.. I just kept repeating that cycle and blaming myself, im too sensitive/bad anxiety/depression/whatever.. I finally left simply to save what was left of myself before it was too late. These relationships can be so insidious, you don't even know its happening until you're too far gone. It's truly awful.

[thyallseeingeye]

My mother always said in a belittling/disrespective voice that I’m just “too sensitive“ and my whenever I had an issue as a child I went to my father and his answer was usually “it’s all in your head“. I never went to them for anything emotional. You could imagine what this would have done to an HSP over time.

[julieadeshane]

So very very true. As an Empath, as someone who has always been told “you’re to sensitive, your to emotional” I didn’t see any red flags of my narcissistic ex. I was completely unaware of what a narcissist was, and now looking back I see every single red flag and I am so thankful for your video’s!!! Oh my gosh!!! The countless times he called me “crazy”!! You hit the nail on the head!!!

[floxendoodle]

I’ve read that children can become “stuck or frozen” in a developmental stage in which trauma occurred. For me, I always had tears and separation anxiety as a toddler and school-age child (even through college). The narrative that my narc parent perpetuated is that I was “weak and too sensitive.” In hindsight, I believe that I simply did not move (as most children do) through the separation anxiety phase and into the next, more secure phase because of trauma. I’m not an expert, but I feel that a child who is already traumatized will certainly look “more sensitive” to the outside world and will have trouble coping with everyday life situations.

[leslielane]

I hate cruelty. My birth family always laughed at me when I would upset at seeing a living creature hurt. I remember seeing lobsters at the grocery store - they were alive on a big pile of ice with pegs in their claws. I started to cry about the lobsters and their pain. My mom made fun of me for being upset. I was 8. I eventually learned to hide my feelings because I did not want to be ridiculed.
Now at 66 my life philosophy has evolved to be kind whenever possible, fight back when you have to and never celebrate pain. Even if the other person is a total douchbag I don’t have to be one.

[stephaniemorvant]

I am a self-professed HSP. I was completely traumatized by my 15 y/o daughter’s relationship with a narcissist. Being highly attuned to non-verbal communication I KNEW something was off about him. And as my outgoing, self-confident, fun-loving daughter began to spiral downward... I absorbed all the emotions she was feeling even though she refused to talk about them. HSP are like emotional sponges... we don’t just sense other people’s emotions... we experience them. My daughter became very anxious, depressed, and withdrawn. I was so distressed by her change in behavior that my hair started falling out (had all the tests done... diagnosed with “stress.”). Anyways, after a year he finally discarded her. It’s been months but she has finally bounced back. Praise God! Never have I prayed so hard to have someone removed from our lives.