Dealing with rejection

0:00 – Introduction
2:10 – #1: Recognizing its inevitability
5:37 – #2: Considering the source
6:14 – .....when people don't understand us
7:35 – .....when people do understand us
8:57 – #3: Bettering ourselves
10:50 – #4: Authenticity & integrity
13:33 – .....confronting our mortality
15:23 – #5: Finding our spiritual family
17:16 – .....waiting for a sign from one of our kind
18:32 – .....deepening our consciousness
20:51 – #6: Forgiving & moving on
21:38 – .....the selfishness of forgiveness
22:53 – .....forgiveness & self-defense
24:09 – .....letting go of self-importance
26:37 – Summary of 6 strategies
28:14 – Take care of your soul

[smokefeet]

hell yeah!! Thank you brother i appreciate your work and wisdom! This another classic video, your a huge inspiration thanks again man 👏💚

[benjamindover]

Avoiding rejection has cost me a lot of opportunities. I'm finally learning that.

[HAllegraLansing]

An important perspective in our ‘Swipe Left / Swipe Right’ culture. Thank you for recommending I watch this!

[heartburn]

I chased a chipmunk out of my garden today. It didn't appear to feel rejected at all; it went to the neighbor's garden, which is bigger and better. Are chipmunks smarter than us? Good video.

[mjbates]

I really appreciate your lecture today, it came at a really important time in my life. I received an email from my father two days ago about how disappointed he was in me and it broke my heart. I know that I stand in my truth and I stand for what I believe. My beliefs have upset him and caused him heartache and by causing him heartache that has led me to feel so sad. Thank you so much for the wisdom and helping me balance my truth versus what other peoples expectations in life are.

[joshtheegotist]

"A hot blast of wind" I am impressed. I got blasted with a hot blast of wind not 2 hours ago. Well played sir ;)

[Ayesha_]

Really appreciate your clarity and articulation. Thank you. There is so much that becomes straightforward with these videos and are forever a fuel for my mind and soul, igniting something within or nourishing something that's already there but needed warmth.

[gracefitzgerald]

The passion that you radiate when you’re talking about the worst case scenario on your death bed is palpable. Like I always say, you are not just a teacher, you are also a poet. The Audio Slave lyric comes to Mind. ‘Show me How to Live.” You help so much. Thank you, there’s many of us who need to hear your wise words.

[cristianvonb.]

Doc, these is my second comment, but i really wanna to thank you. I listend the video twice, ot was that good for me. I ve just experienced rejection from a close one, and this video was liberating. Thank you, god bless you and keep doing this nice job.

[mjbates]

Your lecture made me cry, you are so right! I love this so much, I posted it on social media

[LikeRYTP]

Dear Professor Dodson,
I cannot thank you enough for all your videos and lectures on philosophy that you have posted on Youtube, they are one of the most accurate and truly profound sources of information on many philosophers' views and their systems of thought. And I also fell in love with your videos concerning suicide, depression, etc. I found them to be quite inspiring and useful when I was struggling with my life's darkest moments. And I do believe that all the work you have done here, on Youtube, has been of great help to lots of people, and I hope that you continue to be making your videos and be an inspirational teacher.
In this video you did mention that the topic of rejection was proposed by a viewer. And so I wondered if I could propose mine :) A friend of mine gave me a book "Oblivion: Stories" by David Foster Wallace as a birthday gift. I had never heard of this author before, however, having read this book, I felt as if this book's stories directly addressed issues that you usually cover in your videos, such as entertainment, commodity culture and authentic existence (a good example of the latter would be a story called ''Good Old Neon"). And after watching some interviews with David Wallace it seemed to me that he was indeed concerned with these issues. And he is also considered to be a member of 'New Sincerity' movement in fiction. All in all, I was wondering if you read some of David's works or other examples of 'New Sincerity' movement and could make a video with your thoughts on this phenomenon with regard to (post?-)post-modern human condition.
Thank you kindly.

[SteveJones]

Excellent! Just what I needed. Thank you

[hncjkhj]

Wow couldn't have come up at a better time for me. ❤️ One of the realest videos I ever seen. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[MysteryProductsLtd]

Like other people who commented here this is so perfectly timed for me and aligns with my own process, which had involved feeling hurt about recent rejections, then starting to get more perspective on it and being able to look at it more like one might hold a dodecahedron in one's hand and turn t around and look at all of its facets, some of which mirror one's own expectations and some facets which reflect the expectations of others', and also the actual living dynamics of those things and how they are constantly at work in life. Thanks for another enjoyable video.

[dlloydy]

Authenticity & integrity are a common thread through all of your material. I love it.
Having experienced a close call coming up 10 years ago, the biggest & then scariest thing was, a massive reminder of the things I didn’t do or didn’t say & the idea I may never get to. In that moment I promised myself & said to the universe, in my case, please give me another chance and I’ll do it differently. Momento Mori says so much to me in how I live. You hit the nail on the head again sir…it’s like you’re speaking to me every single video! 💥

[irenehigginbotham]

Thank you. So very helpful in acceptance of rejection and using it to advantage to change.

[lcastjr]

The rejection could be a negative perception related to self-esteem or the existence of a rejection. It all depends on the circumstance. The person who feels rejected constantly undervalues himself, which leads him to perfectionist attitudes in an attempt to seek validation from others, but the more one seeks perfection and consequently, the feeling of inefficiency and failure increases. Thank you, Dr. Eric Dodson for this amazing video!

[wendymarciano]

I found this very informative, I wish I could have heard this as a youngster, but it’s never too late to learn. I found your presentation engaging and comfortable. Thank you 🙏

[unusualpond]

Hole in one Dr D! This came just on deadline, as I was about to hand in an inauthentic response to an assignment on identity and culture (ouch). Thank you for the insight and inspiration. Off to the pro shop bar with you. Lemonade is on me!

[PalePinkThink]

Great video, and greater timing! I have been thinking about this issue for a while now