Jordan Peterson : How to Stop being the Nice Guy

Jordan Peterson speech about stop caring and how to improve your life.

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[Kay-zvmk]

Most nice people aren't actually nice. They're just afraid of conflict.

[claudiamanta]

It’s pure art to know when to be agreeable and when to tell someone to fuck off.

[davidpaiement]

This man is an absolute legend on earth, may he live a great life doing what he loves!

[morganoliveira]

My parents fight every single f*cking day, since I was born. I am 21 now and they still do it. That made me extremely agreeable since I hated screams and violence, but recently I realized that's making my life harder. It's hard to take decisions for myself, and also to convey my thoughts to others, specially my girlfriend, since she's also agreeable. She wants me to take the initiative on things and also take the lead on decisions, but then I also end up wanting her to do so cause of that agreeableness.

I also quit college 4 times, only to end up wanting to try again.
I'm a man, but I don't act like one, and that's not cause I don't want to, I'm just not used to do it. Conflicts were bad when I was young, and I just wanted a way to not suffer.
I'm trying my best, Dr. Peterson's videos are clearing my mind and making me think more deeply about me.

[johnwalker-hqkj]

Sitting at work crying trying to be a better man. Thinking about all my failures and how I left so much go without a fight. For the rest of my life I will no longer hold my tongue or be reserved. I have to be free and if you’re enduring something like this, you’re a god in a human body! Not only can we do it, we can succeed 💙. I wish greatness to everyone who pursuits it.

[darkpredator]

“Dont hit the other kids with a firetruck many more than necessary. I love it

[TheBgBadWolf]

my mentor taught me BE KIND BE GENEROUS, but be solid when you need to be, and never take disrespect form any man or woman

[madrigaldevelopment]

I feel called out and let me tell you, it's refreshing! It pinpointed exactly why I've struggled. I try to be too agreeable and that often means putting people's needs before my own. I'm not doing that anymore in 2023. This is the year I look out for myself and become the person I've always wanted to be. I understand what I need to do now.

[SuperThunderPanda]

this is absolutely true. Ive always been the good guy but recently i was with rude people that were using me and had to evolve and standup for myself to survive. Avoiding conflict is really only useful short-term like with people you probably wont meet again but if they will be there for a longer time its only making it worse, you HAVE to face the problem, running from it wont solve it

[matto.]

At almost 50 this is me… I have spent my work life in professional service position… I make a very good living, but holy cow… building consensus, agreeing with people, not causing conflict, keeping everyone happy, not being able to be me or say what I think, etc… it’s draining.

[Niam_Haru]

Unfortunately, the moment that kicked me into not being a “nice guy” was when I turned against the majority of humanity because of how poorly I am treated even though I’m more caring and pleasant than most others ^-^’ I guess I got here a bit too late for my own good, I hope others find this quicker than I did.

[gregoriomonteleone]

I'm 21 and i see a lot of myself in what he says and I know he's right. The solutions he gave to highly agreeable people and disordered people came up to my head a lot of times, but I just can't manage to be consistent in those exercise and that's because I'm also a very undisciplined person, and I think that this combo of defects are the worst because they keep me in a circle where I try to change and then just give up on it.
It's sad man because deep down I know I'm wasting my life...

Edit: I’m currently 22 and i think i changed a lot from when i wrote this comment,
I’m more self confident and more productive and focused on everything i do.
I wanted to thank everyone for the support, this is the good side of youtube and i hope it will never change, thanks everyone and keep going, the answer is right in front of you you just have to believe in yourself❤.

[ariesSee]

The 1st few sentence hits me, i admit that's me, i was taken advantage on and now I'm put myself 1st, not in a selfish way, and it change my life to better

[jeffms]

This guy is just brilliant! A gift from God to all of us!! We're just so damn lucky to be alive at the same time.

[Ard-mhacha-abu]

This man changed my way of thinking when I was in a truly dark place and I’ll always be grateful to JP for that. A truly gifted, wise and kind man. I wish him a long and happy life.

[jeffmiller]

I cannot get over how simple this sounds, but how difficult it can be to put into practice! Mr. Peterson is an amazingly insightful person!

[FlorianWerfel]

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[leviseul]

Damn this video hit much harder for me, I did fall behind a long time ago and never really recovered, became unsocial, always felt like I did not belong anywhere, now Jordan Peterson told me exactly how I got in this position, the mistakes my parents did that led me down this path. Now I know what I must do as a parent in the future so my kid wont fall on the same path as me, which was one of my biggest fears.

[SuperUndying]

A bucket list item for me is to attend on of Dr. Petersen's lectures. I am always enthralled by his enthusiasm for and command of the subject matter.

[conquerjonesofficial]

This is a blessing to watch. I often stress myself out trying to mind what i say to others. When i didnt care about anything but telling the truth i felt better about myself even though people would always say i offended them.