8 Signs Someone Is Using You

Have you ever had a sneaking suspicion that someone might be trying to get the upper hand? Do you only hear from that one friend of yours only when they need something? Feeling used by someone else can be seen in all aspects of our lives, and it can harm your self-esteem and mental health. Maybe it’s a friend in your life that you only hear from when they need something. Or a supervisor that pushes you to stay that extra hour. Perhaps it’s even a controlling partner that insists you buy them that new makeup kit they’ve been eyeing. Have you ever had a sneaking suspicion that someone might be trying to exploit and manipulate you or get the upper hand? If so, we've made this video for you to help you identify the signs someone is using you.

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Writer: Michael Ritchie
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Naphia
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

[Psychgo]

Have you ever had a sneaking suspicion that someone might be trying to get the upper hand?

[christce]

8 signs:

1. They are only there if they need something
2. They don’t follow through promises
3. They make you watch what you say (use fear to control)
4. They always assume you’re paying
5. They’re only nice if they need you
6. Your loved one are worried
7. They never say thank you
8. You begin to dislike them

Note: relationship should be two way streets!

[briansaiditsoitmustbetrue]

When you "Toughen up" with people...The FIRST people to get offended are the ones who have USED YOU.

[CatEyedGoddess]

Sign #9 You feel used.
Sign#10 It’s a one side relationship
Sign#11 You are watching this video

[theoneandonly]

When one person does all the giving, and the other does all the taking, that's the only sign you need.

[MrJoon]

The worst feeling the world is knowing you've been used and lied to.

[Basil.eus]

Being used by a person you love is psychological abuse, and it hurts so much. But remember that you're not alone and it will pass.

[jillwylie]

There is nothing worse than someone who you thought loved you but use you instead.

[Bubbleb]

One thing I have observed over the years is If you are a "people pleaser, " the USERS will recognize this characteristic in you and try to take advantage of it. These "USERS" can be your friends, relatives, schoolmates, coworkers, etc... Pleasing other people can be very exhausting. I get so sick of it when certain people only call you because they need something from you. Otherwise they would never bother you at all. Over the years I have learned to say "NO." Of course there needs to be a balance. I think the key is distinguishing the difference between USERS and people that you can trust.

[moniquesilcott]

The type of people who won't take no for an answer and still try to persuade you. Annoys me so much

[vivian_liao]

1- they're only there when they need help
2- they don't follow through on promises
3- they make you watch what you say
4- they always assume you are paying
5- they're only nice when they need to be
6- your loved ones are worried
7- they never say thank you
8- you begin to dislike them

[astrokits]

Empaths and HSPs need this guide, we give people way too many chances :/

[sri-xnhb]

Hello to all the beautiful people randomly scrolling through the comment section

[JB-zqtg]

Every friendship I have. There’s such thing as being too nice, don’t be me, don’t fall into the trap.

2 years later (2023) update: People still suck, pick your friends wisely 😅

[DancingColoursArt]

When you're watching this only so that you don't ever use someone intentionally or unintentionally...
Because you know how much of an impact it can have on someone

[jamesbrent]

If there's a "plus side" to the pandemic it is how the social distancing has the side effect of weeding users out of one's life.

[akki]

Summary

0:56 they are only there if they need something
1:32 they don't follow through promises
1:57 they make you watch what you say
2:34 they always assume that you are paying
2:56 they are only nice when they needed you
3:26 your loved ones are worried
3:59 they never say thank you
4:31 you begin to dislike them

[Triena]

True points in your video. Some people will pretend to care about you, but get angry at the least little thing you say or do, to control you and the relationship with their anger and manipulation games.

[phantomblaze]

In my opinion, when it comes to dealing with manipulative or generally toxic people, the absolute best thing you could possibly do is be absolutely shameless with what you say or do. Don't fear what they might think of whatever you say. When I was being manipulated, I decided to completely disregard their opinion and broke the friendship.


Don't take whatever I say seriously tho. This is just what worked for me

[asifurrahman]

For this kinds of friend, I hardly make friendship with anyone. I have only 2 best friends and bunch of frienemies