Why do good men always suffer? #podcast #sadiakhan

Chris Williamson asked Sadia Khan "Why do the good guys always suffer?"

[rkumar]

"willingness to walk away"

100% truth

[nunkito]

I set boundaries with a woman and she accused me of being a control freak . I was dealing with a master manipulator.

[peterharrell]

Its better to be feared than loved if you cannot be both.

[Jackc]

Maybe, but the root of the problem is women dear Sadie. The old saying : If you want to know the truth about a person, give them power, and see what they do with it.

[swappedoutZ]

Imagine wanting your way, but hating the guy who lets you have your way, and falling for the guy who tells you no without a 2nd thought. These creatures are BACKWARDS

[Tomas-fztl]

Makes sense. When having weak boundaries, not being able to make decisions, its not only women that will not respect you but also other men. So its not really only a " i cant get women " problem but more a general problem a "nice" guy will face also in other parts of his life.

[mangalisopepper]

Being a "Good Man" is different from being a "nice man", essentially being nice is to be agreeable and pleasing which eliminates people trusting your decision making, because you always agree to everything to please others. So Please be a Good Man and Do Great things you'll be more attractive. TRUST ME I know what I'm talking because I've lived both lives

[IphigeniaAtAulis]

Mind you, she left off the part where if you set a boundary with a woman and you're not a 10 in the looks department, with rock hard abs, and money, then you don't have boundaries and are simply demanding a little respect; nope, you're a misogynist.

I have my doubts as to many women being able to view objective reality.

[jboogie]

I’m glad she said this. Too often people blame the quality of being nice as the problem but it was never the problem. The problem has always been the lack of boundaries. You can be nice while simultaneously enforcing strict boundaries.

[Bromarrr]

Glad she brought up the behavior. I just ended a relationship with someone because I wasn’t okay with her red flag behaviors. After realizing I would need to change that person I realized it would be a losing battle.

[labandonaldhock]

Smart men always call an escort, you know what the cost is. The most honest exchange you will ever have in your life.

[Defathomize]

And most women don't understand a boundary can be a punch to the face, which can easily become a lethal situation.

[monalong]

A lot of high maintenance woman get played by a player like a Violin and when they tire of them they toss them making them even more toxic.
Good guy comes along and she makes him her punching bag.

[ooloongjohnson]

I like how we're being told to walk away like it's supposed to be relationship advice.

When walking away there is no relationship left.

[hwillis]

This is the best advice for men I’ve ever seen.

[t.m]

Some people just want to be in a loving relationship and provide anything they can for their partner.
If there's something that is bothering you, like your partner 'having weak boundaries' then you just need to suck it up and discuss it with your partner.
Communication is important. Be respectful and understanding of where the other party is coming from

[bobbie]

It all comes down to agreeableness. You can be both nice and establish a healthy boundary. The right one will adhere to that if you both were compatible in the first place.

[arctic]

Red flags gentlemen. Don't ignore them. Ignore the person waving them.

[RockaByeYT]

Being selfless is by all means not a bad quality. But you gotta learn when to stand up for yourself when it comes to it. A partnership must always abide by balance and not dominance.

[Slim_Charles]

What she’s describing more or less isn’t being “nice;” it’s being a pushover. Unfortunately, too many men are taught that part of being in a relationship is putting up with a woman’s shit. While that element is semi-present in any close relationship, that only reinforces the need for clear, firm boundaries, and enforcement of those boundaries. Use a calm tone and respectful words, but be clear and firm and leave no room for interpretation. If your partner does not respect what you’ve said, make them not your partner anymore. If you don’t respect you, no one will.