The REAL Way to Overcome Rejection

Rejection can affect us profoundly, even when it’s from someone who isn’t right for us.

So how do we safeguard ourselves from this? By truly knowing what we want in love: reciprocity! And NOT getting caught up in chasing approval from someone who doesn’t want us back.

When you’re truly connected to what matters to you, you can keep moving forward and not get stuck on the wrong people.

#MatthewHussey #Shorts #DatingAdvice #Rejection

[Nika-jezd]

"Anyone who does not think I am their person - is not my person".

[joeyjo]

They are not my person!! Repeat after me NOT MY PERSON!! Thank you so much Matt!

[TheHighVibrationStation]

Anyone who does not think I am THEIR person is not MY person, Freaking genius, Etching this into my mind now.

[Buffalo-march]

Respect is more important than love. If the person does not respect you as a person, it does not matter how much you love them, they are NOT the one.

[BaeSe-mmtx]

That's so true. And in theory it should be easy. But in reality I find it difficult.

[musiccapsule]

Its true. The behaviour of a person matters its not of the physical appearance and also the instant attraction because it doesn’t matter

[catboxcleaner]

Play this each morning to start our day and head out with a solid feeling and a steady mindset of what matters.

[viiiRA_]

Vehemently agreeing with that first part! When you realise or remember their behaviour is not what you want, it's so much easier to get over them.

[annaalm]

I got so much confidence and certainty through your videos, that's insane :) I now see my past relationship through different eyes. And I appreciate so much more when people are consistent, not playing games, etc. ENDLESS THANKS TO YOU MATTHEW!

[tiffanythreadgill]

Amazing. Love the strength and confidence.

[shibanimmanohar]

This is so true.. makes dating and life in general way easy.
Be it career, relationship this attitude is the best..

[lanaivanovic]

😆🙏 Thank you. You are saving people's hearts!

[nicolegilzene]

Very very true thank you for that thank you so much

[phoebesmith]

The second reason I am single is because I find no one interesting. The first one is because their behavior is not just not interesting but problematic.

Pretty much any guy single over 30 in the United States right now is probably fucked up. Too many guys think porn is anything like real life, are addicted, and think that a woman’s value is strictly in what her body looks like.

[Krishnalondon]

When I listen to you ..feels like you have slapped me hard. The truth is painful and especially when you shout at us. 😢

[lindahamilton]

I so often agree with Matthew. And I love the message if I’m not his person then he’s not mine. What I don’t agree with this time is his attitude of it’s not interesting then. Oh well. That may work for a first or second date. But lots of times in a relationship that’s quality. There’s space of weeks or even months where you don’t feel interested in a lot of what the other person says or does. That does not mean, you should just turn away and walk away. What it does mean, is, there’s an issue within you that may mean you have to walk away or it may mean you have to reconnect. I think he’s simplified it too much.

[jordanharrison]

That's really easy sounding when it comes from an attractive person.

If you have access to all the food you will ever want, in all types and flavors. Then you probably wont be too upset if you drop a chicken nugget. Or a filet mignon.

BUT, if you are starving, and your ration of food is one chicken nugget a year, you're going to be REALLY bothered by dropping it on the ground. And you'll probably pick it up and try to wipe the dirt off it the best you can and eat it anyways. Because you know, that even tho it isn't your favorite, and it isn't very good, it's all you're going to get.

Average men, are invisible to average women. So yeah if we finally get one to respond, or notice us at all, its very hard to take the stance "oh well".

It's essentially the law of diminishing marginal utility. When you have 99 yesses for dates and 1 no, that rejection isn't going to be a big deal. But when you get 99 noes, and the one person who said yes, wants to be gone, it can be really really easy to want to do whatever you can to preserve it, even if it's covered in dirt.

[ScribblyDoodle]

My brain understands but my heart refuses to believe it 😭 💔

[petralesjak]

Thank you, Trough selfworth seeking And finding incouraging the lover self of me yoy😉

[amdjoy]

But after - taking the healthy route - and going through a zillion wrong persons, you tend to just accept that person for a while longer. Sure you know they are toxic and totally wrong for you…but how many trials and one human have. It’s seems like this World is running on toxicity! What can we do, but loose hope. We know…we all know, we just settle because the years are rolling by and toxic personas are gaining popularity.