Why do some Narcissists treat you so badly when you become sick or need some emotional connection

Why do some Narcissists treat you so badly when you become sick or need some emotional connection.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[NinthJewel]

You can never rely on a narcissist when you are sick. They don’t care and they leave you to suffer . They are actual demons. I hope they reap EVERYTHING they sow

[limitedtime]

I didn't realize my family was narcissistic until i was bedridden with illness and almost died twice. While i was healthy i could overlook the red flags but it was life and death when i was sick

[rosewanda]

100 percent! Even near death my Covid was a inconvenience… But when he got that 💩 the whole world 🌎 had to stop to take care of him.. And you guessed right. I nursed 🩺him back to health ( clapping cheeks and all) all 14 day’s only to be ghosted when he felt better!! So glad I left my narc. I feel awesome. You’ve really helped me.

[jenniferhendricks]

...my ex narc told me to "go home and that hurt me to the bone.

[dyoung]

💯🗣! I had a stroke in the middle of the night while I was working out of state on business. Had to learn to walk & talk again. The flight was only an hour away. He never came, told his family that I’d told him that I didn’t want to be bothered. He also said he didn’t wanna risk raising my blood pressure since I didn’t want him around. I asked how in the world could I say that when I couldn’t even talk🤷🏽‍♀️?

[NikMc]

Thank you for finally explaining this. I literally dread any kind of sickness because of the emotional punishment that comes along with it.

[Canaday]

One of countless situations that’s stands out the most is when My 9 year old son was going through appendicitis attack and I took him to the ER as of course that day The malignant narcissist I divorced wasn’t around as always and wasn’t going to let anyone inconvenience him, even his own severely ill child get in the way of his life planned for himself.
He choose to take himself out all day drinking on his boat. Not caring or concerned his own child was so sick leaving it up to me to deal as always with all responsibilities.
He reluctantly and finally bothered to show up and grace us with his presence after I told him over and over how critical the situation was as he wasn’t bothering to call to check on him.

He made a point of raging on, berating, and shaming my son telling him how inconvenienced he was having to show up, how dare he interrupt and ruin his fun day, accusing him of faking, that it was going to cost him money ( which insurance was paying all of it)being examined in the ER, and almost forced him to leave the ER .

My son had emergency appendectomy surgery that day
And of course on cue the narc chameleon shapeshifted into his false mask academy award performance for family, friends, any audience ..as the convincing lead character role of the unconditional loving, empathetic, involved, caring dad.

This was the pattern and theme of all situations involving any crisis, sickness, times where any support, comfort, help, care, concern, follow through with actions after his mask was taken off behind closed doers .

He always made the situations worse through his rage abusive tantrums, neglect, and abandonments always leaving everything up to me to deal with.

[erindeblois]

One hundred percent accurate. I've been through this, and been through the trauma it inflicts. It's not funny. If you are with somebody who acts this way do yourself a favor and get out. Or at the very least know and accept that the person you're with will never fully be WITH you. Seriously though - just get out. Save yourself the stress. It's not worth sacrificing your needs for somebody who constantly makes you feel like a villian or a babysitter.

[Lacaza]

Yep I sustained a traumatic brain injury they ghosted me after 5 years 😮

[faeriegothmother]

My ex put on a hospital gown and blanket when I was hospitalized giving birth. He acted the entire time like he needed help. To the point that the nurse mistook him for a new mom. The way he sulked around trying to get attention was unreal. He was fully healthy!! He refused to help me AT ALL, even had the audacity to ask me to get up and get him a glass of water within hours after giving birth! I had just had my first afterbirth pee assisted, and he wanted me to serve him!

[ryrynoel]

This hits the nail — years ago I was in a car accident and my narc ex had zero response and never even asked if I was ok. A friend of mine happened to call me when I was back home in front of him (the friend naturally was shouting stuff like omg that’s terrifying, are you sure you’re ok) and my ex just laughed and was actually annoyed and snapped at me, “looks like someone’s giving you the sympathy you want so much. I felt so ashamed in the moment.
Thanks for your videos, I don’t like ruminating on the past, but it really helps with closure and growth ❤

[Dialogos]

This is especially true when it comes to mental health, which usually is an ongoing lifelong thing

[PrettyTSmith]

Very TRUE! Went in preterm labor at 5 months pregnant with twins he left me there at the hospital saying he had to go get some money. I had my kids alone and they passed away a few hours later. He was TRASH!

[Ginabina]

I am so happy you brought this up!! It is 100% true!!! My narcissist doesn't like when I show "weakness" but everything is weakness to her...being sick in bed and can't even move for 5 days the the cvd, weakness becasue I was crying tears of joy about something....weakness because I am diagnosed with GAD, and might be dealing with heightened anxiety in a moment...yet hubby is military, we live near no fam, married 25 years, we've had 4 littles, 3 severe medical things happen with pregnancies, illnesses im sure a lot of us have gotten tested and positive for lol, 2 Littles on the spectrum, 1 born way too early, hubby is gone a lot for the military and there would be MONTHS I would do it all alone. And our last 3 aren't even 22 mths apart from each other.. and this lady trying to tell me im weak.🤦🏻‍♀️ thats some horse poopies !!!! Lol thanks I needed that little "pep talk" lol!
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[suzanneschannel]

I think it is even more than the fact that they have limited emotional energy for others or that they don’t want to be inconvenienced. The narc thinks of others as objects/possessions that they get pleasure from, but are there to serve THEIR needs. Like a TV set. If your TV set breaks? You get pissed, you get annoyed! You don’t cuddle and give sympathy to the TV set! To the narc? They have as much love for you as they would for their TV set.

[jeffshannon]

Dude you are so correct I have had narcissistic people in my life for thirty years and you are so right! Rock on dude keep up the great videos

[shansmith]

I could be just sick body ache first thing he says is what’s wrong now. Most times I’m saying to myself I’m sick cause of you.

[lisayerry]

Yeah… I was in horrible pain with kidney stones… the Narc said “ I’ll take you to the hospital “
24 hours later the Narc is no call no show. When we next talked they said “ oh I didn’t think you were really sick”

[surlif]

True, true, true! This is the first time I have seen this subject discussed.

[Joyful_Mom_]

I think my Aunt is a narc. I was in really bad shape after having my baby and she came to the hospital to see me and all she talked about how she didn’t even need pain medication after her c section. She said felt like she could go home immediately. She acted like she was like the perfect c section patient. There I was on morphine, swelled up feeling awful and she never once asked me if I was ok. Just talked about herself and it had been 30 years since she had a baby smh.