Proof narcissists KNOW their behavior is unacceptable

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[blaquecinderella]

"They are CHOOSING to treat you badly, because they believe they can". There's no truer statement 👌🏾

[thegodblogger]

The fact that narcs present different faces to different people means they always know what they're doing and saying

[xsunflowerx]

The craziest thing about all the abuse, invalidation and criticism is that the next day they act as if nothing had happened. And you're just left thinking WTF, did I dream all of that?

EDIT:
I am overwhelmed by all the responses. On the one hand, I am astonished at and feel sorry for the amount of people going through the same thing, but on the other hand, I am touched by the sense of community and all the support. Whatever your experience with a narcissist may be, remember that you are NOT alone. We got this! ❤️

[myrawest]

My ex would get furious at me when I told him I had turned to family members for support. He was cheating, lying and physically and verbally abusive. And all he cared about was that me telling a family member what he'd done, made him look bad. He didn't care he was abusive, he just didn't want anyone to know

[Simon]

The thing that upsets me about covert narcs is how they secretly hurt people. I would LOVE for them to be exposed

[betterlatethannever]

When I told my narcissist wife during a counseling session I was leaving her she folded completely.
For about 60 seconds she admitted to stealing from me, cheating, lying, and refusing to work when she could have.
She listed things I'd forgotten.
She said she'd never do them again and begged me to forgive her.
She knew exactly what she had done but always denied.
Of course they know what they're doing.

[ryankerwinpo]

That's exactly what I realized: If they can pretend with others in public, then they ARE aware of their sick behavior. That what they're doing is just plain demonic.

[Hafhafnhaf]

I learned.. of all places, don't go alone into a car with a narcissist or toxic person. It's like being locked in closet with them.

[lisamr]

I think this question is raised due to the fact that we (the punching bags) are genuinely kind and could never imagine treating another human in that manner. That we can't imagine how people could behave like that towards us especially if we didn't do anything wrong. It does throw us for a loop. I thought this many times over the years that I was in my family circle. I left years ago and feel much better. Thanks again Dr. Ramani!

[treyichabod]

We already know they know. They just don't care.
AND they convince themselves that they have the RIGHT to act that way.

[acquaify]

1. They defend their behaviour

2. Their timing is selective, they don’t abuse you in front of other people ( unless the people are enablers like family )

3. If you treated them the exact same way they treated you, they would react like you insulted them and that it was a major injustice

[reinapaloma]

I’m an empath and I’m married to a Narc and this channel has offered me so much my words cannot express my gratitude. It’s so freeing

[MsMichelle]

They absolutely do. I cannot describe the feeling of horror reading the kind, empathetic and loving messages he was sending to a female ‘friend’. I’m his wife and the mother of his children and trying to get a single kind word out of him is impossible. The fact that he was able and willing to give it to someone else was enraging beyond description. He denies that it was an emotional affair but he’s been running to her to have his ego stroked and to support her for the entirety of our relationship. She thinks he’s the sweetest man in the world. She doesn’t know him.

[amiblack]

When my mother was in the hospital for over a month awaiting diagnosis, treatment and then in rehab for recovery from the rare spinal disorder she had, she was a completely different person. She was pleasant, warm, and expressed gratitude to those around her. My entire life I told myself she was mentally ill to justify/explain her behaviors to myself...it wasn't until then that I realized that a person who can turn it on and off at will isn't mentally ill. They choose it, they can control it. I saw it for what it was: evil. Once she went back home she was her old self again and the first mean, abusive thing she did to me was the last one because I cut ties with her and never looked back. Life has been easier, more peaceful, sweeter and exponentially better. Sure I finally grieved for the mother I wished I had, forgave her and moved on with my life.

[Walls]

They can edit themselves, and can select their behaviour depending on their surroundings. They can chose who to abuse and who not to. Well done, another great video.

[aynilaa]

They know exactly what they're doing. They are cruel at home and the most charming person in front of others. And wearing that mask exhausts them, so they lash out at you even more.

[SteveAndCamilla]

Yep, it sure is fun to be a doormat child in a family with these kinds of evil dynamics. Nobody outside of that house ever catches whiff of the NPD horrors occurring behind closed doors. It is a special kind of gaslighting to do this Jekyl and Hide transformation with one's children who have no chance in hell of ever getting a mere ounce of validation from extended family or through a random and honest reality check. Narcissists are mean!

[transitionsnc]

"Your form of supply is to be their punching bag." Thank you Dr. Ramani. This one sentence hit home for a variety of reasons.

[emmanuellavarsamidou-brown]

My father lost his mind when I publicly spoke out about his narcissistic abuse. Bank statements and text messages do not lie. I don't care what enabler family I lose because you can not argue with the truth.

[DanteVelasquez]

They absolutely know, they just think they are entitled to behave that way and don't care.