Why are some narcissists so cold and heartless when they are discarding you?

Why are some narcissists so cold and heartless when they are discarding you?

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[mikalblack]

When l got discarded a few months ago l came across a spiritual post on YouTube that said "I removed them out of your life because they wanted to hurt you" and l took heed to that message, there's NO going back after l seen that. THANK YOU

[ticktockthebo]

Thank you. It’s so difficult not to take it personally. We have to remember that it’s a character flaw within themselves, not you.

[cathy_clarinet]

Most often there is someone in the background. They pick these senseless arguments so they can detach from you, run to the other supply and tell them how terrible you are. Like Lee said, use the fight they create to justify leaving you

[smushbrain]

Pretty sure it’s because the more pain they can cause, the more satisfying it is. A feeling they thrive on

[mypov]

Just remember, their pattern will repeat. Their next "love interest" will go thru the same thing as you. I am proud that remained true to myself and this triggered her to go from loving me to discarding me within one conversation....obviously there was not true love. I had to work on letting go over a period of time and had to learn about "love bombing", narcissism, and other toxic behavior which caused some personal growth and I am better for it. Part of me hopes she will change her ways but I do realize the odds are not very good.

[leeboriack]

Sometimes rejection is God’s protection.

[Zoeyyvette]

The discard sucked. He was so cold and mean to me and unfortunately I went through that discard about 5 times lol the 6th time I decided to not fight it or try to prove my love to him because I knew he didn’t care. It’s been 2 years now. I’m so glad I finally came to my senses and chose me. Healing was not easy, it hurt physically and I didn’t think I would ever get over him but I did.

[leeboriack]

The narcissist feels empowered by being able to discard, in their eyes you are less than and disposable.

[ageves]

When your nervous system is synced to these creature messes when they snap, it's murder to emotionally unsync, detach, and shut down. Absolute, murder on your soul. And hell to repair. Still repairing, keep healing everybody. ❤️

[alex]

"I told you what you wanted to hear."

[stars]

“i don’t know what to tell you, believe whatever you want” *blank stare*

[tranquility]

Then they wonder why someone wants to punch them so hard in the nose, that their nose ends up inside their skull.

[Emma-wggk]

They go cold, distant, and dismissive when you set a boundary or if you ask for clarification about inconsistencies that start to emerge in the relationship. In my experience, they tried to attack me for the boundary I put in place, as it's far easier than being accountable for the poor behaviour I had addressed. They treat you unlovingly because they don't have the capacity to reciprocate love shown to them. They only know how to project.. so if you're loving, they're "loving" too. But if you express that you're unhappy, they have nothing positve in front of them to mirror. So the mask falls and you're left viewing the monster inside. They retreat into the darkness and you're left wondering what just happened. Do yourself a favour and count that rejection as a blessing. They will regret their behaviour but only the consequence of losing a light they could once mirror.. not because their behaviour hurt you. Remember, any "love" you ever feel coming from them, is your reflection they are mirroring back to you. It has always been you.. so carry on and share your love with someone who is capable of reciprocating that love. Peace x

[applesidertea]

Mine performed the discard on our anniversary weekend which fell on Valentine’s Day, during my vacation week, a week that preceded my board exams. He LITERALLY timed it to inflict the most pain possible. I told myself that a person who feels joy from doing such a thing is internally miserable.

[bobhope]

Because they need a reaction from you to "justify" them leaving.
Also, they don't care about you. No emotional empathy.

[teaze]

I'm going through this right now I'm having bad dreams, always crying everyday not eating, going through the love withdrawal and trauma bond at the same time..I needed this video so bad ...thank uuuu

[drea]

That moment I was experiencing the discard was one of the most painful moments of my life. He even said he never loved me -- it's almost like all the narcissists read from the same playbook.
Thank you Lee, you are helping a lot of people understand and process what they have gone through. God bless you, sir.

[djmandyland]

My ex told me once he specifically wanted to hurt me and treat me badly so that it would push me away. He literally said "I know it's fucked up but... it's true 🤷‍♀️" I was seriously stunned that a human being could do that to another human especially when they claimed to love them. Almost one month healing now and never looking back. The final discard was a tough one.

[mosmos]

I didn’t even get an explanation. Nothing. No closure. No conversation. I’m sure this conversation is what would’ve happened if he would’ve said anything at all.

[joinaletyere]

He was heartless all the time, since the beginning to the end